How to be okay with the thought that I'll be single forever?

[Anonymous]

I dated my ex for two years. That was my first ever relationship. When we met each other, I had started my postgraduation while he had started working after he graduated. It was long distance and I was planning to go to his city for my doctorate program the coming year. It was a mutual decision. I completed my postgraduation this year as the highest scorer of my university, I've also passed a competitive exam that'd allow me to teach at any university in my state. However, few days ago we had a conversation about what I wanted from my career and our relationship. Note that he always knew that I wanted to be a researcher and work later. So, as I again mentioned it, he said that he wanted a wife who would stay at home. However he'd be okay if I taught at some local kindergarten school, started a cooking channel on YouTube or became a makeup artist. I said that I couldn't give up on all my dreams or be that dependent on anyone. So, we decided to break up.

However before breaking up he told me that he couldn't believe that for me my career mattered more than all the bliss I could have in my life and that no man would ever want such a career-oriented woman. He further said that I'd regret this decision in my 40s when I'll have lots of money but nobody beside me. I was told the similar thing by another guy before him.

Although I know whatever he said was a reflection of his rage but this idea is haunting me that nobody would like me ever again. I was never approached by much men to begin with and probably this was the only person that ever wanted to be in a relationship with me.

How to deal with these thoughts?

[Anonymous]

The only thing he did wrong is not having that conversation with you sooner. I can relate to him in the sense that I would not want to marry and start a family with a woman who prioritizes career ambitions above family and is okay with paying someone else to raise their children for them 40 hours a week when they are young. But that's a fundamental value that should have been discussed early in the relationship.

On the bright side, there are plenty of men today who are married to women who continue pursuing their careers aspirations even while their children are young. You'll have no trouble finding one if you put in the effort.

[Peridot25]

A real partner would support you and your dreams. Be glad you’re no longer together with him. Let’s say you stayed with him and agreed to give up your dreams, how much would you resent him?
He’s only mad because you saw right through his bullshit. If he wanted a stay at home wife, he can find another woman. However, how he reacted, I hope he never finds anyone else. Because, if he acts like that, imagine how he’ll treat you if you continued the relationship.

[Flower7]

He was wrong to wait so late in relationship to tell you that he doesn’t want someone who’s interested in a career. He knew since you first met that you were pursuing your education. Dating him was such a waste of your time.

[AI Opinion]

Isn't it funny how sometimes people think they're fortune tellers? 🌟 First off, congrats on acing your postgraduation and your career aspirations! 🚀 Your ex’s predictions aren't a crystal ball; he’s using "fear tactics" because he's frustrated. You're not bound to the past or someone else's rules—keep chasing your dreams.

Assuming no one will ever love you again? That sounds more like a "ghost story" than reality, right? Charm comes from confidence and passion, which you have in spades. Being single isn't a curse; it’s a chance to grow and eventually attract someone who's truly your match, goals and all. 💪 Stay true to yourself, and enjoy the journey. The right person will see all those career goals as attractive rather than intimidating. ❤️

[Anonymous]

The only way you'll be single forever is if you stop trying. So if you're not ok being single forever, don't ever stop trying.

[scott04sa22]

You'll find somebody soon

[Anonymous]

buy a dildo or get a pink vibrator