Is love a choice or a feeling? What is your experience in relationships or a marriage?

[edmonton]

Love is a Choice More than a Feeling. It is falling in love that we tend to base on feeling and use that feeling to determine the duration of a relationship. Falling in love is easy to do, and so is losing that loving feeling are fleeting. Many leave the relationship when it isn't working to their advantage instead of staying and working it out. Not everything is about being happy.

[Kmw3874]

Love for the opposite sex I feel is a choice (or the same sex for that matter). I feel love for a child is a true feeling (for most normal parents I. e. not abuser, molesters, etc) that’s nothing can overcome.

[Jmcmanning]

Love is a feeling, to make a relationship and marriage work is a choice that requires a number of things from both people. Love cannot keep a relationship alive by itself.

[cflr0227]

Love isn't a choice but a relationship is, leaving someone you love is a choice or staying with someone you don't love is a choice but falling in love is uncontrollable

[HaveNoName]

I think it's just a name we give to a feeling of a strong bond that we feel with another person. For me, there is no bigger "feeling of love" than what exists between a normal child and parent. I know I am not explaining this in very impressive literary English, but I hope you got my point.

[Dim1213]

Falling for someone is a feeling loving them is a choice

[MyGenderIsAlien]

Its afeeling. Thats why people love people who are bad for them. You can't force yourself to have feelings for someone you dont like.

[witherwing]

I can't choose to love someone I don't feel it for. For me it's a feeling.

[CandacePerry]

It both I broke up with my ex-bf since he cheated on me and now I am texting a new guy

[ciitruskiwi]

It's a feeling. You can't choose who you fall in love with.

[Lovemycountryboy7778]

Love is a feeling...
You can definitely feel if u are loved or and being loved

[Hurlyburly]

It is a feeling. Things would be way easier if one could choose who to love and who not.

[anxiousanon]

I believe it’s both. Love is choosing to be with each other. Accepting each others flaws, bad days. It’s choosing to be loyal and choosing to put effort into building that relationship. However I also believe that you should feel loved! You shouldn’t always feel like it’s a dreadful chore. You should feel an attraction to them. You should feel the love!

[Pocahontas2000]

I truly believe that love is a CHOICE.
I always get over easily because I know I choose who i love, so next time I choose, I can choose better.

[Nicole_Is_Bored]

I'd say it's more so a feeling than it is a choice.

[GinaTina]

It's a choice to have that feeling... this doesn't make sense

[hasrett]

It's a feeling. There wouldn't be so much 'how do I get over him/her' questions if it was a choice.

[Chaz269]

Love is a series of choices based almost entirely on feelings.

[LegateLanius]

how is it a choice? You can choose to pursue the feeling but ultimately, you can't choose who you fall for.

[Anonymous]

I am going to say it is a choice, because when my ex-wife left me she made a comment that has stuck in my head " I made a choice to have a relationship with you" . I don't think she really ever loved me though.

[Humbledman74006]

Everything has a choice except death. We chose to love, should we desire. Although that love is an expressed feeling.

[outside_Toronto]

It's a feeling; you don't have any choice in the matter

[Anonymous]

I wish it was a choice because love hurts and it's painful.

[pink1980]

I believe it’s a choice. I don’t think everyone is capable of love.

[Juxtapose]

Love is definitely a feeling but you can shape it and if your will is strong, you can eventually move past it or other manipulate that emotion.

It's all about will vs impulse.

[boredom95]

It's a feeling but it's your choice to do anything about it