If you're highly dependent on others for love and support, or unable to be happy by yourself? Then yes, I suppose it can be bad for some people.
Then you have people like myself that are so used to being single, we are not only happier that way, but don't care what others think about us!
Do you know how many people in real life look at me in shock and disbelief when I tell them how long I've been single? Some people think I'm lying or wonder how I've managed to be single for 12, 13+ years now.
Or the ones that tell me, "Just pick someone or you'll be single the rest of your life!" Yeah, so I can be trapped in an unhappy relationship like said person that did the same thing? Right... lol
I find it laughable how society looks at people that are willingly and happy being single- as if it is a bad thing! Some of you need to remember:
No. Its bad when you are dependent on others for a source of belonging and feeling "complete", happy and validated. Most people are not content with themselves so it is difficult for them to be in their own company and that's why they constantly seek companionship. This also (unsurprisingly) happens when you are in a relationship that is unfulfilling.
Singlehood is a time to discover yourself and assess what it is that you want, what do you like and dislike? A time of reflecting and figuring yourself out and what do you have to offer others... many people don't understand this and spend more time on hanging onto old baggage and memories and things that no longer serves them to change for the better especially before entering a new relationship.
That's why for some being single sucks while for others it gives them the opportunity to thrive and excel for self, its all in how you look at it.
You're never gonna have everything you want. There are benefits to being single and there are benefits to being in a relationship, and there is no way for anyone to get the advantages of both at the same time. That's just how life is. You're never gonna be 100 % happy with where you are or who you are.
We put so much focus on personal happiness being the ultimate goal in life that we forget to realize how insane of a standard that is. Even if you're rich, successful, comfortable and content with what you've achieved, complete 100 % happiness is never gonna be possible. That's part of being human.
It's all about what YOU yourself prioritize. Do you choose the freedom of a single life or the comfort of being in a relationship? Do you want to be able to do what you want without having to take someone else into consideration or do you want to know that you have someone in your life whom you can always rely on? Well, you can't have both. Whichever one you pick, there are going to be moments when you feel discontent with the choice you made.
For you single people wondering what married family life is like...
Just imagine screaming children fighting each other in the kitchen, an over-tired wife yelling at you to take out the trash, things breaking in your house but not having the time to fix it, carrying a massive car seat through an airplane isle and apologizing to everyone you've bumped their head with; eating too much fast food because you and your wife are too tired to cook; and only watching kid shows for at least 10 years. Then ask yourself, "does it really suck"?
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It depends on the individual. There used to be a time where marriage was the ideal and it built up 3 families and help them survive etc. However singles were looked at odd in this time if you were single you may have been lgbtq or for women they assumed you were Barren. With today's society it has become more acceptable to be in long term relationships and unmarried or single and its even more common to not have kids as well. In all honesty it depends on the individual and how they want to live their life and what they find comfortable. Personally I like being in a relationship and am not religious so marriage means nothing but a piece of paper but I also know people who have never married and are still single and they prefer that they love their life without a partner. So there is no one answer since there is a different answer for as many people there are on the planet.
I used to think it was but when you've had some unhealthy people in your life and been through quite some heartache, you realize you are much better and healthier without that. Yes you may get lonely, you may feel this void or missing piece in your heart at times but realizing your worth is the best feeling and making time for yourself is also so important. A relationship can go either good or bad but there are ways to make yourself happy without a partner and enjoy your company so when you do find that person you'll have built yourself up to a good extent it's not as bad as some people make it to be in my opinion. Single is better than being in a bad relationship getting cheated on, led on, lied to etc
I voted for option b because I think it is amazing to be single. The decision that I took for myself! It's not everytime that a person who is in a relationship, they are always happy! I don't think so because I have seen that people enter in relationships just for fun, to show off to their friends that they love each other whereas I have seen that my friend was in a toxic relationship that really affected her mental health. I am happy to be single because most of the things I can do without inteference from anyone in my life. I am not saying that being in a relationship is a bad thing, but I think you need to be mature for that as most of the relationships are really fake nowadays. Singles enjoy their life pretty well. I love reading, love spending time with my family and friends!
We are told that we are losers when we are single. That's why certain people in this society have real problems with it, even as they play apart of the creation of social standards. Our relationship status figures into how we are computing our self-esteem, confidence and worth. Because American society has always sought to establish these mechanism for grading self-worth. There shouldn't be anything wrong with being single. But then again, there shouldn't be anything implicitly wrong with the different ways people group or define themselves.
So as the saying goes, I didn't create this game, but I do have to play by its rules. Until someone comes along and creates a new game.
But I can't see this crazy society doing something more reasonable or rational like Japan's Kokoharu ritual.
No, it just gets pretty lonely at times. You see people so happy and having someone to share things, confine in and just a whole lot of things most people would want.
Though all that is great singleness gives you things that you need and people should really think about taking a break from dating and take some time to just be single. Being single gives you life skills you need and directs your attention to things you may need to focus on. It helps you rely on yourself more rather than others and being content with yourself and really learning about who you truly are without someone. Some things need to be learned alone.
no if you make the most of it and live your life.
* the down side, there is loneliness,
* life is limited as there are things you would do with another you don't do on your own. Might be as small as going out for food, or on some vacation
* You limit your ability to grow and heal from the past. Relationship exposes a lot of junk... unless you fit so well there is no friction.
I started to see it as a problem when I saw people who were in couples asking me when am I going to have a partner.
With time I realized that's none of their business.. maybe their interest reveals who really has a problem seeing others happily single.
No, not for me. But I might have more time to dwell on it if I wasn't raising a kid.
It can be pretty lonely during certain experiences. When my mom died tragically, it was almost unbearable to feel such pain and not have anyone to hold or comfort me.
Both being single and not being single have their pros and cons.
But nature designed us to pair up with someone of the opposite sex. That's the only natural way for the human race to survive. So the instinct to pair and mate is very powerful. If it wasn't we wouldn't be here.
I hate being single. I am currently on my longest stretch of being single. I definitely am not a fan. I don't think society looks at me any different because of it. I just like having someone to spend my time and attention on. I am a loving person and it seems like a waste to not share that with somebody.
It all really depends on how easily you can get a partner or long you've been in a relationship before. That's why for women, it's an automatic 40% bad being single, 60% good being single, and for most men, it's more like 60% bad being single, 40% good being single. Because very, VERY few women are truly single without choice. Women are just highly selective and very picky about who they choose to date, whereas most men who are single are that way no matter what they do.
I'd say personally for me, being single is 55% bad, 45% good, since I'm short and ugly, and I used to think more like 90-10, but then I realized most people suck and most relationships are an illusion of happiness and bliss that doesn't really exist because people are flawed and come with baggage, and now, I just dislike being lonely at times, but enjoy the freedom more.
No. More people should be single. People depend solely on others for happiness to much, and often times they aren't even that happy. Personal growth before adding someone else to your life usually goes much better in the long run.
It’s neither for me... the act or status of being single is truly a storm in itself. It’s good to be better acquainted with yourself. It’s also great not to stay any place that is demeaning. Also it’s cheaper.
It’s tough simply because of the random feel of another is missing when socially it’s pushed in your face from music, tv, games... etc it’s also bothersome to be the laughing stock when the yearn from being human sets in when you want to go to movies, go to bar,... etc last but far from least your “friends “ the value of your opinion isn’t as strong simply because you don’t understand their relationship. I don't know completely it’s just a toss up and your bound to see both sides so I encourage simply just build your mind to withstand it all.
I love being single because I'm not attached to anyone, I can do whatever I want to, don't have to worry about being controlled or mind-fucked by anyone. It's nothing but bliss. Yes, I do get lonely sometimes, but I have to remember what I'd be losing if I started dating someone.
Hell no. I am single for most of my life. I got no strings attached to me. I get to do what I want, when I want, without needing to negotiate it with the partner. I don't have to be dragged to the in-laws for a 10 hour dinner "party". I'm proudly introverted, single and available.
To be honest we are social animals we are not designed to be singles. Being single kills us it produces stress hormones and we get old and sick faster. There are a lot of data about this. We are not made to stay single. We need yes biologically need affection and partner. It's the most basic need beside food and water.
I'm A little conflicted here, so I would say yes and no. I've been single quite a while, and the majority of my time as single has been by choice, so in that regard no it's not too bad, I quite enjoyed my time as single and not searching for anything serious. But with that said, now that i've started looking for something serious again, it is frustrating as all living hell, the current form and situation of modern dating is really something to test your limits. So I would say it's frustrating if you're actively searching for a partner, but less so if you dont. So it's a weird situation, decide not to actively search, get no dates and well, stay single pretty much. Or go through the living hell that is modern day dating.
No it's just the stigma attached to it. My guy friends look down on me because you're not fully a man unless you are bedding women. I'm not saying you need to be a manwhore. But part of being a man is having the ability to manipulate women ( don't get mad at me for this comment women. I didn't make the rules). And i simply don't want to do that. I want a woman to be with me because she loves me and i her. If i have to trick a woman what does that say about her? How can i respect someone so easily tricked?
And that's rhe next part i don't get about the whole dance. Women want to be tricked by a guy but they'll never admit to it.
Yeah, i just find being single easier.
I have been single for 2 years now and before that, i had never had a girlfriend. The girlfriend i did have was so sick before she left me so I didn't really even have a normal girlfriend then the aftermath of the break up was so painful. I like my life and i have inner contentment but i don't like being single. I feel like i never have anyone to share life with. I have no intimate partner to build anything with. I go to bars or try dating apps constantly trying to get little slivers of what i truly want but It never really works and girls just constantly seem close to me in one way or another. It wastes so much time also even if i hook up with a girl once she is gone I will need to find another one soon so I just stay in this never-ending cycle so i just think it would be better if I was not single. Im 25 now so just playing around is becoming less and less attractive to me and its just not as fun to do everything alone.
There's nothing wrong with it. I enjoy being single, just as much as I enjoy being in a relationship. If anything, I'm less stressed when I'm single.
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