Do you think real love is a feeling or a choice?

[Emmytexrex]

[Genie23]

It's a feeling that we get after someone does or says things or treats us in a way that makes us feel so special, loved and wanted that we eventually fall in love. If it was a choice, I wouldn't have fallen for someone who wasn't worth my time or feelings. I would have protected myself if I had control.

[Emmytexrex]

Yh I get what you are saying but for me I think it's a feeling and a Choice in other to keep or maintain a relationship long-term you look beyond it pass the good and the bad of that person

[Genie23]

That I agree with. I fell in love because that person made me feel good and I thought he has a good heart but I chose to leave when I realised he's not what he pretended to be and I can't take any more hurt and lies and false promises.

[Emmytexrex]

Yh that was a good decision

[hannamontana]

Definitely a choice. Feelings come and go, but real love is about showing up every day, even when it’s not easy. It’s choosing that person again and again — not just when things are good, but also when it’s tough. Feelings might start it, but choice is what keeps it going.

[Emmytexrex]

Yh I can kind of agree with you on that a little

[dynamicyandere]

100% real love endures challenges. Real love is not fickle. Real love can withstand a lot.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is both. Obviously, love is a feeling. But most of us know when that feeling is developing, and we have a window of opportunity in which we can walk away and avoid having those feelings develop further.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Love is the admiration and appreciation of that which brings you joy.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, real love—my favorite topic! 😍 It's truly a dance of both feelings and choices. The initial spark, those butterflies, for sure, are feelings. But as the dance goes on, love becomes a choice. You decide to commit, grow, and navigate through life's wild rollercoaster together. Those choices every day make the feelings even stronger. Want to fall in love forever? Choose each other daily! 💕

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s starts as a chemical reaction in the brain. It persists due to a series of commitments, not a single choice.

[Emmytexrex]

That chemical reaction is rise colored glass or honeymoon phase after that the choice begins that's were that commitment you are taking about comes to play

[Emmytexrex]

*rose

[DishLady]

"Is love a fancy, or a feeling?" (Hartley Coleridge, Sonnet VII)

It's both a feeling AND a choice.

[ohsheeT]

It is a choice a feeling a desire. An emotion a Commitment it is spiritual it is beautiful

[Babygirl_S]

Both because sometimes you feel something like a deep indescribable feeling inside of you when he looks at you with a smile and cuddles. It’s a conscious choice too because no one is perfect and you choose to overlook or forgive him for his flaws and stop expecting otherworldly perfection from him.

[Emmytexrex]

Yh I think it's true

[Miristheiss]

A choice.

An action.

A decision.

People making long term relationship decisions based soley on feelings has been a mess. People make idiotic decisions. People think they should just feel butterflies and in love for decades. They think you pull the plug as soon as I do not feel in love anymore.

[jazzy34]

Both. That’s one reason I don’t believe in love at first sight. To love someone is to know them (the good, the bad, and the ugly) and still choose to love them.

[Emmytexrex]

Lol you just said what is on my mind

[LiamJHayden]

Choice. Feelings can be filthy liars and when the feelings fade the guy or girl might, upon analysis, be a scoundrel. I always push the infatuation to the side and look at her to see if she is, aside from that, worthy of the attention.

[Emmytexrex]

Ok I see

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I am a romantic, so I'll look down on "choices". Because I'm convinced that romantic love is a sentiment asking for no judgement, no purpose, no goal, no interventionism of the self.

Thinking of it like a choice sounds like choosing self-enslavement to me, enslaved by whatever morality and ethics aim for. Enslaved by whatever our tendency to rationalize and moralize has to force on the emotional world within.

[DangerouslyCute]

it's a choice that we want to keep contact with someone we feel we are growing feelings for... we let it happen...

[WhitneySnow]

A feeling, but you choose whether to listen to it

[Emmytexrex]

So it's a feeling but you choose which makes it a choice and a feeling is it what you mean

[WhitneySnow]

Yes.

[exitseven]

It is a feeling but also a set of circumstances.

[Emmytexrex]

So what are you saying set of circumstances?

[exitseven]

It could be long distance or economics or a pandemic or war. Family issues or a fatal disease

[Hoozere]

I think it starts as a feeling of attraction and winds up being a choice because the feelings will come and go. So really in the end, it's a choice.

[Emmytexrex]

Yh same thing I really think so

[Ferngully2000]

💯 it’s a feeling, you can’t force it. For me it happened when I least expected it. It’s exhilarating, if a bit painful. Not everyone gets to experiences it, unless you’re lucky and if it’s mutual even better,

[Caroline91]

I think it's a feeling. But then, staying with it is a choice.

[Nikki1989]

Without the feeling component, it's difficult to imagine what we would call “love.”

[Anonymous]

It's both you choose to work on it all the time because the honeymoon phase is easy but real love is a lot of work at times but it also a feeling of i could never live without this person

[WonderingManII]

I always heard that feelings get it started, but as time goes on the feelings fade, and after that it is a choice.

[Anonymous]

It ALWAYS begins as a choice. But at that point it isn't love either.

[Emmytexrex]

Now you have to explain much better that isn't love either

[Opinion Owner]

When people meet and are first attracted it's just love hormones secreted into your brain that give you those feelings of happiness and closeness to them when it makes no logical sense. This lasts anywhere from a couple weeks to a couple years. This is called "limmerance". As the limmerance if you have not developed bonds with that person I. That time then those two people tend to go thier separate ways.

[Emmytexrex]

Limerence is something else Romantic attraction is something else infatuation is something else they are different things I hope you know don't confuse me

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I think it's pointless to try to explain anything to you. Have a nice day!🙂👍

[anon1903]

Real love is anime with the theme of gag humour

[DrPepper12]

Wavelength of refracted light, olfactory stimuli, symmetry, pheromones, rising temperature, tactile pressure and you think that our reptile brains have a choice? We're cooked from day one!

[Bloodparadise]

Everybody wants someone special in their life

[Massageman]

Every "feeling" results in a choice, so really, it's both.

[NathanDavis]

it can both and so much more...

[Kingofkings1992]

It’s neither. “Real love” is a myth

[Emmytexrex]

And why do you say real love is a myth

[Luopio27]

Love is never a choice, unlike actions!

[serious]

According to me it is always a choice.

[LiaRaven]

Feeling and choice

[Anonymous]

It's a feeling, obviously.

[lyrem04]

Choice and action!

[Elliegirl]

It’s both

[qwerty2469]

It's a choice. Like being gay. It's a gay choice

[happykenny]

It’s a strong feeling

[Skyros]

A bit of both I’d say.

[Pterodon]

Feeling

[Anonymous]

a feeling

[Anonymous]

Choice

[Wise4myage]

Feeling.

[dragoblack]

Both