Do you think there is hope for us?

Question

My boyfriend was eager for me to move in with him. We were in a situation to rush our relationship, and I don’t think it’s been beneficial to us because we’ve been arguing a lot, so I decided to give him his space and move out. We both have things to work on, and I feel like when we heal from those, we can come together, and it would be better, but he says he doesn’t want me back. I think he’s being emotional. I have goals I must complete, and I can’t do them under all the stress. There’s a lot we didn’t lay on the table, and we need to slow it down. ￼ Do you think there is hope for us? ￼

sixofspades · Accepted Answer

Honestly for him to even argue back about something like this is a red flag; no matter how much he loves you or wants to welcome you in to his home, his first priority in this situation should be to make you feel comfortable; and grrl if you think it's going to fast and you're not comfortable then he should understand that and find ways to help your situation rather then fight it, as I hope you would for him.

Him fighting you and being petty is toxic; you sound like you have your priorities straight, you have goals that you're working towards, its your life and if he doesn't want to be a good boyfriend like You deserve, and build with you, and help you be successful, then you should find someone better. Straight up.

CallMeLes · Accepted Answer

Your line "I have goals I must complete" coupled with "he says he doesn't want me back" is pretty clear as to what to do. Don't go after anyone who says something like that to you. You go do your goals girl. And the right guy will come and cheer you on as you grow.

driven159 · Accepted Answer

moving in too fast is an issue you need to know a person better to do that living together is like being married it is best you find things early then wasting your time spinning your wheels once you have moved out its less likely to move back in people don't change so it might be best to move on and complete your goals

69Bruh69 · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry to hear that. So far, in true honesty, I don't think there's much hope for you to get back together, but that's not your fault. Its your choice I guess to decide whether you will wait for him to be less emotional or try and move on to a other relationship.