Do you think Love is a Choice?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I absolutely believe Love is a Choice.

Conscious or Unconscious, but definitely a choice.

[SomothErgai]

that is absurd. here's a very simple test to prove your own statement true or false. pick anyone in the world. your choice. hell, could even be me. And just "decide" to love them. you can of course simply "say" the words. but you will know in your heart that you don't actually feel it. It doesn't have to be forever. it could just be for 5 seconds. for 5 little tiny seconds try to just... start loving me.

If you're honest you'll quickly see how absurd that is. Now try it the other way around. think about someone you are currently in love with and just, stop loving them. again, just for 5 seconds and then you can go right back to loving them again. You can't, can you? suggesting that love is a choice is the epitome of absurdity.

Love is something that happens to you or doesn't happen to you whether you want it to or not. that's why love can hurt so much. people you should never want anything to do with can find themselves wormed into your heart and then you have no choice but to keep feeling that way about someone you know you should leave.

[RebelinSteel]

No it’s not a choice, it’s something that at times just jumps on us and can be a sudden event that hits you. It’s often thrown around too much but it can sneak up. Love once you have needs looked after, love is a fickle thing

Love is a fickle thing
which trickles like the sand
through the curving hourglass
or through the outstretched hand.
There is a part of love that fades
the burning heat and zeal
the moments that will always pass,
too strong to really feel.
But there remains for longer
beneath the grains of dust
a deeper peace than any
that's born of laughs and lust.
I would not buy a thousand loves
which ended in a minute
For time brings the greatest love of all
and holds the soul within it.
I've known the passions of the heart
when it seemed my smile was fixed
as if I'd drunk some sweet elixir,
of wine and joy all mixed.
But now I hold you as my temple
where I can rest and find release
from everything the day can bring
and all my foolish care will cease.
Love is just our medicine
for every ill we find
and you are my smooth potion,
the healer of my mind.

[StarWarGirl]

Yes love is a choice.

First life make us to meet some persons, harmones and our preference causes attraction and filter them out.

After that it's completely our choice. First we choose the person to whom we want to give love. And we choose to keep loving that person or to stop. That's about giving someone our love.

About getting love, that's that person's choice to choose you to give their love and to keep loving you or not. So it's that person's choice.

And when it coincides, means when that person also make their choice to keep loving you to whom you chose to keep loving, that is where love blooms with it's highest beauty.

[Pinay_ako]

We don’t really choose who to like or love. We can’t help but like or love someone especially if they’re so darn adorable and lovable! That’s why sometimes our love ones see the red flags that we overlook because we like/love that person so much. That’s why it hurts to let them go/when they leave us because we didn’t ask to love/like them! But! We can choose how we want to proceed if you want to move forward with them or leave it at that.

[Finchie40]

Yes it’s a choice , the only way a relationship will last the long haul , is if both people choose each other , and commit to each other , Love grows when you find someone that chooses you the same way you choose them. Making each other your top priority over everyone else in this world. If you can’t do that for your partner , don’t expect them to do that for you.

[AviatorTom]

Yes, but it's not what you think.

Love chooses you, not the other way around. ❤💕💖

[Confucious900]

The heart wants what the heart wants, but love is a realisation of the feelings you get with the person you are inlove with or love. Its a feeling more than its a choice. Its a choice to stay with someone you love but treats you like shit. Its a choice to leave that person when you have had enough even if you still love them. When your heart is between two people and you choose one of them, that is a choice. But love is a feeling the other person gives you. And you can't choose who you love.

[Logan-5]

You can do things to keep love alive--communicate your needs, ask the other about theirs, finally discuss the elephant in the room, express support, tell the other sweet things that you thought didn't need to be said so often. If love is fading, you can definitely lay it on thick to renew it again.

But there's still an element of chance, and of the subconscious, and of just running out of intent. Things that aren't done anymore are taken as a bad sign. Words get misunderstood. Soon both parties think it's dead when that might be the furthest from the truth. Obversely, one may think things are going well, but love never had a chance. You may not realize you're with a narcissist, a sociopath, someone who needs a much larger audience, and all the effort to keep it alive were for naught. In a word, fate.

[imtiaz45]

The nature of love is a complex topic, and opinions vary widely. Some argue that love is a choice, contending that individuals actively decide to commit to and nurture their relationships through acts of kindness, understanding, and support, even during challenging times. From this perspective, choosing to love someone involves ongoing efforts to prioritize their well-being and happiness.

On the other hand, many believe that while individuals can choose how they express love, the feeling of love itself is involuntary and arises spontaneously based on emotions, chemistry, and compatibility. According to this view, love is more of a natural inclination or emotional response rather than a deliberate choice.

Ultimately, the understanding of whether love is a choice may depend on personal beliefs, experiences, and perspectives.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/9238O1IqD4A

[RiseofArtemis]

I don't think that love is a choice. I'm a student and I was looking for a relationship with actualy a good looking girl who you would put at the top range of looks I have one of those in my class that others call a bombshell, but that girl didn't even interest me she's shorter then me by a bit. But I found it in a girl who isn't your typical beauty but exctremely smart and cute, she's super short at just 4 feet 10 or 1.47cm The moment our eyes met I knew that's who I wanted to have.

And behold I we are dating since 2 months to know each other.

[Red_Arrow]

Definitely, though many do not realize that they actually chose it. You meet someone that you think is a great person, you learn more about them, you find you both want the same things in life, and you find you want to share your life with that person. You went through a process and find that all your processing has decided that you love that person.

[Fireguy17]

sure is.
you can choose to let yourself fall in love, or you can move on if things are starting to get too close.
You see posts all the time about people just getting together for sex, but the other person doesn't understand why they other one just moved on.

[Angelo75]

Lust/Passion is not always a choice. Many times it just overwhelms you.

But love itself, well the real definition of true love is to love someone as a whole. Including personality. To get to that point, you have to make a "choice" to commit and get to know the person and then love the personality also.
And you need to commit to continue keeping that love alive, otherwise it dies.

All that being said, I believe Love is a "choice".

[Anonymous]

I didn't always but I think it's entirely a conscious choice. You can love anyone but some people are easy to love. However, I think for most people they don't choose love. I think their body does. The body meaning subconscious. Most people let their emotions decide. That's fine. It's a little dangerous but certainly a balance between the heart and mind is best.

[thatshydork]

I don’t think love is a choice. Who we love is not a decision of our own making.

What we do about it though, that’s a choice we make.

However, just the feeling of love itself and who we love, that’s not a choice.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. It is commitment. Most people go by "feelings" which of course means that as the feelings go up and down so does the alleged love.

[Dongie]

I believe every type of love has variance to the people one loves such as family, friends, performers you know not personally and finally the big one, the opposite sex which is in love. I have come to believe there is actually love not different types of love just different levels. Choice has no part of loving someone. You may encounter situations where you say I wish I loved this guy but you don't. Love has nothing to do as a choice.

[Messiking]

I believe that other things are a choice and love is not. I wouldn't fall in love when I don't feel chemistry between me and a woman, even though I haven't had such a situation. You have to feel something on both sides and it's not really a choice in my opinion.

[scooogy]

I guess if you taste something good by chance, you can choose to taste more of it. For example when I see an attractive woman, I can decide to either get to know her or leave her alone. In my opinion I can do this on multiple occasions no matter how well I know her already. I had that with a woman I intended to get to know until there was a new guy who seemed more interesting for her. I decided to step back and move on.

[DannyUk2017]

Love it is a Choice but Also is A Very High Risk! Is like playing with fire, if you're not careful, you can burn yourself pretty bad! And that is the last thing you want to do, as it can leave "scars" and very nasty ones.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't believe in it being a choice. Not completely. I believe that you can choose to invest time in a person to see if he's right for you. Those feelings, they just come, I wouldn't call choosing to date a person = choosing to love.

[andreasderjuengere]

If Michol Jacksome can be trusted, ''Love'' is rather a condition that makes you squeak and causes convulsions

https://www.youtube.com/embed/LJ7qXHjxj_0

[BCRanger10]

Love is very much a choice. Yes, emotions and attraction have their roles, but love is ultimately something we choose.

[b_lova]

Love is a choice which is first made when you decide to spend time with someone and furthered by the choices you make as you think about that person.