It just depends on the chemistry and connection and attraction for each other , you can’t really set a time limit considering anyone new we meet is still a 50/50 chance on whether it’s going to go anywhere or not , all and all you should never feel forced to do anything you don’t want to do. Sometimes in life we come across someone that is absolutely amazing to us and the sparks are there instantly I call it the butterfly feeling when a girl to me is absolutely gorgeous and her and I instantly know we are both fully attracted to each other and we have a lot in common , we both feel we are meant to be together and we end up in bed together , My intentions are to keep her in my life and to see her more and more and get to know each other more and more but again it’s still a 50/50 chance on whether she really feels the same way I do , Me personally can’t just have sex with someone for the hell of it , I have to feel it means something and it’s going to go somewhere , if I don’t feel that with a girl I am not going to have sex with her, we might kiss and make out but that’s about how far I will go until I am completely sure if I want to continue to see her more and more , so again for me it comes down to the butterfly feeling , If I have the butterfly feeling it’s possible that I will have sex with her the first night.
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Never had sex on a first date and don't really consider it. There was only one time I was really wanting to have sex with the girl upon first meeting, but the whole "date" turned out not to be so good anyway.
I think naturally the vast majority of people going on a serious date - key words there - are not interested in sex for the first time, even if they do think the other person is attractive. Could partially be nervousness, and then also because they're really wanting to know about the other person and try to connect with them.
I would have to say that asking the question means your morals are too high for the risk of a one night stand. (Usually, sex on the first date is only a one night stand, that's why I say that)
I've made some bad decisions in my life but the one thing I've never done is disrespect myself by going against the standards I hold myself to. I don't know any women my age that can honestly say they've been with less than a handful of guys (4 guys total for me) and I'm proud of that. I don't think I'm better than anyone, I just know that to have never compromised my beliefs is a feat to be proud of.
That being said, I would say no, sex on the first date is not something you should do because I think you'll regret doing it.
I warn women to be careful when it comes to sleeping with guys on first dates. Girls open to sleeping with guys on first dates put themselves at risk of being taken advantage of. There are a lot of perverts out there who would intentionally lead you on, be charming, so that you would sleep with you. then they will never see you again. I personally know a lot of guys who do this.
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I have been dating and in relationships for fifty years. When I was younger, I did that probably seven or eight times and none of those relationships lasted very long. Not one of them. The last time I did that was perhaps fifteen years ago and I reaffirmed the notion that it is a mistake if you are looking for a relationship and not just casual sex.
Depends where you and the other person are in life. If you are looking to get a serious relationship and marriage, not a good idea. Exceptions aside, most first date sex ends the relationships after so long because sex is easy and a lot of the challenge is not there.
Now for the older safer, say after 40, it doesn't matter. You all have been around the block a few times. You know what you like, and some people just don't like the game anymore. They know what they like and are upfront what that is. They might be able to pull off a relationship with easy sex. But again they are often not looking for. marriage either. Most guys are not dumb enough at that latter age.
I think it really depends on the guy I mean and the whole situation I used to go out and have one night stands when I was younger nowadays when I go out with somebody it's because I really want to go out with them there's something that I'd really like about them and I'm not looking at it as me getting a piece of ass so it really depends on the guy nowadays if I was to go out with somebody and we were to have sex on the first day I would actually kind of respect her more because she's being her own person and she wants to do it too she's not doing what society says not to do or to do but like I said don't listen to anything that I'm saying because I'm not like any other guy and for me it would be okay nowadays in the past no it would mean that I was just for a piece of ass that's it
A few days ago I learned of a sailor that tested positive for Chlamydia. I know several females that have had STDs and been treated. I also know of some that have the type you can't get a shot for. I have engaged in sexual activity during a first date, but I always wear a condom. At 64 I don't date much anymore. When I did I was testing her. No, not if she would put out, I was testing to see how much of a (Redacted) she was on the b****hness scale. For me, there was a difference between a first date and a real date. A first date was a hotdog and a coke followed by some general chit-chat. If all went well and she agreed most of the time I invited her to my place where I cooked a meal at a later time. As a male, I am always considering sex on the first date, but if she put out I almost always held it against her. Today I know that is a sexist attitude. Still doesn't change how I was.
I never had sex on a first date. But girls and I have started dating exclusively right after a first date, become steady partners, and began having sex early on in our relationship.
That's what I always preferred.
I don't see why sex would prevent two people from getting to know each other.The thought comes to mind, but never did nor is it a good idea because of all the risks and consequences. Eventhough the thrill is strong since there is mystery, it's a bad idea. Be an adult and accept your choices and decisions... and don't trust those damn hormones.. they lie and deceive for their designed purpose, and it doesn't equate to your well being!:)
I have never planned on it happening, but once in a while it has happened.
The vast majority of times it doesn't.
Sometimes maybe the 3rd to 5th date, sometimes longer.
It happens or if it happens when it's time.
Both parties' kind of know when it is right.I wouldn't do that, a lot of guys loose interest and respect if you give up that fast and easy. They will think every guy before them probably got in just as easy and will dip out. Plus you don't know each other yet.. slow down.
I seriously could wait a long time or even all the way to marriage for the right girl.
But I’ve tried “waiting” when I was much younger before and guess what happened? The girl got bored with my chivalry and hoped in the sack with first asshole that made her get the hitters.
So for me it’s just not about gratification. I would do it early to “stake a claim” about where I stand. It’s about showing that the friendzone is not nor will ever be an option.
Not a good idea, in my opinion. Well, not if you want it to turn into a relationship anyway. And actually, even if you don't care about relationship potential, still a bad idea. People in general, but women especially, have to be careful about going places with men they don't know. When I go on first dates (like true first dates where this is the first time meeting the person), I don't ride in their car with them, I don't leave public areas, etc. Better safe than sorry.
If I don't think they are sexual candidates, I don't go out with them in the first place.
That 'is' one way I do get to know them better... lol
I would yes lol, I got talking to a girl on the phone who I never met FYI and first phone call and she was playing with her pussy. I noticed she was heavy breathing and I was like hey are you mastubating? She was like yes 🙌. Never met her sadly but she definitely horny so if I did meet her I may have been in with a chance.
Sometimes but I don’t go on a lot of dates, as a lesbian I’ve only been on one or two. I usually just make lots of friends and sometimes it gets sexual.
No, but I do think this shirt is funny.
Simple answer no. Because the connection on the first date is not going to be so deep that I would consider that. I´m also not interested in sending or receiving nudes because I´m not looking for a sex relationship but mostly an emotional one.
Have. Almost always sucks. Sex is better when you’re already familiar with the penis attached to the person.
I never rule anything out for a first date. If the vibe and chemistry led to sex then I guess thats cool.
I would much prefer to wait though. Just till we're comfortable and know eachother better.Totally depends on the person and the vibe of the date. If things are going well but there's no sexual energy then no and that's fine, most young men definitely will want it the first date whether they often get it or not though lol.
It would really depend on how much we have talked beforehand. If I intend to have a long term relationship with the person, I might not risk it by having sex on the first date and have them think I only want to have sex.
I had a few first dates that ended up being an all night thing... and usually we didn't date too long after it seems. I'd say the longest relationships I've had were when we dated for a bit before having sex.
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