If you're highly dependent on others for love and support, or unable to be happy by yourself? Then yes, I suppose it can be bad for some people.
Then you have people like myself that are so used to being single, we are not only happier that way, but don't care what others think about us!
Do you know how many people in real life look at me in shock and disbelief when I tell them how long I've been single? Some people think I'm lying or wonder how I've managed to be single for 12, 13+ years now.
Or the ones that tell me, "Just pick someone or you'll be single the rest of your life!" Yeah, so I can be trapped in an unhappy relationship like said person that did the same thing? Right... lol
I find it laughable how society looks at people that are willingly and happy being single- as if it is a bad thing! Some of you need to remember:
Exatomundo! If you are happy then fuck em! That is what I say!
Thanks a lot. I am on the verge of breaking up now and I really don't think she is right for me. I think for sometime I am really being in relation as I can't breakup with her.
@heart-beat If you're not happy, or she doesn't make you happy, then maybe you need to sit down and talk to her. Now it's not my place to tell you to end a relationship; that's your decision. But just remember: you can be single and happy. You don't have to be in a relationship to feel happy.
You can say that again!
My older-sister was in a 15-year marriage with the wrong person, and he ended-up being horribly-abusive in so many ways. It took multiple months of wailing from phone-based verbal-attacks & threats, de-facto therapy by family-members, mourning the death of her marriage, panicked setting-up of defenses against her soon-to-be-husband's vengeful plots, etc. (after we evacuated her back and tried to help her heal) before became stable & more happy again.
What did I learn from this all? Better to be single than to be chained to the wrong person, wasting years of your life while being gas-lighted, neglected, and abused (verbally, psychologically, physically) day-after-day while at it.
Wish I could think like you. Been probably 20 years i am single. But lived on my own for 7+ years. Man there's too many days I feel lonely at home, especially with covid! I need a hug, some human contact lol. But maybe I should find away to get use to it. Are you introverted by any chance?
No. Its bad when you are dependent on others for a source of belonging and feeling "complete", happy and validated. Most people are not content with themselves so it is difficult for them to be in their own company and that's why they constantly seek companionship. This also (unsurprisingly) happens when you are in a relationship that is unfulfilling.
Singlehood is a time to discover yourself and assess what it is that you want, what do you like and dislike? A time of reflecting and figuring yourself out and what do you have to offer others... many people don't understand this and spend more time on hanging onto old baggage and memories and things that no longer serves them to change for the better especially before entering a new relationship.
That's why for some being single sucks while for others it gives them the opportunity to thrive and excel for self, its all in how you look at it.
Right on !
You're never gonna have everything you want. There are benefits to being single and there are benefits to being in a relationship, and there is no way for anyone to get the advantages of both at the same time. That's just how life is. You're never gonna be 100 % happy with where you are or who you are.
We put so much focus on personal happiness being the ultimate goal in life that we forget to realize how insane of a standard that is. Even if you're rich, successful, comfortable and content with what you've achieved, complete 100 % happiness is never gonna be possible. That's part of being human.
It's all about what YOU yourself prioritize. Do you choose the freedom of a single life or the comfort of being in a relationship? Do you want to be able to do what you want without having to take someone else into consideration or do you want to know that you have someone in your life whom you can always rely on? Well, you can't have both. Whichever one you pick, there are going to be moments when you feel discontent with the choice you made.
For you single people wondering what married family life is like...
Just imagine screaming children fighting each other in the kitchen, an over-tired wife yelling at you to take out the trash, things breaking in your house but not having the time to fix it, carrying a massive car seat through an airplane isle and apologizing to everyone you've bumped their head with; eating too much fast food because you and your wife are too tired to cook; and only watching kid shows for at least 10 years. Then ask yourself, "does it really suck"?
@mobiusforniner Oh no I hear you loud and clear. I imagine that stuff all the time and say... thank you Jesus.
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It depends on the individual. There used to be a time where marriage was the ideal and it built up 3 families and help them survive etc. However singles were looked at odd in this time if you were single you may have been lgbtq or for women they assumed you were Barren. With today's society it has become more acceptable to be in long term relationships and unmarried or single and its even more common to not have kids as well. In all honesty it depends on the individual and how they want to live their life and what they find comfortable. Personally I like being in a relationship and am not religious so marriage means nothing but a piece of paper but I also know people who have never married and are still single and they prefer that they love their life without a partner. So there is no one answer since there is a different answer for as many people there are on the planet.
I used to think it was but when you've had some unhealthy people in your life and been through quite some heartache, you realize you are much better and healthier without that. Yes you may get lonely, you may feel this void or missing piece in your heart at times but realizing your worth is the best feeling and making time for yourself is also so important. A relationship can go either good or bad but there are ways to make yourself happy without a partner and enjoy your company so when you do find that person you'll have built yourself up to a good extent it's not as bad as some people make it to be in my opinion. Single is better than being in a bad relationship getting cheated on, led on, lied to etc
I voted for option b because I think it is amazing to be single. The decision that I took for myself! It's not everytime that a person who is in a relationship, they are always happy! I don't think so because I have seen that people enter in relationships just for fun, to show off to their friends that they love each other whereas I have seen that my friend was in a toxic relationship that really affected her mental health. I am happy to be single because most of the things I can do without inteference from anyone in my life. I am not saying that being in a relationship is a bad thing, but I think you need to be mature for that as most of the relationships are really fake nowadays. Singles enjoy their life pretty well. I love reading, love spending time with my family and friends!
We are told that we are losers when we are single. That's why certain people in this society have real problems with it, even as they play apart of the creation of social standards. Our relationship status figures into how we are computing our self-esteem, confidence and worth. Because American society has always sought to establish these mechanism for grading self-worth. There shouldn't be anything wrong with being single. But then again, there shouldn't be anything implicitly wrong with the different ways people group or define themselves.
So as the saying goes, I didn't create this game, but I do have to play by its rules. Until someone comes along and creates a new game.
But I can't see this crazy society doing something more reasonable or rational like Japan's Kokoharu ritual.
No, it just gets pretty lonely at times. You see people so happy and having someone to share things, confine in and just a whole lot of things most people would want.
Though all that is great singleness gives you things that you need and people should really think about taking a break from dating and take some time to just be single. Being single gives you life skills you need and directs your attention to things you may need to focus on. It helps you rely on yourself more rather than others and being content with yourself and really learning about who you truly are without someone. Some things need to be learned alone.
no if you make the most of it and live your life.
* the down side, there is loneliness,
* life is limited as there are things you would do with another you don't do on your own. Might be as small as going out for food, or on some vacation
* You limit your ability to grow and heal from the past. Relationship exposes a lot of junk... unless you fit so well there is no friction.
Both being single and not being single have their pros and cons.
But nature designed us to pair up with someone of the opposite sex. That's the only natural way for the human race to survive. So the instinct to pair and mate is very powerful. If it wasn't we wouldn't be here.
That is true. I always say if you are single enjoy it if you are in a relationship then enjoy that too... they are both awesome.
I hate being single. I am currently on my longest stretch of being single. I definitely am not a fan. I don't think society looks at me any different because of it. I just like having someone to spend my time and attention on. I am a loving person and it seems like a waste to not share that with somebody.
I started to see it as a problem when I saw people who were in couples asking me when am I going to have a partner.
With time I realized that's none of their business.. maybe their interest reveals who really has a problem seeing others happily single.
No, not for me. But I might have more time to dwell on it if I wasn't raising a kid.
It can be pretty lonely during certain experiences. When my mom died tragically, it was almost unbearable to feel such pain and not have anyone to hold or comfort me.
Very true!
I love being single because I'm not attached to anyone, I can do whatever I want to, don't have to worry about being controlled or mind-fucked by anyone. It's nothing but bliss. Yes, I do get lonely sometimes, but I have to remember what I'd be losing if I started dating someone.
It all really depends on how easily you can get a partner or long you've been in a relationship before. That's why for women, it's an automatic 40% bad being single, 60% good being single, and for most men, it's more like 60% bad being single, 40% good being single. Because very, VERY few women are truly single without choice. Women are just highly selective and very picky about who they choose to date, whereas most men who are single are that way no matter what they do.
I'd say personally for me, being single is 55% bad, 45% good, since I'm short and ugly, and I used to think more like 90-10, but then I realized most people suck and most relationships are an illusion of happiness and bliss that doesn't really exist because people are flawed and come with baggage, and now, I just dislike being lonely at times, but enjoy the freedom more.
No. More people should be single. People depend solely on others for happiness to much, and often times they aren't even that happy. Personal growth before adding someone else to your life usually goes much better in the long run.
It’s neither for me... the act or status of being single is truly a storm in itself. It’s good to be better acquainted with yourself. It’s also great not to stay any place that is demeaning. Also it’s cheaper.
It’s tough simply because of the random feel of another is missing when socially it’s pushed in your face from music, tv, games... etc it’s also bothersome to be the laughing stock when the yearn from being human sets in when you want to go to movies, go to bar,... etc last but far from least your “friends “ the value of your opinion isn’t as strong simply because you don’t understand their relationship. I don't know completely it’s just a toss up and your bound to see both sides so I encourage simply just build your mind to withstand it all.
Hell no. I am single for most of my life. I got no strings attached to me. I get to do what I want, when I want, without needing to negotiate it with the partner. I don't have to be dragged to the in-laws for a 10 hour dinner "party". I'm proudly introverted, single and available.
To be honest we are social animals we are not designed to be singles. Being single kills us it produces stress hormones and we get old and sick faster. There are a lot of data about this. We are not made to stay single. We need yes biologically need affection and partner. It's the most basic need beside food and water.
Ok
We are animals.
O my ducking sake
I'm A little conflicted here, so I would say yes and no. I've been single quite a while, and the majority of my time as single has been by choice, so in that regard no it's not too bad, I quite enjoyed my time as single and not searching for anything serious. But with that said, now that i've started looking for something serious again, it is frustrating as all living hell, the current form and situation of modern dating is really something to test your limits. So I would say it's frustrating if you're actively searching for a partner, but less so if you dont. So it's a weird situation, decide not to actively search, get no dates and well, stay single pretty much. Or go through the living hell that is modern day dating.
No it's just the stigma attached to it. My guy friends look down on me because you're not fully a man unless you are bedding women. I'm not saying you need to be a manwhore. But part of being a man is having the ability to manipulate women ( don't get mad at me for this comment women. I didn't make the rules). And i simply don't want to do that. I want a woman to be with me because she loves me and i her. If i have to trick a woman what does that say about her? How can i respect someone so easily tricked?
And that's rhe next part i don't get about the whole dance. Women want to be tricked by a guy but they'll never admit to it.
Yeah, i just find being single easier.
@N192K001 they exist. And it seems like in ever increasing numbers.
I have been single for 2 years now and before that, i had never had a girlfriend. The girlfriend i did have was so sick before she left me so I didn't really even have a normal girlfriend then the aftermath of the break up was so painful. I like my life and i have inner contentment but i don't like being single. I feel like i never have anyone to share life with. I have no intimate partner to build anything with. I go to bars or try dating apps constantly trying to get little slivers of what i truly want but It never really works and girls just constantly seem close to me in one way or another. It wastes so much time also even if i hook up with a girl once she is gone I will need to find another one soon so I just stay in this never-ending cycle so i just think it would be better if I was not single. Im 25 now so just playing around is becoming less and less attractive to me and its just not as fun to do everything alone.
There's nothing wrong with it. I enjoy being single, just as much as I enjoy being in a relationship. If anything, I'm less stressed when I'm single.
Being single is great... until the loneliness sets in as your depression gets worse and worse, ruining your confidence to the point you want to give up and don't even see a reason to get out of bed anymore
Whooo single yay 😅
We all get lonely even people in relationships
At first it's, OK, alright. But after years and years, it gets old, and lonely. Don't get me wrong, I love my alone time, just not every day and year. Covid made it so much worse.
Covid is killing me... I had a chick hit me up on Tinder wanting me to buy some videos and pics... I was like I will pay for a cuddle... I need some love ha
I have no shame in that game!
Life's what you make it.
If you spend your time finding yourself, learning new things, traveling, going out with friends, spending time with family, doing things you enjoy, etc. being single can be great.
But if you spend your time being sad because your single, wallowing in self pity, obsessing over finding your next relationship, etc. then being single is going to be miserable.
It shouldn't matter what other people think, relationship or not, as long as you're happy.
Not really. You can be alone, but not lonely.
Yes, it can suck when social-pressures are applied. Yes, it can suck if your social-needs are in the higher end of the spectrum. But when that isn't the case, being single isn't too bad. In fact, it can be pretty delightful!
You can focus on improving yourself, reaching your personal goals, and learning new things. Also, it's better to be alone than to be chained to the wrong person.
Like most things it depends on your perspective, how you perceive your situation. But having a girlfriend definitely has its benefits. Lots of cuddles, sex, intimacy. Especially important given the scenario and isolation many are facing right now. I'm sure a lot of single people are cursing people in relationships :)
I seem to need more alone time than most, and I tend to move away from any sign of chaos or drama. Still, it's nice to share a life with someone special, but I can go either way. I think my natural state, though, is being alone. I mean, I can do hours just gazing out a window, and daydreaming is a preferred activity, neither of which is appreciated by most partners. On the practical side, I never have to fight for the covers, and I can take up the entire bed.
If you don't know how to be happy alone, yeah it does. You need to have friends and hobbies and things you're passionate about outside of a relationship. You can't rely on someone else to make you happy, otherwise being alone will be horrible.
And it will make you more likely to settle for someone who aren't compatible with, because a bad relationship will still feel better than being single.
It's better if you can cultivate a life you're happy with and then add a partner into that
There’s definitely pros and cons
I’m content by myself and don’t really have the time right now honestly, but it would still be nice to have someone to come home to
I just feel like shit just because of my biologically need for a partner but also feel like i need air and get out of the relationship when i was with my ex ana was not single. I swear i dont understand myself. Maybe the reason why i feel like i was sufficating because of my ex and not because of me was not single?
It's a perfectly understandable feeling. On one hand you don't want to be alone. But as soon as you're with an incompatible person, you'll long for the feeling to be single. What I've learned is that the right relationship doesn't make you feel like you're suffocating or wishing to be single. All you can do is welcome the next person and try to figure out that he will give you a quality relationship this time. I'm on my third relationship and it's better than the previous two.
I write to senior citizen homes once or twice a month. Never do I receive a letter from anyone who is relieved not to have a mate.
Either they miss their significant other or consider how they could have dated differently. Ever so often I meet a old lady who doesn't question it but their always noticeably less pleased than the lot.
it's the freedom of not having to answer to anybody about something you said or did. You can do what ever you like, talk, havesex, go where ever you want & stay out late as long as you want, you dont have anyone else but yourself to worry about and you put that person yourself first above anyone else
Nah, it's fine. I think it's only bad if you're someone who is very insecure to the point you need the constant reassurance of having a partner so you feel wanted or whatever. Like I actually know guys and girls who are like this and will lie like crazy to get or keep relationships. Whereas I'm more, when someone comes along that I like and who likes me then I won't be single anymore.
I like to avoid the responsibility and emotional commitment to another person. When the working day is done I want to follow my own orders only.
Depends on the person.
Some are perfectly fine being single some need someone else 2 love them
Being single by itself isn't bad at all, I guess it depends on the background info. If you simply don't want to be in a relationship, then there's nothing to stress about. If you do: if you've never been in a relationship before (or never been in a long-term one), then possibly (with age also being a factor).
I'm single and have no problems with it. My choice by the way.
To me, I'd like a life partner, for company and support. It would make me feel less nervous because my dad recently passed and I'd like someone in my life for when my mom passes
Not really. There's a lot of freedom in being single. Not that there isn't freedom while being in a relationship but that's just another reason why being single isn't that bad.
There is a huge difference between voluntarily and involuntarily single.
The truth and the default situation is to have a partner in your life to complete your needs and happiness. Yes there are some people who are okay being single and of course they might have their consinderable excuses , however being married or having a partner perfect that "okay"
Being single is a free pass to do whatever you want & freedom is a wonderful thing instead of being connected to the same old ball & chain.
I’m not currently single, but I do prefer it. I don’t need a romantic partner like most people do.
Other people like being single so they can date as many people as they wish, which is also good.
It’s a win win.
I’d like to be in one but literally no one cares if I’m single. Unless they are just looking for red flags like “oh why was this person not in a relationship?”
It’s giving me time to be able to look inward and grow spiritually and mentally
Yes. It's like being "glad" to be an insufferable loser, no one can stand to live with.
Even in a jail cell you get to share the space with someone, to stop you going completely nutty.
I’m enjoying the single life these days. Will likely start dating again next year.
It is for everyone except single moms and dads. They get torn down all the time by hate groups
Oh, here we go again with the white knighting. Being a single mom or dad itself is not the issue. what these what you so-call "hate groups" have against them is the way they USE the people they date. Mostly, it's for financial reasons. Who do you think I would rather listen to? A SJW like yourself or an ex-step dad or mom who warns about the dangers of dating a single mother/dad. We got a saying in Dutch "Kijk verder dan je neus lang is". I'll let you Google that one.
@TruthBringer hey truth I’ve read some of your other posts. You’re a miserable, entitled sissy. Grow a pair and be a good man.
@TruthBringer yep and most don’t use people they date anymore than anyone else. All you do is hate.
Lol a white knight simp telling me that I'm miserable and an entitled sissy. Sorry little boy, but at least I am more aware of dangers and see things for how they truly are. Not my problem that my and many well educated men's views hurt your feelz. And yes, plenty of people DO date to use. Hence why terms like pump and dump exist. Or you wouldn't have ex-step fathers or ex-step mothers complain about their experience and being used. I don't hate. I preach reality. Cry us a river, snowflake
@TruthBringer I realize ALL people can be bad. You only blame one and generalize them. Tbh you wouldn’t be a good dad. All you do it teach hate. What happens when your kid gets screwed over by someone besides the big mean single moms? Wake up.
Actually... nope I'm not the type to generalize an entire group because of what 1 has done. Especially since I've met great people of that group. Doesn't mean I don't heed warnings and act accordingly. Hence why I don't have any issues other people voluntarly brought to their lives. What you call "hate" is equivalent to saying someone is hating just because he calls a spade a spade. I call shit for what it is. And no where did I ever say eveyr single mom is bad. Just because I choose not to date one. Especially since I don't have kids myself and therefore I have the right to have the standard to be with someone without kids.
Many step parents DO use other people they date in order to benefit from them (mainly financially). And yet I'm the one who should "wake up". Don't worry about me being "woke". I'm better informed than you are. Hence why I didn't make a stupid decision to be a father at the age of 22 and choose to wait until I've reached my goals so I can give my kids the best I have to offer. And of course, for simps and white knights, being a "good man" means being a doormat for others like feminazis. I can smell the estrogen from your comments.
@TruthBringer don’t backtrack. I’ve read some of the garbage you write. I’m done talking to you. You’re a sorry excuse.
Ironic coming from a white knight simp who wants every man to be a doormat. Enjoy being a cuck, loser 😂
@TruthBringer I’m actually a very strong and independent man. I go to work, work hard and live an honest life. I have a decent home, a awesome daughter and a cool girlfriend. I don’t take garbage off limps like you.
What you've just said is something most of us if not all have. Yes, that includes myself. Only difference between you and me is that I advocate true masculinity and don't bend over for feminazis or women in general to fuck me over. Just as how they have done with men in (western) society. I'll let you know when your beta simp comments will matter to me 😂. I'll make sure to wave at you from an F-35 soon.
@TruthBringer I’m a true man too. I work for everything I have. Also if you’re so privileged, then you have nothing to complain about. I Represent old school men who work hard for what they have at the same time, we don’t live in 1850. There’s nothing wrong with knowing how to adapt. Maybe you wouldn’t have so many issues if you could. Dudes like you only listen to crusty 30-50 year old men.
They are the worst generation of men to listen to as well.
damn bro @TruthBringer just ripped you a new one here. is funny how you told him
"You’re a miserable, entitled sissy. Grow a pair and be a good man."
yet I just saw the news and they said that you just blocked him to get the last word in the argument he was tormenting you on, ain't that some pussy shit?
I think is healthy to have time to be on your own, enjoy your company and learn about yourself. It can help you to see your life from another perspective and put in order the things you want.
I hope being with someone is really great compared to being single. I'm feeling kinda depressed, so maybe having someone who actually cares about me would make me feel better
singles get penalized, get pressured to include an extra tip, have to pay higher taxes, and are less likely to be trusted for any reason whatever, it isn't their fault, it's the fault of the way society views things
Meh it's been 6.5 years now and the more I try not to be single the more I want to be single, most of you women are fucking hard work or just a waste of space
The good ones are super hard to find if you look like the backside of a horse like me
You get used to it. Some people can't be single though. They'd rather end up in a shitty relationship knowing its shitty.
Can enjoy life single but it's also nice to have a partner to share experiences with
I think because single is the best thing right now. The world is going mad and people are scrambling to find someone just so they don't have to bear it alone not knowing that they're gonna just end up worse off. No thank you. I enjoy being alone. No friends and no relationship is the way to go.
and being single is the best bet if you don't want to get covid, dating someone during times like these could make you tens time more likely to come in contact with covid
Some people are happily single. Some people are happier with a partner.
No I enjoy it! I've come to realize no man can ever love or please me like I can! I dont miss having a man in my life!
Not at first, even in the middle it's ok. It's when you've been single for a long, long time. It seems less possible it could ever happen.
It's not all bad. It's better than being stuck in the wrong relationship.
i'm single and have been for a while, i really like it.
Again depends on. Some people are happy being single, others are ace or aro and others are desperate to date anyone
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