Do you have sex on your first date? Why or why not?

[Princesspd]

I have slept with men on my very first date. This tells me if I should continue seeing them or not.

[SallyTho87]

No. I prefer to establish respect first, obtain trust between us both, get comfortable with the person, and learn about each other and build connection (ie; emotionally, intimately, friendship wise, etc) prior to engaging in any type of sexual activity.
This is a total stranger I am meeting for the first time in a romantic way, who is also interested in meeting me. Sexual chemistry is important, but it is something that can be learned, adapted to, and changes over time. Respect, genuine connection, intrapersonal and interpersonal connection, as well as learning about religious beliefs, values, traditional views, and expectations of the relationship are FAR more important than sex. I do not engage in sexual activities until I have built some type of relationship, trust, and I received that commitment / effort and clarity of expectations in return.

[SotiCoto]

The concept of literally "dating", as far as I can tell, is a weird sort of cultural import from America.
At least when I was younger, the norm was to go out and get drunk at a pub or club or something and just come home with someone and have sex with them... and it may or may not go from there. That going out to dinner with someone suggested you were already in a relationship with them.
But given how many other American norms have been absorbed as normal via the Internet here in Britain in recent decades, I wouldn't be surprised if other people here were actually doing the "dating" thing literally like yanks do.

In any case, most of my experiences came in the earlier days of Internet relationship sites... and consisted of getting to know people online, interacting with them online... skipping all the "dating" stuff and going straight to the relationship stuff.

[RebelinSteel]

Usually not, various reasons but it tends to be a few dates in. I have however had sex with girls before dating them, well before getting into a relationship. Worked in same place (but not directly with them), for about 2 months, hit it off big time and ended up having sex.

[mandyfire98]

If the chemistry is amazing then it's definitely happened lol.

[godfatherfan]

I am curious... How does sleeping with a guy on the first date tell you anything? my experience tells me the first time having sex usually goes pretty bad. Not always, but usually. Nothing seems to go right because both people are nervous. You don't know each other yet, so you don't know what does it for them. She usually doesn't want me to eat her out, which is my specialty. So that puts me at a bad disadvantage if I can't talk her into it.

[Princesspd]

That we are compatible sexually.

[godfatherfan]

It is seriously messed up if you are judging anything on the first time. You will probably miss out on great men. As I stated, most of my first times have been horrible. But typically, they get better the more you know someone, and the more comfortable you are with them.

[Kaneki05]

How does sleeping with a man on the first date tell you that?
My knowledge is lacking but I could bet my life on sleeping with someone right away is different experience to what could delivered after months of creating a good bond?
So is a one night stand right away really a fair judge?

[Surely]

What are you saying? If he doesn’t want sex on the first date. There won’t be a second chance? If he doesn’t rock your world on the first date. Won’t be another chance?
For me. If there is mutual interest in getting between the sheets. Then it may happen. If things don’t get hot and sticky and she doesn’t want a second date. There are more fish in the pond!

[Zbrody1997]

Same, if you’re that willing to get in bed with me on the first date that’s a major red flag. How dare you view me as a sex object when we just met. At least get to know me first.

[Samantha36]

Iv never dated anyone that iv not slept with

[Flyergirl]

Never. I want to get to know the guy and make him work for it. Besides I love the chase.

[moneymagnet24]

You deserve to be get Chase 😘

[Julie_TS]

It's not a given that it will happen, but if things go well, it's certainly on the table.

[elizamichale1]

Yup I do so I would know if I m coming for 2nd date or not lol

[JHAYES317]

@elizamichale1 but then the relationship is based entirely around how good the dick is lol…you might as well just wave a sign that says “big dicks only” lol

[boderlinelightskin]

Clever

[boderlinelightskin]

@JHAYES317 good idea, more for me lol

[elizamichale1]

@JHAYES317 if it was entirely based on how gud the dick is then a date or sum time to sit together won't be necessary... right? so yeah i do waant big dicks n how they use their big dicks but it doenst mean thats the only criteria...

[JHAYES317]

@elizamichale1 well you said 5 inches is ok but then said you only want big dicks so I’m confused now lol

[Nerdvana]

Yes, I have had sex on a first date a few time. It's so amazing.

[exitseven]

I never did. I want to get to know them little first. Although I suppose if they asked me to I would.

[9in_Serpent]

Always i mean whats the whole point of going on dates if you dont?

[At3mis24]

Going on dates doesn"t mean share a bed at the begining!!

[9in_Serpent]

Of course not but it also doesn’t mean you don’t either.

[At3mis24]

I don't and I'll never do this. If a man wants sex with me, He needs to do something before on romantic side.

[9in_Serpent]

Sure but thats what am saying you both decide when the moment is right maybe not on the first date but hopefully on the 6th date

[DJB72]

Nope. Whether it's offered or not tells me if there's going to be a second date...

[DrPepper12]

I would. Don't see the problem if we both want to.

[boobliker]

always like to but not most of the time first date its lust!

[Nikki1989]

When the time is right, it is right.

[LiamJHayden]

Not since I decided I wanted a genuine connection first, so before my 21st birthday. Prior to that, yes, usually even before the first date.

[Hanrej]

Depends on mood and Chemistry but yes, it happens.

[Jerre]

Yes, I have sex on my first date because we both are horny as hell.

[worldscolide]

No, because it's too much like casual sex, which I do not do.

[hafinjun]

Yes. It gets all that tension about will she or won't she. Let's you be your selves