Do men marry for love and women marry for either love or stability?

[Anonymous]

Men generally avoid marriage if they are not totally sure about their girls. After a certain age and if they are properly secure in terms of finance they already can get sex from other sources if they only want that. So most men I have seen or known married women for either deep love or they get along very well and the girls provide them emotional support.

Whereas I have seen so many women married to guys just for stability, even if they are not gold diggers, they marry someone they don't love or are even attracted to as those guys are financially well off. That's unfair to those guys and those guys will not know before marriage as those women act that they are actually interested in those guys till marriage.

[Anonymous]

No but a lot of people today marry because they’re afraid to be single and end up alone. They want that ring on their finger, the house with a white picket fence, 2 kods, 2 cars and a dog. They want people to view them as successful and winners in life, and think by living the life society deems ideal will make people think good things about them AND that they will be happy once they’ve achieved this. So many just grab the first person they can to not end up alone.

[Asker]

That means stability, not love

[katestar]

Oh. I get it now.

[Jamie05rhs]

I've seen a lot of people like that. I often wonder if they are truly happy. They're the types that post family photos on Facebook a lot. I think a lot of it is just a facade. They're always "smiling," but it seems fake to me. (They are often fake people in general, anyway.)

[katestar]

Sometimes men aren't sure about marriage. But women do marry for love. Not for money.

[Asker]

I am not saying they don't but a lot of them do marry for stability but they don't love the guy.

[katestar]

True that. I can't argue with you

[Heolurt]

Men marry because they feel "love" and women marry because they found a man of status or money, or a guy who provides in one way or another.

[LazerBean]

People marry for all kinds of reasons.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. Statements like that are not helping your cause.

But thank you for your honesty.

[LazerBean]

What cause?

[Jamie05rhs]

@LazerBean Defending the institution of Marriage.

[LazerBean]

If some people become police officers for the wrong reason, does that mean the police department is bad?

If some people become doctors for the wrong reason, does that mean the medical institution is bad?

Same concept. When it's done right, it's great. But bad people will always try to take advantage of a good thing.

[Jamie05rhs]

"If some people become police officers for the wrong reason, does that mean the police department is bad?"

Um, YES!! That is PRECISELY what makes a bad police department!

"If some people become doctors for the wrong reason, does that mean the medical institution is bad?"

YES!!! The one they're working at!!!

[LazerBean]

So you think the entire police force and the entire medical institution is bad?

[LazerBean]

And if you ever are in a situation where most people would seek medical or police help, you would not?

[Jamie05rhs]

"So you think the entire police force and the entire medical institution is bad?"

Did I say that? No; I did not.

[LazerBean]

Let me clarify that I am not saying one police department, and one hospital. I am saying every Police department and every medical institution as a whole, since we are comparing them to the institute of marriage as a whole.

[LazerBean]

If your answer is now different, it's simply because you did not understand my first question.

[Jamie05rhs]

No; I'm not comparing police and medical to marriage. You're the one who introduced that analogy.

[LazerBean]

And you did not object to it when you thought your answer refuted my stance. Do you object to it now?

[Jamie05rhs]

I objected to it all along, and still do.
But I'll play along if you really want me to.

[LazerBean]

Pretty easy for you to say that now, why didn't you say before? But I guess my apologies, I didn't mean to word rape you. In the future I will ask for consent every time, since you won't communicate your objections without being directly asked. Or even better, since you are the one commenting on my opinion and bring up a subject different from the question subject, I'll go ahead and let you make your case as to why my opinion posted on this question and your initial reply is relevant to the topic of whether or not the marriage institution itself has value. If you consent, of course.

[LazerBean]

After you explain why you object to the comparison.

[Jamie05rhs]

@LazerBean You are a character. Lol

[LazerBean]

😇😇

[katestar]

I agree with you