Is Love A Feeling Or A Choice?

Question

Feelings are subconscious and choices are conscious. Love can be either one. What do you think? Is love a choice or Feeling?

MScifiwriter · Accepted Answer

Incorrect, "love" is an emotion, which is a feeling. Choices are something you decided. The question doesn't make much sense, because you are putting two vary different things together. It's like putting an apple and an orange together and asking does the apple taste more like and orange and the orange more like an apple.

They are two different things and can not be compared to each other, other then to say they taste different from each other and their nutritional value varies.

A choice is something you decide whether by emotion/feelings or logic. Where as feelings are just that, feelings/emotion.

Love is one of many different emotions you feel.

Chaz269 · Accepted Answer

The sensations we associate with "love" are the result of chemical reactions in our brains and body. (Feelings)
The behavior associated with those feelings are choices. True love doesn't exist without the choice to foster those feelings, and the choices to nurture those feelings in others, as well as repair damages to loving relationships.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Feeling is the main thing. Choice may or may not be a part of it. If it is then it can happen both before or after feeling.

Example of feeling with little choice: When you fall in love with someone when it's least expected and when the person is of your least preferred yet something keeps you working on it... and acting on it because of the dedication. The actions and the choices are all controlled by the feelings.

Choice before feeling: arranged marriages/dating apps

Choice after feeling: Happens in case of infatuation, then you choose whether or not give in to it.

BrittBratt2416 · Accepted Answer

Pretty sure it's a feeling. Love really isn't a choice, I mean sure you can pick the person but you can't control the heart. Otherwise, if you could really "choose" love, then it wouldn't be real love and also a lot of people who are in love with the wrong person/someone who doesn't love them back would automatically choose to stop loving that person. But that's not how love works, It's just something that spontanously happens.

Bellydancer83 · Accepted Answer

Both. Love is a feeling choice becomes the action of choosing that feeling and running with it. If people say you can control your feelings surely you can control who you love. I'm just trying to say when all them butterfly feelings die, you choose to stay loving someone. I dunno hard to explain.

Bliss-taylor · Answer

It could be both. I've been in positions where I couldn't help my feelings. I didn't want to have feelings. Then I've had a time when I made the choice to let myself love someone. Its still just as strong a feeling. It's most common to make a choice when you have those "walls" up to protect your heart.

Justicki · Answer

To me it's both. You have feelings for that person but you also have to choose that person. Make important above anything. Stay with them after a fight. You don't have to stay with them but you chose too

HP992 · Answer

Love is a feeling, pursuing that feeling is a choice.
And then when you choose to have a relationship, you get more feelings and find more things to love, so you choose to stay together. It's a cycle of feelings and choices.

TheOnlyAriii · Answer

Love is literally a chemical. Your body reacts to "rewards and motivation" activated by the thought or presence of your partner. Doubt you can CHOOSE to activate these responses

Twistboy101 · Answer

Both. Because you choose to love someone or something. But what influences the choice of love is the feeling that you get from that someone or something. So both.

anmari2001 · Answer

They would say its feeling but if you want to sincerely love something, you need to put some thing more than just feelings, love is responsibility

Anonymous · Answer

It’s a choice—yeah, it starts with a feeling, but you make the choice to continue that relationship and keep true to each other, no matter what. That honeymoon period will fade and in order for love to last you have to choose it.

Anonymous · Answer

I think infatuation is a feeling that leads to love if you choose to let it. If you let little things about a person bother you or hold grudges or aren’t willing to compromise then you’re choosing not to love them.

teaforbooks · Answer

It’s initially a feeling or a form of attraction, then you have the choice to build it into love or not.

VegetaSSB · Answer

It is both, but more of a choice, you have the choice to let the feeling flourish or to cut it off straight.

Red-Blaze · Answer

Its a feeling that can come on its own or from a choice to build it

JimRSmith · Answer

I don't think it's a choice. You can't make yourself love somebody, so I'm going with feeling.

ritxi · Answer

Real love: Feeling What most people call love: Choice

JulieXO · Answer

I'd say it's a feeling. I don't know about you but I can't choose who I love.

Carley99 · Answer

Its a feeling you don't choose who you love buy you have the choice to stay.

mojofuf · Answer

I would say choose. You fall for somebody who has some traits that make you happy/exited.
For example, he is smart or pretty or smells good...
It just happends so fast that u may not realize it. Its a choice but somewhat unpredictable :)

LickitySplit67 · Answer

I would have told you different until I felt the pain. Then I knew.

Deathraider · Answer

It's a feeling. That's why I hate it when people think homosexuality is immoral. You can't choose.

CrazyyChick · Answer

You choose to fall in love with someone, and when you do there isn't an easy going back

bladedshard · Answer

Its a feeling. You only choose how to handle the feeling. Otherwise people would "choose" better spouses.

Plumy · Answer

It's def a feeling for me, the best feeling ❤

nina2992 · Answer

You choose the person you want to fall in love with

Shishikarls · Answer

Choice. You never feel that you are inlove with someone without choosing him as the one you love. Same with other types of relationship.

SovietBall · Answer

If it was a choice, life would've been easier

TheNotorious · Answer

Feelings, there is no choice in love

Galen01 · Answer

I don't think you can choose who to love.

lala_ray · Answer

Feeling... you can't control it.

Ripthislife · Answer

A feeling and never a choice

Anonymous · Answer

It's a feeling, you can't help it.

Anonymous · Answer

It is a feeling. We can't choose whom to love.

omgjassy · Answer

A feeling.

Nora_Sutherlin · Answer

Choice.

happyness28 · Answer

Both

Revolver_ · Answer

both

Anonymous · Answer

Feeling

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