Love begins with infatuation, which is a very powerful feeling. But true love is something that grows stronger and stronger as you get to know someone very well. Love retains part of that initial infatuation, but it grows stronger as you develop deep regard for and total trust in each other.
During the initial infatuation, people are on their best behavior and think their partners are the most amazingly perfect people who ever lived. There is a honeymoon phase that can diminish after a few months. But it's only when people are together long enough to learn their partner's true nature - their flaws, weaknesses, habits and idiosyncrasies - that they can know if the infatuation can become love. At that point, it takes constant care to keep the flame of love burning; to keep your relationship fresh, healthy and exciting. Infatuation doesn't require any work. Love does. Mistaking infatuation for love is a mistake. But, at the same time, infatuation and love are intertwined.
So I'd say that love begins with a feeling but requires a decision to truly commit to the relationship once two people are together long enough to know each other well.
Disagree. Love is neither a feeling nor a decision. There is a feeling we call love but it's not "love." Love is an action. To LOVE a person is active. You cannot act an emotion. (As my acting teacher teacher constantly told me).
Love is an action. You must decide to continuously act lovingly. True love is wanting and acting on what you believe to be best for a person. It's not simply something you feel about them. You can love a person you dislike, you can love your enemy, you can love a stranger, you can love yourself, you can love your love. The only reason it's possible for love to be applied to everyone is because it is not a feeling that we cannot control but an action that we can choose to make day by day and moment by moment. To make love no more than a feeling is to say love is fleeting for feelings come and go as quickly as the sun in the sky but true love does not die because it is the constant nature of an action and will always exist so long as those actions are being done.
Disagree, I believe that we all, when we meet someone, before we are able to fall in love with them, consciously (or subconsciously) have to mentally put them in the group that we are open to falling in love with. I hope that makes sense. Like, you don't have to be attracted to them at that point or want to date them or fall in love, just categorize them in a group of people with whom you would allow yourself to fall in love if things went that way, you would allow things to go that way. That is why we can't fall in love with just anyone, some people are just not in that group in our mind. So it kinda is a decision in my opinion.
I think is 50/50 because u decide if that person is the right person for u or not. And from that moment on, it’s ur choice to keep investing your feelings and time with that person. 🤷🏻♀️🤔
Love is a feeling. We know this because of the hormonal releases it generates. We also know it is a feeling because explaining why you love someone is technically impossible. You can come up with all sorts of mills and boonery, but the fact is it is a spiritual connection between two paired souls. Some love (not in love) can be instinctive and involuntary. A mother's love for her baby. It is hard wired into her for the survival of the species. Same for a Father and his women and children.
If your partner asks why you love them... chances are you will stick to because he/she does something or the way they do something, or the way they make us feel. Bit we can't explain that feeling. We choose words like "they make me whole", "they complete me" or "we couldn't live without them". Reality is that we are programmed to NOT WANT TO live without them which is why our feelings are so strong.
Fact is... love just is. Why are women complicated to men and vice versa... they just are. Is it hers or his fault? Nope... it's nature and evolution. We love in spite of faults, worts and all. Not because it's morally right, but because we have no choice. Count the times you are angry/upset or just want to kill him (figuratively speaking), but your feelings of love are stronger than any of that.
The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. We cannot choose to be indifferent... we just are. Much as we could lie to ourselves that we are indifferent, the reality is we rarely are. We can't choose to be indifferent and we can't choose to be in love.
If love were a choice we wouldn't fall in love when we know we shouldn't. We also wouldn't be heartbroken, ever. We also wouldn't be subject the the law of reciprocity. We wouldn't have hormonal releases when we do things for our partners (showing love).
I'll just leave this here... try and deny it Ladies and Gents..
Love is mainly a feeling. You can't decide who to love and when, but it also based on decisions, since the only truthful way to show love are actions. And those are your decisions. Sometimes the decision also relies on whether you will try to hold on to someone or just let him go, for your own sake...
Love is definitely more than a feeling. It's a deep personal decisions to let someone into the innermost parts of your heart, and is a decision to choose to do what is best for the person you love. if love were just a feeling, every time we had an argument or were angry, we would not be in love. Love is patient, kind, caring, wanting the best for the other. A feeling is simply a feeling, and not very deep at all.
Agree and disagree. If you are already with someone and you find yourself starting to like someone else, you can always put distance between you and that person. Start spending more time with your partner. In this way, you have a say in who you love. If you are single and you start to develop a crush and you just let it go and see what happens, if you fall in love, while it wasn't really a choice.. you did have the option of not seeing where it went.
I think this one is a tough one. I think you need to allow yourself to let love in. Then, love is definitely a feeling. If you have a lot of walls up though, you can make it difficult for others to love you so it makes it easier for you to not love in return.
You are obviously talking about romantic love and yes it is a feeling a very powerfull emotion and 100 perctent feeling. But most people won't ever get this , most people date and grow to like each other more and become closer friends then one day they decide its time to say I love you , if the other person says back then you both make that descision to be in love. So I think in these days its more peer pressure because your meant to fall in love so its more of a descision in my mind
I can't help falling in love. I had to have an old girlfriend tell me I was on love with the new one. LOL. But once I tell you... it is a responsibility. I owe it to you and myself to actually act like I love you.
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