I'm 23 and still single?

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23 year old single male and I've never had a girlfriend.

I've been trying to find someone for about 2 years now and I've tried everything (dating apps & cold approach) to find one and I'm not even that ugly, people say I'm about 6-7 out of 10 but still just been extremely unlucky. It hurts so much to see people holding hands, hugging and kissing and I feel so helpless, lonely and empty, it's literally killing me inside. I try not to think about it but that's all I see everywhere outside and I start to feel bitter and depressed again. Everyday is just so damn hard.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

You are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be pro-active and find friends or perhaps a girlfriend. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation (let's say building airplane models), then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety if you have any.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

immediately shut the fuck up.
"23 and still single" sir depending on age of consent (we'll go with the uk's 16) you've "only" been single for 7 years.
Seek therapy for why you tie your worth or happiness to your relationship status. Because if THAT isn't the BIGGEST red flag any woman's ever seen, i don't know what is.

HippoDino · Accepted Answer

Just try and improve your life, stop focusing on dating until you have improved something that you think you lack or accomplish something you have always wanted. Perhaps you could try socializing a bit more as that could be the issue. Also ignore dating coaches those are scams, they dont teach you how to make genuine connections they just want your money. Improving yourself is the best way to find a partner because not only do you have a better life, but more women will want you if you climb up the foodchain so to speak.

Drumlin2001 · Accepted Answer

Keep plugging away. Try different things, speed dating? Or try joining lots of social groups, something like meetup, meet new people and maybe someone will emerge. Dont give it hope, you're still young

Anonymous · Answer

This might be unhelpful but so many people find the love of their life older than 23. When you meet someone, dont get obsessed with the thought of being in a relationship. Focus on the person and wait to see if you even like the girl. Go from there. So many guys try so hard to get a girl just for the sake of it. Take it slow and if you meet someone you actually want to be with and they feel the same way, itll be easy flowing from there.

Monalisa77 · Answer

God this drives me up the wall, im 35 n never even been on a date!!

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I've been called a 10 before, and I still can't find a girlfriend. Its very hard to find a match.

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

Lol, welcome. to the club!

boggboss · Answer

So ehst we asking mate

moviedude714 · Answer

Seems to be coming common in modern times

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