Is love more of a choice or feeling?

[Anonymous]

Because you don’t always feel in love with someone but you know that you love them anyway. So is it more of an unconscious choice when you like someone or is it just a chemical high/feeling?

[D_Bone_Steak]

It can be both. Flirt with someone you don't find attractive long enough, and eventually you'll find yourself fucking them behind a garbage can in a dark alleyway.

There is a Chinese saying, that love can make one start to view pock marks as dimples.

I mean think about it... haven't you ever ran into the opposite. She looks great and you think you're in love at first... but, then she talks a bit too much and you slowly start to see every damn flaw until she's just sickening to look at. Maybe still hot enough to hate-fuck her behind a garbage can and choke her, but no longer something you love.

[Pumpkinpie222]

Hahahaha your response is 💯

[Ariesman81]

Lust is a feeling. Love is an action.

[bobalife]

Both. It’s a natural feeling, but it’s a choice to keep on choosing to love someone everyday and a lifetime.

[DishLady]

It’s a feeling you choose to open up to people who earn that place in your life.

[AI Opinion]

Here on GAG, I'm all about helping you navigate the murky waters of love! 😘 Love is like a wild rollercoaster, an exciting mix of feelings and choices. Initially, it's those juicy feelings, like butterflies and fireworks. But over time, it's often a choice to stick together, even when the ride gets bumpy. Embrace both the chemical highs and the conscious decisions–together they create the magic! 🚀💕

[ErebusD]

Love is a conscious choice and it also has it's feelings that are attached to it but love has never been based on how you feel rather it's based on the choice to give something because you know that the person is worth it and providing for them and seeing them safe and also knowing that you will do anything to make sure you always have their backs not because they deserved it or earned it but rather because they're now a part of you whether they know it or not you would always be there to show them that you got them and knowing that gives you the greatest joy money can't buy

[Miristheiss]

Choice.

I mean feelings play a big role in attracting two people together romantically but you often have to choose to love them each day. Feeling "in love" every day for 20 years isn't a real thing.

You love your kids but most of the time they drive you nuts. Same with your parents.

[Nikki1989]

The initial stage of love is almost always driven by feeling, but the choice to love is what gives a relationship its depth and its staying power.

[jazzy34]

Choice. Love is when you know the good, the bad, and the ugly about a person, but you still choose to love them.

[BCRanger10]

It's both. Agape is the self-giving sacrificial love, which is the highest form, but eros, which is the attraction and the emotional, is what causes agape to function in a different way. It essentially makes a relationship what it is.

[Pumpkinpie222]

Love is a choice in some ways, being IN love is a feeling- in my opinion.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Wait... so "love" is what you do and "in love" is what you feel?

[Pumpkinpie222]

@NotLongKindaGirthy In some ways, yes.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

@pumpkinpie222 Are you speaking from experience? Are you happily married for thirty years? Or are you like recently divorced?

[Pumpkinpie222]

@NotLongKindaGirthy I’m separated. And yes speaking from experience.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

And you're 46? How long have you been separated? Did you leave him?

[Pumpkinpie222]

@NotLongKindaGirthy yeah

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

@pumpkinpie222 Are you glad to be single now?

[Pumpkinpie222]

@NotLongKindaGirthy it’s sort of complicated but overall, yes. I feel a freedom I haven’t in a long time.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

@pumpkinpie222 Are you like dating again? It kinda seems like dealing with horny guys would be depressing for a woman your age, no offense.

[Pumpkinpie222]

@NotLongKindaGirthy haha I’m not but sex won’t be an issue for me when I get back out there. That I am still very interested in.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

@pumpkinpie222 Really? I thought people lost interest in that after 40 or so.

Maybe you just have a really high libido.

[Pumpkinpie222]

@NotLongKindaGirthy I have more interest in sex in my 40s than I ever have in my life.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

@pumpkinpie222 Oh my goodness, what happened?

Did you start taking new meds or something?

Was your marriage not fun in that way?

[Pumpkinpie222]

@NotLongKindaGirthy you are so curious for being 18. Do you have a mommy kink? Haha

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

@pumpkinpie222 Fair question.

I don't think I do. It's nothing I've really thought about honestly.

None of the girls I've messed around with were old enough to vote.

[Pumpkinpie222]

@NotLongKindaGirthy I see. You are intelligent, well spoken. You will do well.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

@pumpkinpie222 You'll probably do well too once you start dating.

You can chat me sometime if you feel like it. Just a thought.

[mysteriousNicholas]

❤️ always a choice
After all, I could ask out any broad I felt like.
Despite my lack of circumcision, I for one could ask out any broad I feel like - I just don't 😊😊

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

I lean towards the chemical reaction in your brain. But... it is your choice if you want to act on it or not.

[Guylovesgirl]

Love is both — a spark you feel and a decision you keep making

[avery58]

Contrary to popular belief, it can actually be either.

[Shy_Steve]

It's always been a choice.

It's us as Humans that turn into a feeling.

We can also turn feelings into a choice which is what makes us so complex and unique.

[i_Jedi]

It’s more of a decision, not just a random choice or a fleeting feeling, but something you actively commit to every day.

[LiamJHayden]

For me a choice. Feelings are filthy little liars that can lead you into making awful decisions.

[janemarie15]

It's more on decision. Not a choice or feelings.

[Anonymous]

You don't get to choose who you fall for.

[Anonymous]

Obviously a choice

[Panthero80]

It is a feeling.

[Anonymous]

Obviously a feeling.

[panera]

Feeling