Do you believe love is more of a choice or a feeling?

[HawkPerception]

Choice

Feeling

[adventurous-1]

definitely you feel it, since when do you choose to fall in love, it happens wither you want it to or not. When you saw your future partner for the first time did you say to yourself I choose them to love for the rest of my life. You can and do choose to like or dislike someone but love is a feeling you can't resist or ignore and many times overwhelms you. Choices can be disregarded but feelings are much harder to change.

[on_my_knees]

Why can't it be something I'm brainwashed into believing?
Do you know these simple slave commands?

[provokeesmokee]

At first it's a feeling, but the sustainable love is a choice. Or a combination - a feeling you prioritize and make choices to preserve or deepen.

in my opinion, I've gotten the most out of relationships where both parties give of themselves and make choices to make that feeling of love stronger.

[DishLady]

Feeling. You can feel it towards someone without choosing them….

[Finchie40]

It’s a feeling , then a choice when it comes to relationships

[loveslongnails]

I've met many people who say "you can't choose who you love". I don't believe that. What I DO believe is saying that is an easy justification for making bad decisions and behaving poorly while blaming it on "love". I also believe that attraction plays a huge part in making you "think" you love someone, and that attraction is a feeling. So in my opinion, there's a lot more choice involved in loving someone than people imagine or want to admit.

[strangeatcircleK]

I think it's commitment. Investing time in another person. You could call that choice but it's not just simply choosing a person. It's wanting to be with that person because you both connect in someway. So maybe it's both the choice and the feeling after that. But even then, you can't choose love and you can't base love on just a feeling either

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s both. It’s as much a feeling-choice as choosing to be happy or choosing to be optimistic and hopeful in the face of a not awesome day. You don’t necessarily choose when to stop feeling love though. Just different ways to love someone.

[privateperson]

You need to feel enough of something to want to make a choice. Depending on what you feel, the choice you make either lasts or it doesn't over time as you encounter temptation, difficulty, obstacles, etc. Also compatibility matters quite a bit.

[SugarSugarplum]

Choice. You love who you decide to love. Sure, attraction plays a part up front, but after that it's all choice.

[OfMiceandMen]

Love is the initial feeling that carries through the rest of the relationship, but based on those feelings you make a choice to stay with person.

[DizzyDesii]

I can love someone based off of feeling but i would choose if i want to tell them or be with them despite loving them

[frenchgirl123]

It is a feeling, you can't choose who you fall for, but you can for sure control how to handle it (most of the time anyways).

[Phoenix98]

In my experience it's not really a choice it just kinda happens and you don't really have much say in it. Though you can choose whether to pursue that love or not.

[RavVid]

More of a cross product of both. There is something of a choice to love but also a feeling to love.

[sheenagwapa]

it is always a feeling if it is a choice go to hell

[LiamJHayden]

To me, it is purely a choice to seek the better for the other person. The "feeling" is infatuation, lust, or addiction.

[Massageman]

It's a feeling that you can choose to follow.

[Dongie]

It has to be a feeling. Who would choose to be miserable? Besides, I can feel it.

[Guacamole409]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/FzQBOBoPg04

It's a disease.

[Jessikaah91]

Both, love is a feeling but it's also a choice because you chose to be happy with the one you have feelings for.

[WhitneySnow]

It’s a feeling but acting on it is a choice

[exitseven]

it is definitely not a choice.

[_piotr]

A mixture of both.

[avery58]

A feeling

[Wiredone]

It's absolutely a feeling.