Being single is great... until the loneliness sets in as your depression gets worse and worse, ruining your confidence to the point you want to give up and don't even see a reason to get out of bed anymore
At first it's, OK, alright. But after years and years, it gets old, and lonely. Don't get me wrong, I love my alone time, just not every day and year. Covid made it so much worse.
Covid is killing me... I had a chick hit me up on Tinder wanting me to buy some videos and pics... I was like I will pay for a cuddle... I need some love ha
Life's what you make it. If you spend your time finding yourself, learning new things, traveling, going out with friends, spending time with family, doing things you enjoy, etc. being single can be great. But if you spend your time being sad because your single, wallowing in self pity, obsessing over finding your next relationship, etc. then being single is going to be miserable. It shouldn't matter what other people think, relationship or not, as long as you're happy.
Yes, it can suck when social-pressures are applied. Yes, it can suck if your social-needs are in the higher end of the spectrum. But when that isn't the case, being single isn't too bad. In fact, it can be pretty delightful!
You can focus on improving yourself, reaching your personal goals, and learning new things. Also, it's better to be alone than to be chained to the wrong person.
Like most things it depends on your perspective, how you perceive your situation. But having a girlfriend definitely has its benefits. Lots of cuddles, sex, intimacy. Especially important given the scenario and isolation many are facing right now. I'm sure a lot of single people are cursing people in relationships :)
I seem to need more alone time than most, and I tend to move away from any sign of chaos or drama. Still, it's nice to share a life with someone special, but I can go either way. I think my natural state, though, is being alone. I mean, I can do hours just gazing out a window, and daydreaming is a preferred activity, neither of which is appreciated by most partners. On the practical side, I never have to fight for the covers, and I can take up the entire bed.
If you don't know how to be happy alone, yeah it does. You need to have friends and hobbies and things you're passionate about outside of a relationship. You can't rely on someone else to make you happy, otherwise being alone will be horrible. And it will make you more likely to settle for someone who aren't compatible with, because a bad relationship will still feel better than being single. It's better if you can cultivate a life you're happy with and then add a partner into that
There’s definitely pros and cons I’m content by myself and don’t really have the time right now honestly, but it would still be nice to have someone to come home to
I just feel like shit just because of my biologically need for a partner but also feel like i need air and get out of the relationship when i was with my ex ana was not single. I swear i dont understand myself. Maybe the reason why i feel like i was sufficating because of my ex and not because of me was not single?
It's a perfectly understandable feeling. On one hand you don't want to be alone. But as soon as you're with an incompatible person, you'll long for the feeling to be single. What I've learned is that the right relationship doesn't make you feel like you're suffocating or wishing to be single. All you can do is welcome the next person and try to figure out that he will give you a quality relationship this time. I'm on my third relationship and it's better than the previous two.
I write to senior citizen homes once or twice a month. Never do I receive a letter from anyone who is relieved not to have a mate.
Either they miss their significant other or consider how they could have dated differently. Ever so often I meet a old lady who doesn't question it but their always noticeably less pleased than the lot.
it's the freedom of not having to answer to anybody about something you said or did. You can do what ever you like, talk, havesex, go where ever you want & stay out late as long as you want, you dont have anyone else but yourself to worry about and you put that person yourself first above anyone else
Nah, it's fine. I think it's only bad if you're someone who is very insecure to the point you need the constant reassurance of having a partner so you feel wanted or whatever. Like I actually know guys and girls who are like this and will lie like crazy to get or keep relationships. Whereas I'm more, when someone comes along that I like and who likes me then I won't be single anymore.
Being single by itself isn't bad at all, I guess it depends on the background info. If you simply don't want to be in a relationship, then there's nothing to stress about. If you do: if you've never been in a relationship before (or never been in a long-term one), then possibly (with age also being a factor).
To me, I'd like a life partner, for company and support. It would make me feel less nervous because my dad recently passed and I'd like someone in my life for when my mom passes
Not really. There's a lot of freedom in being single. Not that there isn't freedom while being in a relationship but that's just another reason why being single isn't that bad.
The truth and the default situation is to have a partner in your life to complete your needs and happiness. Yes there are some people who are okay being single and of course they might have their consinderable excuses , however being married or having a partner perfect that "okay"
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Being single is great... until the loneliness sets in as your depression gets worse and worse, ruining your confidence to the point you want to give up and don't even see a reason to get out of bed anymore
Whooo single yay 😅
We all get lonely even people in relationships
At first it's, OK, alright. But after years and years, it gets old, and lonely. Don't get me wrong, I love my alone time, just not every day and year. Covid made it so much worse.
Covid is killing me... I had a chick hit me up on Tinder wanting me to buy some videos and pics... I was like I will pay for a cuddle... I need some love ha
Hahaha I almost felt like buying a cuddle too.
I have no shame in that game!
Life's what you make it.
If you spend your time finding yourself, learning new things, traveling, going out with friends, spending time with family, doing things you enjoy, etc. being single can be great.
But if you spend your time being sad because your single, wallowing in self pity, obsessing over finding your next relationship, etc. then being single is going to be miserable.
It shouldn't matter what other people think, relationship or not, as long as you're happy.
Not really. You can be alone, but not lonely.
Yes, it can suck when social-pressures are applied. Yes, it can suck if your social-needs are in the higher end of the spectrum. But when that isn't the case, being single isn't too bad. In fact, it can be pretty delightful!
You can focus on improving yourself, reaching your personal goals, and learning new things. Also, it's better to be alone than to be chained to the wrong person.
Like most things it depends on your perspective, how you perceive your situation. But having a girlfriend definitely has its benefits. Lots of cuddles, sex, intimacy. Especially important given the scenario and isolation many are facing right now. I'm sure a lot of single people are cursing people in relationships :)
I seem to need more alone time than most, and I tend to move away from any sign of chaos or drama. Still, it's nice to share a life with someone special, but I can go either way. I think my natural state, though, is being alone. I mean, I can do hours just gazing out a window, and daydreaming is a preferred activity, neither of which is appreciated by most partners. On the practical side, I never have to fight for the covers, and I can take up the entire bed.
If you don't know how to be happy alone, yeah it does. You need to have friends and hobbies and things you're passionate about outside of a relationship. You can't rely on someone else to make you happy, otherwise being alone will be horrible.
And it will make you more likely to settle for someone who aren't compatible with, because a bad relationship will still feel better than being single.
It's better if you can cultivate a life you're happy with and then add a partner into that
There’s definitely pros and cons
I’m content by myself and don’t really have the time right now honestly, but it would still be nice to have someone to come home to
I just feel like shit just because of my biologically need for a partner but also feel like i need air and get out of the relationship when i was with my ex ana was not single. I swear i dont understand myself. Maybe the reason why i feel like i was sufficating because of my ex and not because of me was not single?
It's a perfectly understandable feeling. On one hand you don't want to be alone. But as soon as you're with an incompatible person, you'll long for the feeling to be single. What I've learned is that the right relationship doesn't make you feel like you're suffocating or wishing to be single. All you can do is welcome the next person and try to figure out that he will give you a quality relationship this time. I'm on my third relationship and it's better than the previous two.
I write to senior citizen homes once or twice a month. Never do I receive a letter from anyone who is relieved not to have a mate.
Either they miss their significant other or consider how they could have dated differently. Ever so often I meet a old lady who doesn't question it but their always noticeably less pleased than the lot.
it's the freedom of not having to answer to anybody about something you said or did. You can do what ever you like, talk, havesex, go where ever you want & stay out late as long as you want, you dont have anyone else but yourself to worry about and you put that person yourself first above anyone else
Nah, it's fine. I think it's only bad if you're someone who is very insecure to the point you need the constant reassurance of having a partner so you feel wanted or whatever. Like I actually know guys and girls who are like this and will lie like crazy to get or keep relationships. Whereas I'm more, when someone comes along that I like and who likes me then I won't be single anymore.
I like to avoid the responsibility and emotional commitment to another person. When the working day is done I want to follow my own orders only.
Depends on the person.
Some are perfectly fine being single some need someone else 2 love them
Being single by itself isn't bad at all, I guess it depends on the background info. If you simply don't want to be in a relationship, then there's nothing to stress about. If you do: if you've never been in a relationship before (or never been in a long-term one), then possibly (with age also being a factor).
I'm single and have no problems with it. My choice by the way.
To me, I'd like a life partner, for company and support. It would make me feel less nervous because my dad recently passed and I'd like someone in my life for when my mom passes
Not really. There's a lot of freedom in being single. Not that there isn't freedom while being in a relationship but that's just another reason why being single isn't that bad.
There is a huge difference between voluntarily and involuntarily single.
The truth and the default situation is to have a partner in your life to complete your needs and happiness. Yes there are some people who are okay being single and of course they might have their consinderable excuses , however being married or having a partner perfect that "okay"