Honestly, I don’t think so. I have no motivation to find someone. Plus, I’m toxic and have major red flags that it would be unfair for my future partner to have to deal with that.
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It's not a bad thing to choose to be single. I was single for over 8 yes between my 2 marriages. I was fine with being single and going out, buying anything I wanted, doing whatever I want. I also like being married n having my 2 kids and see how they are growing.
The good thing is you know you can be a toxic person and don't want to hurt the other person in the relationship. But have you seek help or talk to someone, on why you acted that way at times.
I once dated a woman that at times acted out trying to get a reaction out of me, because she was in an abusive relationship before me, amd she was sexually abusive when she was younger. So she would start a fight over something, and then say " come on hit me!" And I would reply " No, I not the type of guy to hit women. That's not who I am" eventually we broke up. Months later I saw her, and she apologized for her actions and said she didn't know how to handle a "nice guy" like me that wasn't physically abusive. I wish her luck amd hope she finds the peace she needs.
So unless you get help with being toxic even it isn't on purpose, of if you really don't want to change, then you choosing being single is your choice. People have the right to make their own choices.10
No, it's not bad it's personal choice. There's tons of people who choose a celibate for belief and non belief purposes. Now a lot people might find it strange cause most people do want a partner to spend their time and maybe even their last days/years with as they age. Most people tend to have a drive in them to find a life mate, however there some people who are perfectly find with this arrangement.
But just be clear, ask yourself is this something you really want in the long run or just for now until you can get yourself together and your priorities straight. There is Chance that once you feel like a better version of yourself, you might want to date but who knows for sure. It's totally up to you.10
Nope, being single is actually more fun and you’ll have fewer drama. For what i’ve seen, single woman usually looks happier compared when they are in relationshit. Its great that you're aware your toxic trait and refuse to hurt your possible partner. Don’t listen to nobody bullshit, being single isn’t bad at all.9
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You do you boo.11
Depends on your motive. I definitely hear your side and respect/appreciate your motive. I've dated one person (for a very short time) since my divorce 13 years ago. I realized that I was a selfish piece of work and needed to work on myself before bring someone else into my life. Still working on that. I’m 100% open to and looking forward to sharing life with someone again, but that will happen when it happens. For now, I’m pursuing healing/growth/Spiritual connection with Jesus, etc. I don’t *want* to be single, but I’m content with it for now while I grow and wait for the *right* person.12
Being single isn't bad but your reason to be single is not healthy. You are being single because you believe that you are too bad of a choice to deserve anyone.
For example, I am single and I like it. I come home to a clean and spacious house with a naughty cat. I can cook if I want or just order take out. I can even have dinner alone in a restaurant. I am comfortable being alone and I don't care what people think.13
Could you be more specific? Why are you so sure that you may not find someone? You're not the only person like this, so why be alone when you don't have to be? Are you selling yourself short and over compensating for it? First off. You have to love yourself before you can expect someone else to love you. You can't have one without the other. Otherwise it's a lie.0
Not really, people can be toxic and nasty and come with to much baggage that you don’t need to deal with.
Being alone you don’t have all that rubbish to deal with you only have to worry about you.
I don’t want a relationship I don’t want friends either people get on my nerves and I’ve been hurt and lied to so much that I’d rather be alone, I’m so hostile now it’s unreal.10
If you stay single, life will be more easy and fun. You will feel good about it when you are young. When you grow old nobody will take care of you. Your money is completely yours. If you are married your life will be full of responsibilities, you have the responsibility of your wife and kids. Your money is not completely yours, you have to share it with your family.10
"Apparently females think this matters to the world", but this is a social circle thing, your relatives or friends constantly asking you those questions doesn't mean the rest of the world even cares if you're single or wanting to start a family. So is it bad? That is a question you have to ask yourself.0
It's unnatural but there may be a good reading. It's rare a person truly wants to be single. The either have unreasonable requirements, specific requirements or they are just really detached and don't like family life.12
Define bad? Bad for you bad for others bad as in evil? You do what you want as everyone should however… don’t complain about the outcome. Don’t spread your misery to others because you choose poorly.3
No, how would it be bad? That's up to you.
Just don't make others miserable because of your social status.
And remember to look out for yourself14
Rules and management expectations make all relationships work. The question is not whether or not you be a good husband/wife but rather or not you can follow and agree to rules to get and give what is needed.0
It's really bad but you will be hype, so later on u will feel the need to be with someone
And I don't forget why you are on earth, to find your soul mate.12
I don't want to be someone's slave that they order me to do things according to their wish hence i see myself single forever too and i don't consider it anything close to bad for not living my life on terms of my partner0
I don't find it bad to say I wanna stay single for a few years but forever is a long time and kinda sounds like depression/depressiv1
I don't think so. Everyone's got different priorities, and kudos if you know yours.
What are these red flags you speak of? How toxic are you? Just curious.0
So you alone out of altruism? okay, did you thought about joining a monastery?1
No I think it’s good to know yourself and not need a romantic interest.0
Not really, just do whatever makes you happy. If being single makes you happier, then do it :)0
at least you're self-aware haha, just do you and be happy0
Not at all. Wanting to be single isn't any worse or better than wanting to be in a relationship.10
It sounds like you're very critical of yourself. You want to know whether the issue is not measuring up to the norms of others or whether your patterns tend to be inconsiderate of others. You'll be much happier if you view yourself as a unique individual rather than someone who differs from what society promotes. I wish people would learn what makes them unique and then enhance what already exists rather than attempt to be something they're not. What I'm drawn to is different from what society promotes as ideal (the last thing I'd want is a Barbie Doll), yet women who don't match the ideal view themselves as defective. I prefer a woman who feels good about what she brings to the relationship. The last thing I want is to hear her constantly minimizing or denying the compliments I give her.
If, on the other hand, you tend to be inconsiderate of others, that's a different story. Is it a sense of entitlement you project, or is it a defensive tactic to keep others from hurting you? By working on yourself, you'll learn how to be observant and know when to avoid toxic situations and then start bringing positive to those that remain. Just because you haven't met that compatible partner, it's not necessary to throw in the towel. I'm not saying you need to actively seek a partner, as that may just lead to frustration (since healthy partners are so rare), but don't completely block any opportunity. Just keep your eyes wide open when an opportunity presents itself rather than always assume the worse. Being single is a much better option than settling, just to be in a relationship, but it never makes sense to totally close the door and play the victim.
First off, I wasn’t talking about looks. It’s my mental health that’s not doing so great. Second, to answer your question, no and it’s more like I don’t want to make my partner suffer. Also, I don’t see how I’m playing victim when I’m doing what I think it’s right.
I mean, you can think whatever you want about me but I’ll tell you you’re wrong 🤷♀️
You're free to tell me I'm wrong, but all I'm doing is seeking further clarification to offer assistance. If you're finding your mental health to be the challenge, what are you doing to address it? If you're in therapy and not seeing progress, it may be time to seek out a different therapist. Are you dealing with a biochemical imbalance, or are these situational reactions you're dealing with? If it is biochemical, seek out a psychiatrist who is willing to fine tune your meds rather than assume everyone reacts to meds the same. By playing the victim, I'm meaning giving up due to believing everything is out of your control. There may be much out of our control, but there will always be some things within our control. By focusing on what is within our control, no matter how small, our confidence and motivation increases. I'm curious... if you know you're going to tell everyone they're wrong, what might be your reason for even asking any question on this site?
I’m not seeing a therapist. I did have a chemical imbalance but I’m on medication for it. Before then, I was way worse than I was. And I’m not going to tell everyone they’re wrong. Don’t know why you would assume that.
If your not feeling balanced by your meds, maybe you're on the wrong med or wrong dose. That's the reason I said to find a psychiatrist who is willing to fine tune your meds. Psychiatrists generally just do med management, not therapy. Though meds can alter your stress level so your issues can be addressed, they don't solve problems. A therapist can help you make the behavioral changes necessary to be the person you want to be.
"I’m not going to tell everyone they’re wrong. Don’t know why you would assume that."
"you can think whatever you want about me but I’ll tell you you’re wrong"
Oh, I thought you meant those who were replying. Sorry, got confused for a second.
Also, I’m not quite awake. Got up way too early and I don’t function very as a morning person.
Though I believe this conversation should end.
Go to YouTube and look up, women drinking their own period blood. They think it's make them look younger and healthier. It's a real thing.
@Tracker1958 No, I believe you. I’ve heard about that too 🤢
Sometimes i self sabatoge things with a potential interest because im scared of getting hurt