Is this an awful time to be single?

[Bárbara1402]

Guys that are single right now just want to have casual things and don’t want to really date someone and invest their time. From what Im seeing it’s a shitty era to be single. Is this really true? Aren’t guys out there that want a relationship and build something?

[Anonymous]

I may be older so dating has changed since I met my girl 19 years ago. But from watching videos, seeing it IRL, a lot of women these days have made it this way. Not to say that men aren’t responsible in some way as well. I think this new wave of feminism has brainwashed women into thinking they can do everything men can. Telling men we don’t need you. Shaming men for asking them out, especially publicly displaying it on social media. Calling men creeps because he glanced in your direction for a tenth of a second. A lot of women are masculine, which isn’t what men want. Not to mention women have basically turned into men. Saying if men can sleep around we can do it too. So why would the men even try if the goods are being handed out basically for free. Men are seen as “icky” if he brings her flowers on a first date among a lot of other things. A lot of single mom’s are raising these young men these days, which honestly these women have no idea what it’s like to be a man. They’re telling their sons not to do this or do that or be this way, but they’re not telling their sons how they’re supposed to be as far as what a man really is. Which I honestly don’t think they can. So they’re lost. A number of these boys are turning to these social media influencers about what a man should be. I agree w some of it to a degree, but there’s a lot of shit these social media influencers are telling these men what they’re supposed to do, how to act as far as what a man is supposed to be which I don’t agree w. When a boy is raised by a. Single mother he’s usually more emotional, which is what women have complained about a lot. That they want a man who is emotional, who can talk to her while expressing his feelings. Then he does to which they don’t like it cause now they see it as he’s complaining, he’s not even a man, etc, etc. Men pretty much adapt to what women want. And yes there’s a lot of shitty men out there too who are just straight up trash. Believe it or not a lot of men want a relationship. They want marriage. They want kids. But it just seems like the system is against men in a lot of categories.

[dragoblack]

The biggest issue in dating nowadays is the absolute lack of communication, unrealistic & outdated standards, women not working on themselves after a toxic relationship, and lack of the ability to deal with slight inconveniences. I'm personally fine with dating, but i need the one I'm dating to understand that this isn't the 1950s where the economy was stable and men had a major excess of disposable income to be a provider. The economy is crap and the most common thing most can afford is a $50 date at most and that is if there is a second date. first date is coffee and getting to know eachother. Most guys need their date to be able to support themselves financially.

[SueShe]

For me, it is the best time to be single and the fact that men only want casual sexual adventures does not disturb me a bit since I am not interested in dating. I am single and celibate by choice and for me single time is the only time to go, now and for the next 50+ years.

I am not concerned by that fact of society because I would reject any attempt to be hit on for the purpose of getting into my pants. This is an activity that has never interested me and that I can do without.

[Berethor]

You are antisexual? that's why you like being single? do you not feel lonely?

https://lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Antisexual

[SueShe]

@Berethor No. I cannot open your link because my browser security settings and my child protection software will not open sites that are possibly containing deviant sexual visuals or descriptive.

I do certainly not feel lonely as I am concentrating on my education that has top priority and does not leave space for unimportant things like pornography for example.

[Berethor]

@SueShe you can't see a lgbt site? funny, children should be protected from lgbt. :)

[SueShe]

@Berethor Children should be protected from ANY content that is possibly harming them

[Berethor]

@SueShe so you talk about getting into pants yet you need a child protection software?

[SueShe]

@Berethor You know very well since you are a guy that if given the opportunity, most men will want to fornicate with just about any girl and that is what I am referring to in my answer. All I said is that I shall not allow something that perverted.

[Berethor]

@SueShe true, but it don't change the fact that your language is far from innocent.

[SueShe]

@Berethor It is actually because if you read my posts, I never ever use language that is sexual like most people do here. I avoid those terms.

[Berethor]

@SueShe the asker of this question was using a far less sexual language than you.

[SueShe]

@Berethor What is your reason for picking on me? Are you frustrated and need someone to vent?

[Berethor]

@SueShe your answers are always so negative, yet I am the one who is frustrated? :)

[CherryLove007]

What time the cyber times? Life is life and unfair.

Breadcrumbing times too.

Don't fret because most men are boring in these times.

[madhatters4]

i've seen comments like this since i've been on this site (on and off 10+ years) and remember girls saying this when i was in high school, college and early post grad life.

no i dont think now is an awful time to be single. dating is hard. it's not for the faint of heart. when i was single 18 years ago and dating i felt like it was impossibly hard.

i think it's probably wise to spend less time lamenting, which i know can be hard because we do have emotions tied up in our romantic life. instead just understand it's a tough process. know that for every good date, or encounter you may have 5 or more bad dates and encounters.

best of luck. keep your head up. good things will come

[Orion84]

I used to want a relationship, until I had a few.

Then I learned it's much easier, and more peaceful, to just remain single. Dating & marriage just aren't worth it anymore. I have no desire to ever have another relationship. I'll happily remain single for the rest of my life.

[Anonymous]

it is a challenging, shift-driven era. About half of single people are not interested in dating, with many prioritizing independence over commitment. While casual dating is common, committed partners still exist, but they are often found by navigating through a high volume of uncommitted, situationship mentalities.

Good luck.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You just can't generalize like that.

Many women suck in relationships but I can't say women aren't worth being in a relationship with because I know many women are also good to be in a relationship with.

There's good men and bad men out there, its your responsibility to try to get with the best one.

Ask God for help.

[NathanDavis]

I don't have any problem or worry about being single today, no...

whenever, whatever happens... I'm quite sure it will be great, I don't have any doubt about that, lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well it's true for a majority unfortunately but the serious ones exist, it will just be hard to find because most of those men are either focused on doing other things and stuff or don't want to date, mostly if you have a specific taste

[Nikki1989]

Like most things, it is what you make of it. Unfortunately, many people these days seek to blame their issues on something or someone else. Most problems are self-inflicted.

[aceleon]

considering what we are spouse to build very very seldom worths any investmant, why would we even want to build something?

[OneViewpoint]

Welcome to the downside of the internet and the age of instant gratification / too many choices for the same old human brains.

[Staximus]

There are serious guys out there, you just have to find them. It's better to be single than with the wrong person. On the other hand, too many people look for the perfect person when they should be looking for somebody who is good enough

[Unycorn]

We are not made to stay alone.

It is always awful to stay alone - for a longer time.

[RavVid]

I think it is great time to be single. Women are showing us their true colors and we don't have to buy into the whole married scenario.

[Berethor]

I am not looking for a casual thing, but yea many guys nowadays want an casual things.

[LiamJHayden]

While I am open to a relationship I know that I am a royal PITA in a romance. Easy to get along with as a friend but difficult in relationships.

[Spencer10]

Well from what i hear it seems like it is for women right now...

[KostasKouvalis]

Aren’t guys out there that want a relationship and build something?

MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[Chthou95]

* Guys THAT I WANT are single right now just want to have casual things and don't want to really date someone & invest their time. Fixed it

[Jeff51]

Nope. Being single is easy. Try being married lol

[Levin]

Well, what do you care? You ain't single :)

[Bárbara1402]

So what? Can’t I ask questions?

[jamesgoldman]

No idea, I quit that game almost a decade ago now

[LC75LC71]

For me it's a great time!

[In_Trance]

There's never a bad time to be single