Is 1300-1800 allowance for a SB good?

[Anonymous]

Especially one who still has there V card? And the SD accepts being with me without taking my VCard.

Asking again cause I didn’t get enough responses.

[caring__1]

When selling your body, only you can say what you're willing to get for it, regardless of whether he is allowed to take your virginity or not. This is no different from anyone else selling a product. Generally, people base the price on what they believe they can get for the product. Some overprice and some underprice whatever they are selling, for various reasons. No one but you and your SD know what he is gaining and what that might be worth to him. If this is what he's offering, either this is what he feels he can afford or what he believes it is worth to him. If all you care about is the money, just sell yourself to the highest bidder. Understand that people will expect their moneys worth, so be ready to pay the cost.

[Asker]

Wrong. I’m not selling my body. And all I care about it not the money at all. I want to have some type of relationship with my sponsor I wouldn’t even refer to them as a SD tbh.

They seem nice and genuine and I get along with them well. He isn’t taking my V card at all that’s the point of this post.

I’m asking if reasonable price for someone who isn’t having sex at all at any point. No way would I let a man take my virginity I don’t even think a billion is enough I’m sorry.

[caring__1]

Healthy relationships are not bought and sold. You can have a relationship or you can be paid for services rendered, but never expect both from the same person. I'm not necessarily limiting this to sex. If you expect any payment at all, you are choosing to be hired help. Guys are unlikely to invest true emotions with employees. When they do, it just tends to complicate the arrangement. If you expect a salary, then don't view him as anything other than your employer.

[Asker]

Your right I should not complicate this. But I’m not selling myself. Are you selling yourself when you have an employer?

[caring__1]

Yes, when I was an employee I was paid for services rendered. I was required to work during specific hours and accomplish specific tasks. If I didn't feel the pay was equitable with what was expected of me, I had the option to look for another job elsewhere. Being self-employed, I am no longer in that situation. I can charge whatever I wish or give my services away for free, and I can take or reject any opportunities that come along.

[Asker]

Ew. I’m not selling myself.

[caring__1]

We all sell ourselves in one way or another. Sometimes we expect money, and other times we expect something else. If you produce and market a product, you'll expect something for your creativity, time and effort. Sometimes it can be "I'll share my knowledge in exchange for you sharing your knowledge." Let's say you agree to sell your dog for $100, and then later discover that breed is selling for $1,000, the contract has been made, and you can't change it. This all goes out the window if you make an agreement with a minor. Minors can hold you to an agreement, but you can't legally hold them to an agreement.

Let's say you donate cupcakes you make in your bakery to a non-profit for their fund raiser, under the condition they post your sign advertising your bakery. If the wife of the CEO of the non-profit chooses to post a sign advertising her bakery instead of yours, you can bill the non-profit and expect to be paid for the cupcakes you donated, as they broke the contract.

[caring__1]

Reimbursement for services rendered is a normal part of life, but it can also change the dynamics of any relationship involved in that contract, especially if either feels there is an imbalance. For instance, an insurance contract is considered a contract of adhesion. In a contract of adhesion, one party writes the contract, and the other can only accept or reject it. If there is any aspect of a contract of adhesion that isn't stated specifically, any claim goes in favor of the one who accepted the contract rather than the one who wrote it.

Make sure all conditions are clearly stated in advance, and all agree to them. Unconditional love is rare. I get it from my dogs (at least one of them), and I get it from my son, but I don't expect anyone to give unconditionally. Hopefully, the conditions are in everyone's best interest (ie mutual respect, consideration for thoughts and feelings, etc.). When I'm in a relationship I enjoy giving, but as soon as my giving is treated as an expected entitlement I stop giving more than the other gives.

[Asker]

Okay. Thanks for fleshy I get you’re saying. But he stated she doesn’t want it to be transactional

[caring__1]

You can take what he offers, if you'd like, but don't ask for more; though just by money changing hands any relationship will change. Money tends to be a source of contention in many relationships. Starting a relationship out focused on money will only raise the likelihood of this occurring.

[Asker]

Okay you’re right thank you for you wisdom :)

[Asker]

Your*

[caring__1]

You were correct the first time. You're welcome.