Would you have sex on your first date?

Question

scenario: you're on your first date and everything is going well. you both like each other. would you hold out for a second date or you'll just go for it?

Zeus_66 · Accepted Answer

It's a really good question, actually. Because it isn't easy to answer. Honestly, I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. I've experienced this twice, but one of them technically doesn't count, and that's the one I'm going to tell you about. To me, it was one of the most erotic experiences of my life...

I never dated the girl. In fact, this story is about meeting her for the first time, who I would come to find out, worked in my office! Here goes...

I was a single guy living in Japan. Many of the people (but not all) who lived in my apartment complex worked at the same company I worked for. It was recommended by the company. Anyway, we had common areas. You know, places to socialize, do laundry, etc. I was doing laundry and headed to the dryer to check on my clothes, and in the party room sits this gorgeous girl, all by herself. I mean she was hot! Red hot! She was 21 or 22. Extremely firm, filled out, and some of the nicest skin I've ever seen on a woman. So of course I was gonna go and talk to her.

I go in and introduce myself, and she says hello back with such a big smile and sense of relief, like I did her a favor coming in and talking to her. She was half Asian, half white (important to the story for what I'm getting ready to say), and had these amazingly deep blue eyes that I was instantly lost in.

She says hello and introduces herself. She immediately follows up and tells me that she just got in from the airport from California and the airline lost her luggage, and she asks me if I could help her out. It should be quite obvious to everyone reading this that I was quite turned on and the hormones are now flowing like crazy. I told her of course I'd help her out. What did she need? She goes on to tell me the apartment manager said her apartment wouldn't be ready until the next day, so she needed a place to stay, get something to eat, take a shower, etc. This is two minutes into meeting her, and I knew right then and there we were gonna f--- like rabbits. I was like, "Of course! Come with me!" I got my laundry and we went back to my apartment.

Once there, I gave her a towel and put out a shirt and shorts for her, as well as a brand new pair of boxers. She took a long, hot shower. And when she came out of the bathroom, she thanked me for the clothes. I simply said to her she was welcome and if she had any ideas on what she wanted to eat for dinner, as I was going to bring her out and welcome her to Japan. She dropped her towel and unleashed her PERFECT naked body, and I swear, she said, "No, but I know what you can eat. So come and get it!"

Needless to say, we didn't make it out to dinner. We went at it several times over the next 12 hours, with the night ending with her sleeping in my arms. I was in absolute heaven.

Anyway, she ended up in her apartment, got her luggage and we parted ways. Come to find out she worked in my office! But what was so cool about it was she was so nonchalant about the ordeal. We ended up becoming friends, with occasional benefits until I moved back to the States.

Wow! It was such an experience. One I will never forget. And thinking about it makes me aroused every single time. Well, time to go find the wife for some afternoon delight!

Thanks for listening.

BlueStripedSoul · Accepted Answer

No. I'd want to know her better before having sex with her. I'm not like some (most?) guys who might rush right into it. I'm not interested in just sex. I want a relationship too (or else what's the point in dating?), so I'd want to get to know her a bit more before sharing that kind of intimacy with someone. Just the way I am. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Andro36 · Accepted Answer

Personally I couldnt. And I speak very hipotetically cause Im happily married but I really need to know someone better. What if he has a STD? What if he has bad breath or any other bad smell I can't detect easily? What if he is a pig? I really need more time but I dont judge people who do it. Atttraction can be very strong

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Absolutely not. Even if everything was going great I would still like to get to know the person a lot more before doing anything like that.

laurieluvsit · Answer

If the chemistry is all there then no reason to wait. Life is short :)

Kori1236 · Answer

Personally no; I need that emotional connection too. So I need to get to know him, and trust him before having sec with him

MrCommodore · Answer

Usually I will purposely avoid sex on first date if I really like the woman.

Bmories99 · Answer

I would like to hold out. I prefer to get to know the person well. I also prefer the woman to let me know when she is ready.

Avicenna · Answer

If the chemistry is good and the attraction is strong and we feel like we're going to be a couple soon, I don't see why we'd hesitate

mandyfire98 · Answer

If we both hit it off really well and the chemistry was great I would.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

As a man just go for it. If i was a woman or advising a daughter id say never ever ever under any circumstances have sex on the first date or with anyone casually. If you do it even one time you just shoot your dating value in the foot and can never recover.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If it naturally came about sure. Wouldn't force the issue. What's wrong with two consenting adults wanting a bit of fun?

Nikki1989 · Answer

If the time feels right, I would just go for it.

WhitneySnow · Answer

If I wasn’t a virgin I would wait at least a month before having sex with someone. I’d wanna make sure they really liked me and I really liked them.

AviatorTom · Answer

I've had sex on a first date, and other times not. It depends on how well you get along on that first date... if there's chemistry and you're both willing, why not?

RobT312 · Answer

Yes if we were both feeling it and had a connection, I’d go for it. I had many first dates that ended in bed. It’s fun and passionate  i have also waited for date 2

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Hmm a lot depends on the emotional connection with the person, how long known them, and other stuff. i have in the past but it’s fairly crap without that emotional connection,

TheBootyChest · Answer

Not likely. At least its not my idea. If she isn't drunk AF and initiates it then I might go along with it.

Lycanthropic · Answer

I'd have sex, but I'd never commit to her. She's just a fuck buddy/booty call at that point.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it's bad, but I had sex on the first date with my boyfriend. It worked out pretty well for us though

fonduegirl · Answer

Probably. If he doesn't come around for second date, that just shows that he only viewed me as a sex object. Next!

Gent207 · Answer

I don't even kiss on the first date  Rule 1

20yearsolder · Answer

As long as she's down to have sex on the first date, I'm all in. Hell yes I would

WeirdoFriendly · Answer

I suppose it depends on whether the woman I'm on the date with wants to have sex or not. I'm always down for it but I'm not going to say anything unless she mentions it.

Ironic_Method · Answer

My relationships tend to be very sexual in nature so it's fairly common. I do make sure they are clean prior which has caused for a LOT of canceled first dates.

Kreneman · Answer

I did this before and I will never do that again because it's better to wait and to know the person.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I have at times, things just clicked and there we were, naked in the hot tub. Other dates it could have been 8 dates or more.

SeekingSubmission · Answer

To be completely honest yes and I prefer to have sex on the first date because he gets it out of the way and there's no awkward f****** b******* after that!

OddBeMe · Answer

Depends. I personally need to know them. Get a feel for their personality which would take more than one night. But the first “offical date” may be after all that, so I would.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

If I'm forced to, I won't object.  But it's not my major goal.

JakeS00 · Answer

No, I would not. I'd want something to flourish which is why a date transpired.

Anonymous · Answer

I’d plow her, it sure if I’d be in it for the long haul but I’d go on a few more dates knowing I’d probably hit it again.

zagor · Answer

I have, but not often. Usually I don't bother with a second date because there hasn't been much interesting I've run into lately.

Alex8736 · Answer

It's one of those "you would have to be there at the moment"

worldscolide · Answer

I would not be the one to initiate. Its too much like casual sex to me, which i do not do.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. I have to love and trust her for that to happen. And unless I already knew her for a long time before that it would be impossible on a first date.

Chaser3232 · Answer

That’s the decision you have to make for yourself prior to the date, And be OK with your decision!

Freyke · Answer

If the date went great I can make it greater. But it does make me wonder how she views us.

CloudMassacre · Answer

I wouldn’t, I need more time to feel comfortable with someone

Shy_Steve · Answer

I don't think I would ask her if She wanted to go to my place, I would probably just try asking for another Date.

Paul09 · Answer

If it was just for sex , then yes. If it was for a serious relationship, like I rather have, no. I rather get to know her, before I have sex with her.

Cubus · Answer

Of course not. You can't trust someone at this point.

Anonymous · Answer

I always follow my heart and do what feels right. When there’s chemistry and we click then things have to just kind of happen.

Twalli · Answer

I don't have sex that early in relationships. Oral can happen though

Jerre · Answer

I would know by the end of the date whether or not she wanted to have sex

JohnK123 · Answer

Only if she wants and we know each other well before the date

TotallyAlmost · Answer

No. I don't think that's a good idea. People should get to know and trust each other first.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Quite possible… Sex is extremely high on my needs list for a relationship

Moonshae · Answer

I have a couple times. Usually there is no second date. However most times I don't

Logan_96v · Answer

No, I’ve only slept with two people, and I view sex without emotional connection to be wrong (for me, you do you).

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Having sex on the first date is a bit impulsive, don't you think?

Anonymous · Answer

As a male... yes. That is why we date you in the first place. As a female, I wouldn’t suggest it. It sets your value.

SlothySlob · Answer

I'm naturally paranoid, do I probably wouldn't.

driven159 · Answer

I would wait if you really got along then you will have more opportunities for that getting to know each other might make for a better night of sex

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't on a first or even a second for me there needs to be a connection/commitment to become intimate.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, if that's what I was looking for and she agreed.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Depends how long I've known the person prior

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Not on the first date

Keepitreal007 · Answer

I don’t live that kind of life style but if I did sounds fun!!

James899 · Answer

Won't have sex. But will surely kiss her

Paige90 · Answer

Maybe... if Iiked him and had a good time.

Anonymous · Answer

I go for it. I would actually dive-in her pussy & start licking

ND4SPD31 · Answer

It depends. I wouldn’t want to come off as desperate but I do have a high sex drive!!

Hell_boy · Answer

If we both like each other and both want to do it, Then Helll yesss. Why NoTttt!!!✌️

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