Do you have sex on your first date? Why or why not?

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I have slept with men on my very first date. This tells me if I should continue seeing them or not.

SotiCoto · Accepted Answer

The concept of literally "dating", as far as I can tell, is a weird sort of cultural import from America.
At least when I was younger, the norm was to go out and get drunk at a pub or club or something and just come home with someone and have sex with them... and it may or may not go from there. That going out to dinner with someone suggested you were already in a relationship with them.
But given how many other American norms have been absorbed as normal via the Internet here in Britain in recent decades, I wouldn't be surprised if other people here were actually doing the "dating" thing literally like yanks do.

In any case, most of my experiences came in the earlier days of Internet relationship sites... and consisted of getting to know people online, interacting with them online... skipping all the "dating" stuff and going straight to the relationship stuff.

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

Usually not, various reasons but it tends to be a few dates in. I have however had sex with girls before dating them, well before getting into a relationship. Worked in same place (but not directly with them), for about 2 months, hit it off big time and ended up having sex.

SallyTho87 · Accepted Answer

No. I prefer to establish respect first, obtain trust between us both, get comfortable with the person, and learn about each other and build connection (ie; emotionally, intimately, friendship wise, etc) prior to engaging in any type of sexual activity.
This is a total stranger I am meeting for the first time in a romantic way, who is also interested in meeting me. Sexual chemistry is important, but it is something that can be learned, adapted to, and changes over time. Respect, genuine connection, intrapersonal and interpersonal connection, as well as learning about religious beliefs, values, traditional views, and expectations of the relationship are FAR more important than sex. I do not engage in sexual activities until I have built some type of relationship, trust, and I received that commitment / effort and clarity of expectations in return.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

If the chemistry is amazing then it's definitely happened lol.

godfatherfan · Answer

I am curious... How does sleeping with a guy on the first date tell you anything? my experience tells me the first time having sex usually goes pretty bad. Not always, but usually. Nothing seems to go right because both people are nervous. You don't know each other yet, so you don't know what does it for them. She usually doesn't want me to eat her out, which is my specialty. So that puts me at a bad disadvantage if I can't talk her into it.

Kaneki05 · Answer

How does sleeping with a man on the first date tell you that?
My knowledge is lacking but I could bet my life on sleeping with someone right away is different experience to what could delivered after months of creating a good bond?
So is a one night stand right away really a fair judge?

Surely · Answer

What are you saying? If he doesn’t want sex on the first date. There won’t be a second chance? If he doesn’t rock your world on the first date. Won’t be another chance?
For me. If there is mutual interest in getting between the sheets. Then it may happen. If things don’t get hot and sticky and she doesn’t want a second date. There are more fish in the pond!

Flyergirl · Answer

Never. I want to get to know the guy and make him work for it. Besides I love the chase.

Zbrody1997 · Answer

Same, if you’re that willing to get in bed with me on the first date that’s a major red flag. How dare you view me as a sex object when we just met. At least get to know me first.

Samantha36 · Answer

Iv never dated anyone that iv not slept with

Julie_TS · Answer

It's not a given that it will happen, but if things go well, it's certainly on the table.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yup I do so I would know if I m coming for 2nd date or not lol

Nerdvana · Answer

Yes, I have had sex on a first date a few time. It's so amazing.

exitseven · Answer

I never did. I want to get to know them little first. Although I suppose if they asked me to I would.

9in_Serpent · Answer

Always i mean whats the whole point of going on dates if you dont?

DJB72 · Answer

Nope. Whether it's offered or not tells me if there's going to be a second date...

DrPepper12 · Answer

I would. Don't see the problem if we both want to.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i've only done it once. she was fun and we dated for 3 months. then i had to move.

Nikki1989 · Answer

When the time is right, it is right.

boobliker · Answer

always like to but not most of the time first date its lust!

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not since I decided I wanted a genuine connection first, so before my 21st birthday. Prior to that, yes, usually even before the first date.

Hanrej · Answer

Depends on mood and Chemistry but yes, it happens.

Jerre · Answer

Yes, I have sex on my first date because we both are horny as hell.

worldscolide · Answer

No, because it's too much like casual sex, which I do not do.

hafinjun · Answer

Yes. It gets all that tension about will she or won't she. Let's you be your selves

Anonymous · Answer

I have no interest in having sex on a first date, and I have no interest in women who would.

At3mis24 · Answer

Sex in a first date is too early and cringe

HawkPerception · Answer

Farthest I've went on a first date is a kiss.

rachel776 · Answer

i have done

Jennz6 · Answer

Good idea

Alice18 · Answer

Yes , oral

PhilRod · Answer

Yes, he had a huge cock

Anonymous · Answer

I would never too scared for that

Amur8711 · Answer

Never

mickeysmonkey · Answer

Good test

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