My friend is overstepping his boundaries what do I do?

[Anonymous]

So I just recently got together with my fiance, he's done a lot for me and my son even taking care of us protecting us in a homeless shelter and I had no clue. My friend who I've known about the same amount of time who I've taken care of along with my younger brother and son is now saying that my relationship doesn't seem right. Doesn't seem like my boyfriend wants to be with me among other things. I feel really bad about it and bad about self doubting my boyfriend. Yet when I told my boyfriend he just shook his head and sighed saying if I snapped and beat him to a pulp the courts wouldn't see it that he had it coming ( my bfs joking if you can't tell).

I mean I understand my friends perspective I've taken care of them while in a shelter and other things like food and the sort. But my boyfriend I know if I give and invest it is equal even if my boyfriend is starting and working in a start up company. But my friend who owes me almost 5k just keeps blowing smoke up my ass and I'm just feeling done with the situation with them. I'm honestly at my wits ends because it's always oh I'll help you with this then he never does it or I'll pay you back then more drama starts.

But now that I'm with my boyfriend, someone that he is intimidated by its like he has issues because I take care of him.

So where do I put those boundaries or is it not worth salvaging?

In my mind I see all this from my friend as a power play tactic to keep me around to use my money (I get disability) while he still hasn't stepped up to help me while my boyfriend is like tell me when and let's go even putting his job on hold for a bit to go get ourselves on a few low-income housing lists.

[Anonymous]

It's really not relevant whether your friend is a good person or a parasite in this. Your allegiance should ALWAYS be to your partner. The world will always try to divide you two and this is your first test.
I have a ladyfriend who a few years married a guy I didn't think much of. I felt she was making a mistake, but I also hoped I was wrong. She just divorced him after he left her a couple months ago. Now she's in a relationship with another guy. I think it's way too early and feel she's doing it out of feelings of abandonment. It's hard to sit back and watch someone you care about make a mistake. But if your a friend you have to tell them the truth and then say you'll always support them. And then accept whatever comes. Because it's their life.
In my opinion you need to tell your friend. You don't have to agree with it. But if you're truly my friend you WILL support my decision.
I don't want to pass judgement on your friend because I don't know him. But the picture you painted certainly does paint him as an opportunist.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure I understand completely, but the bottom line is your friend wants the money to keep coming in? Of course, who doesn't like FREE money! You didn't have to do that AT ALL, so it's has been EXTREMELY nice of you to help him. Especially when you're on a limited income as it is. I actually question his "friendship". If you cut him off completely right now (and suggest doing that), would he still be your friend? If not, he never was your friend and simply using you. But you put up boundaries but doing just that. Be direct. Have a conversation, informing him that some changes are coming, and this is what they are, and it's a matter of fact, and not up for debate. And he is going to respect it, or you're not friends anymore. And this may seem "mean", but it's not. You can still say this nicely, but you have to be direct and firm, and, stand up for yourself. Showing him you mean business, and he can't use your friendship to manipulate you.

[Danny_dan92]

The friendship is over

[In_Trance]

stop being friends