If he didn’t want to come, he wouldn’t have?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been off & on chatting with an old coworker who I’ve known for 11-12 years. He’s 4 years older & I love him like a brother. I stepped out of my small comfort zone & invited him to my best friend’s wedding. I gave him all the reasons to not go “oh if you’re busy, don’t feel comfortable or have your son for the weekend, feel free to say no. No pressure!” He came back without a moments hesitation (granted it was through text, but I didn’t have to wait long) “when & where? I have to check my schedule, but I’d be down!”

He ended up coming & we chatted the night away. I felt bad bc I was at the head table during dinner & all he really knew was my Dad (they were old coworkers before my Dad retired), but a few of my cousins were there & they chatted him up. He’s a fairly confident guy & super chill/friendly, so he wasn’t put off at all! Once the dancing started we stood at the bar & talked. He’d lean against the bar &
sip his drink He bought me a beer & we talked Not sure how many drinks he had, but he brought up that his ex is pregnant & she’s dating his ex best friend. The ex best friend told him in a sh*tty way “oh by way I’m dating your ex & she’s pregnant.” Made me feel bad for him but then he brought it back “up” talking about how great his kid is…which he really is.

My cousins would try to chime in with us & join the conversation & he’d chat with them too, but always be “open” to me. My cousin led me out onto the dance floor for a slow dance & then his wife grabbed my date & then is 2 “cut in” & the 2 of us danced. It was nice, but I was so embarrassed lol

My cousin’s wife made the comment “if he didn’t want to be here, he wouldn’t have come.” My Dad even made the comment “you guys should hang out again, so we can catch up more. We need more than one night.”

He hugged me good bye & said “I’ll see ya Sara.” & we’ve chatted a bit afterwards, but I don’t want to bug him too much.

I’d be open to dating but I don’t necessarily want to ruin our friendship either

[SaartjieJane]

Just ask him out and take a chance, can live with “what ifs” all the time… I get you don’t want to ruin a friendship but eventually you’ll both meet other people and most probably won’t talk that much anymore because he’ll be busy with his life and you, yours. So honestly take a chance and ask him.
If he didn’t want to be there he literally wouldn’t have gone. He could’ve made up any excuse in the world to not go but he didn’t and you would like you had a good time

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you don’t try you will never know & as for your friend you asked & he said yes & if you like him I think you should ask him out again.