So a friend of her ( a man) gave a reply comment and told her: Nooo... happiness is something subjective it goes inside of you, that in one side, on the other hand if you chose the right partner (that also conveys its happiness) then it is done. I tell you this because before getting married to my partner, I used to see a lot of failed marriages or mid fighting, in my parents, in some uncles and cousins, so I meditate and I end up thinking living with someone do not work. That is how against all odds I m here at 42 years of marriage, no boring routines, no fights, we argue the normal. My 2 children are well married. We do not force them to marry, it was their own decision and we respect what they chose. Now instead of 2 kids we have 4". He anwswered that to the lady in response of the article she posted, who praise being single for the rest of her life.
This lady reply to that guy was: "Well I tried three times already and I prefered being single for much and do not want to get involve ever in my life". This lady in my post has a view that
Well, I cannot judge her. I am the same way. I never dated at all and suffered trauma. At the end of the day, she is entitled to that, and while it does matter her intent. If you're happy by yourself, people will draw attention to it anyway to make single or celibate people feel bad about their choices. As long as she isn't screwing every man on the block or who pays attention to her, people need to leave her alone. While some people do find good people, not everybody is as fortunate. Sometimes you come into this world hated because you have different beliefs and spirit. People are easily jealous and envious because you have something they lack. She's hurt, and sadly she is sending a message so many refuse to listen to you. LOVE others! Cherish the innocence and PURITY in your lives instead of taken advantage of other people. She is broken as a person because of other people. Not because of what she just did to herself. If the world stop shaming people who are virgins, wants to serve God, and love in purity, we wouldn't be having so many people feeling peer pressured into meeting unrealistic standards.
Everybody's life is not the same yet people are so quick to judge without understanding. Nobody knows my life but figures that a man is going to fix my life. WRONG. I leave that to Jesus, not a worldly man. Even the bible says that single while hard, marriage is HARDER. It is NOT for everybody. Some people were much happier before getting married, and some may do better together with a person than alone. Everybody has their own unique gifts. Don't judge unrighteously. Anybody who has a problem with my celibacy and singleness has a problem with themselves. I'm not perfect, I have trauma, but I have the right and the choice to stay single if I desire to. But all I warn people is stop creating a toxic cycle blaming the one single if all they ever had in life is PAIN and SUFFERING yet nobody wants the baggage.
Im also single but im not obsessed praising that I am over social media. like this chick does. Im not shout it to the rooftop I am singel to the public on social medai very foten
"And then people ask me why I chose to be single" Well, I say the same thing. The cons outweigh the pros. Unless you find somebody who truly loves you, 90% of people are screwed up. Leaving more people born into this world to nearly come out unscathed. Unless she truly has a desire to be with somebody which sounds like she doesn't at all right now, anybody can promise anything. But unless their like God and Jesus, meaning, they are a man of God being Godly, actions speak louder than words. But not everybody is willing to risk unnecessary that you can blatantly see is not working. Most people don't wait for marriage anymore. Love anymore. Want to hold a marriage anymore. Where is the standard? So don't disrespect her. That can easily have been you. If she bothers you so much, block her content. Period. Otherwise, your just part of the problem. She's suffering. She needs Jesus more than a relationship. And healing. How can she be in a relationship if she isn't stable? Talk about a lack of morals and common sense with people. Rather use, abuse, and be selfish instead of letting her do what she knows is the right thing. In the end, she isn't really saying she isn't miserable or unhappy per se. But that whether she is or not, that dating is not a wise decision if she is already messed up. We all have problems, but how many are like me and be single because it's the right thing to do? Not all men or women are bad. But too many people do bad things and don't know what to do or desire to change. What logical and rational reason should she be dating that she cannot get for herself while single? I find it strange that it's always people supposedly paired up or not virgins that seems to have an issue with this than those who know why they're single. Sounds like envy to me and want to live their lives through me. Live your life. You made your choices as she made hers. She's free to her opinion.
As long as she is not telling others not to date or try to dictate their lives, leave her alone. At any time I'm sure she can date men, but if she doesn't want to, then what is the problem? A relationship sexually is not going to solve your unhappiness if you're already unhappy. Even a marriage speaker and author have said this after over 40 years of marriage. If you're unhappy before you marry, you'll still be unhappy after. Marriage is for happy people, not miserable people. Same with dating. You're responsible for your own happiness. The only people who are threatened by singleness are those who are insecure about themselves because they don't want to be alone. There is nothing wrong with that. But it's what you decide to with that, that matters. I am not using a man like a leech.
Asker, unless you experienced abuse, trauma, etc, you don't know what you may do. A single person who never experienced trauma or had more time to heal is not the same as me who suffered abuse ALL her life and still is. It is not the same. Just like not every rape victim is the same. A rape victim who got help may fare better than somebody who never had the help and the resources to heal.
For me she just want to draw attention and feel important that she is single and had to post it on social media for the entire public to see how she is single. Im also single but I m not broadcasting on scoail media my status like it was some headlines news.
My friend's parents were fivorced as children. My parents always threatened about divorce since my mother's passing and I still have scars and trauma of yelling, fighting, hitting, slapping, waking up pass 2am, 4am, 6am, 8am, 10am, 11am, 1pm, 2pm, 3-7pm, and then 9:30pm then 10, then 11 pm-1 am. You never KNOW when it will start, or how it's going to END. Loud noises from drunkards, and other crazy people. Shooting outside. Police sirens everywhere, fire trucks everywhere. Your asthmatic and you have smokers everywhere. You're sensitive to alcohol smell, you smell like the smokers and the alcohol. Then you're catcalled in the streets. Then you're ostracized by your peers. Everybody does not handle life's trials the same. And some like her and I are very and highly sensitive. There is nothing wrong with us. People just don't appreciate us. Period. People today are highly selfish they'll use anybody. Until a person proves their worth to you and is deserving of your trust as I learned from my friendships for over 15/20 years, they are not in my life. It should teach you to treat others how you also wish to be treated. She is just more vocal about it than you are. But whether she seeks attention or not, only she would know.
"For me she just want to draw attention and feel important that she is single and had to post it on social media for the entire public to see how she is single. Im also single but I m not broadcasting on scoail media my status like it was some headlines news." Well unless you're trying to date her, no offense, it's not for you to judge. She should feel important as all of us should. You're just reading it that way because you're uncomfortable with your singleness. I don't care what others do on that level as long as they aren't attacking people with it. I have to make sure that I do not do the same. If she is posting that, that's because others won't shut up about it with her. Period. I get that way because others try to push me into things I don't want. They think I am like them, and I'm not. As I said, I'm not perfect at it myself. But she may have had her own reasons and it's not because she wants attention. She's bitter. And it's because she got hurt. She needs healing. But how do people expect her to get better if they keep judging her and harassing her as if she doesn't deserve to get better or that she has to do that their way? Only God knows her heart. We don't.
See I told you. Today she posted anotehr thing about why she is single. She commented this in reply to her own comment posted one year ago. Todays comment was and each year "I get worse" but very proud. So this reply was to her own comment one year ago. That post one year ago says:
". Am I a pain in the butt when choosing a partner? No. Im only very selective and smart to invest my time in the right person." Next to this post there was a meme which reads "Life is to short to fall in love with the ordinary". Now dont tell me this lady has some inner issues she needs to resolve. Each day she post something abotu her being single
Why are you so obsessed with this woman? I think all this Obsession for was right there is more to do with you and left to do with her.
You're so blind that you refused to see that she's not talkin about her being single she's talkin about her being hurt. when a person speaks like that it means they're hurt.