I think I've been single for too long?

[Allbran]

My previous relationship lasted 7 years and that was pretty significant for me at the time it was my longest and most prosperous relationship to date and it's been a few years (4-5yrs I think) since then, I think I'm either just comfortable as a single man and where I am in life or I just cbf in general like meeting someone, starting again, drama etc.
Obviously I should or need to workout some things for myself before I get into a relationship again but what are some things I should be looking out for, for myself and a partner good and bad?

Updates

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I meant to put this under Dating but not sure how to edit it

[PrettyPriya]

I moved your question to the “Dating” topic per your update. As for your question, I think you have it right. Focus on yourself and not rush into a relationship.

Heck, if you are happy single, great! That is totally up to you and no need to force a relationship if that is something that might not be best for you right now.

You should always look out for yourself first. You need to be ready for a relationship. If that means you take more time to focus on yourself then that’s what you should do.

That is best for you and a potential partner. If you aren’t mentally ready for it, it won’t be fair to you or your partner. I’d suggest dating casually and really feeling people out when you are ready to do so. It’s okay if you try dating with a few people and find they aren’t for you.

[serious]

There is no time limit for being single, irrespective to whether a person has always been single or if they become single after a relationship ends.

What is important the person should analyze your mistakes, improve on your personality aspects where you think you lacked last time, ensure that you have less flaws and defects in you.

If this takes years to do so then so be it, until then you should be single.

[maximumpower]

no need to marry before 30.
if you think you need to, look around at all the miserable SOBs out there who envy you.
stay single as long as possible and continue to play the field.
if you DO get married, don't do so without a pre-nup. think of it as "equality."

[Guy13]

You are probably just right. 7 years committed. 4 years of recovery and Rest. Women: He obviously loves hard…He makes me laugh. And he’s not coming out of Relationship…. Been down your road

[Guy13]

Start with meetup groups on like hobbies. Their website

[Avicenna]

You need you to decide what you want in a partner before you think about anything else

[Iron_Man]

Find yourself a church girl