Why are males so intimidated by funny goofy women?

Question

Im very funny. But i spent most of my life hiding who i an because i was made to feel like being goofy and funny and wanting to laugh 24 7 is a bad thing.

Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

This surely has to be one of the most ridiculous questions I've ever come across on this platform, and I've seen my fair share.

Allow me to bust your bubble ma'am, the reason why guys don't deal with you isn't because of your sense of humor, but your inadequacies in other areas. I can be petty and point to your grammatical mistakes as a sign of laziness/low intelligence, but even if I let that one slide, you come across as one-dimensional.

First of all, let's define what you mean by "very funny". What I noticed is that most people who call themselves funny, or brag about their sense of humor are not funny at all. If you are funny, people would let you know. Also ma'am no offense, but nobody is intimidated by you, because you're not a threat in the slightest way imaginable. You have to understand that words have meanings and you cannot just use them out of context.

Now let's get to the core of this, shall we? According to you, men are repulsed by "goofy women". The truth is that men value a woman with a decent sense of humor, but it needs to be by our standards, not yours. Most girls that call themselves funny make period jokes and tell hoe stories, there's absolutely no substance to it. The "female comedians" are who I'm talking about, and Amy Schmur is the perfect example.

Just watch this clip for reference:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/sXdF8PgD3Cc

Enough cringe for the next 24 months, guaranteed.

If we do assume like you're nothing like Amy and you're actually legitimately funny, then like I said, you have a lack of self-awareness to point out the real issue that's causing men to stay away from you, which is most likely gonna be your attitude. I read another question of a GAG member asking why men are "intimidated by smart women" and this is just similar to it in a lot of ways. Sometimes it's you that's the problem, not other people.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

There almost are no "funny goofy women" in existence. For every Kristen Wiig, you get about a hundred Amy Schumers, Sara Silvermans, and Whitney Cummings. Keep in mind, "laughing at yourself" and having a sense of humor isn't the same thing as being funny or goofy.

Not to be "that guy," but women in general can't take a joke and get offended BY EVERYTHING! That's why I learned to stop making jokes around women unless it's on the internet or something. Women are a natural buzzkill to comedy. Even fake women; just ask Dave Chapelle all about that!

The fact that you had to crap on men by saying "we're 'intimidated' by funny women" proves to me you are not at all funny. This is the same thing as "You're a misogynist if you didn't like Ghostbusters 2016." Actual funny people don't need to call people bigots and "fragile male egos" in order to prove how "funny" they are. You didn't ask "Are males intimated by funny goody women?" You asked "WHY ARE males intimated by funny goody women?" As if that's even remotely true.

Now tell me a joke that doesn't involve your vagina or PMS and I'll see if you're actually funny or not.

Why are males so intimidated by funny goofy women?

helpmary16 · Accepted Answer

Ignore these guys- they're likely to be unconscious of their own biases and/or offended for being called out.

Here's the thing- humor is correlated with intelligence. It's actually been scientifically proven that men are attracted to intelligent women... from far away. When taking a test in the same room as a woman and informed that the woman scored higher than them... men consistently rated the woman as less attractive.

check it out:

The fact that they rated intelligent women as more attractive when not interacting with her shows that they aren't likely to admit this bias, and may not even be aware of it. Some men, as clearly shown in the answers, will get angry at you for even inquiring. My guess is that they are pre-programmed to seek out mates who are more submissive and therefore easier to control as mates, and intelligent women are less obedient. Funny women, likewise, are more likely to outsmart them or mock them.

tiajoka · Accepted Answer

My humor hits home with about 50% of people, the other half it falls flat on. Generally it's men who laugh at my jokes. I'd say it works in my favor for dating about 50% of the time as well. I just like making people laugh. But the thing is that people don't take you seriously when thats all you do, and they may value as entertainment rather than as an actual person. So their view of you is shallow, and they move on as soon as they get bored or find something more entertaining.

macjets007 · Answer

This is my type, so I don't know precisely. My theory is that immature & insecure dudes like to be dominant in regard to dating (at most stages).

Most men want a quiet, subservient person who doesn't talk a lot. Sound nuts? It is, a majority of dudes simply have no personality. When your personality brightens up the room, they don't feel like the center of attention I suppose.

Also, funny women usually are confident, and this is not for most dudes. The alpha male who is comfortable with himself is usually looking for this kind of women!

Don't worry, you will find someone who appreciates this; it's a sign of intelligence and independent thinking! From what I hear from women I am friends with, there are a lot of men who are good looking, but have no personality aka a "dud" opposed to a stud lol

Sour-rose · Answer

Very unlikely but those who act goofy might come off to them as crazy. As in "she's one of them. She's gonna drug me, drag me to the woods and rip off my toe and finger nails while wearing a clown mask while laughin and have me tied up so I can't move."

MrButty88 · Answer

I've never met a "funny" goofy woman before.

I met goofy women, but never "funny" goofy women.

I think what you mean goofy women. males aren't intimidated by goofy women. They just get annoyed by them because these types of women aren't as funny as they think they are.

jshm2 · Answer

We aren't.

You're probably crazy or suffering ADD or something and not as "funny" as you like to think.

Laughing 24/7 is what a mental patient does. Hence why we lock them away for their own good.

Also, it's a golden rule: never date crazy, never breed crazy.

BlackKidWitGlasses · Answer

I can't take a goofy girl seriously. I deadass hate goofy girls, cause they have less understanding of boundaries in the means of communication. Meaning, if she doesn't take herself seriously she probably won't take you seriously either, which is why I can't take her seriously.

Never in my life would I date a goofy chick. The most annoying disrespectful girls there are. I stay the fuck away.

Anonymous · Answer

Whoever told you that is an idiot. Men love women who are funny if you can find a girl like that. But most women aren’t funny, most women don’t have a sense of humor. Look at how many successful women comedians there are. By whose standards are you funny? Your own? Family?

Anonymous · Answer

Its not intimidating, its more concerning. We want to have fun, yes; but you need to have a ballance between being plain and jovial. Men probably see it as immature and childish in the same way women view man-children.

Perhaps hold back until you find someone and reveal this once you're a thing.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Are they really?

If someone can let their guard down and just be fun to be around, that sounds amazing to me.

Obviously you'd have to be serious sometimes, because life has problems and bad stuff happens unfortunately.

YHL6965 · Answer

We aren't? What's the deal about women thinking they intimidate men so much? Sometimes, we are just repulsed or not interested. In your case, I doubt it's because you're being funny or goofy, there is probably something you're not seeing or not telling us about yourself.

DirkCoenen · Answer

It depends. Are these men introverted? Are these girls loud and drawing attention? I think this is more of a personality question rather than a gender question.

CA4444 · Answer

Yeah I don’t think men are intimidated at all, for some reason it’s just a stereotype that women have in their head that they should be serious or something

JDBSLAOQ · Answer

bec theyre not into humour. you'll find that people who dont like "goofy"/funny people are also people that generally dont joke around themselves either

Phoenix98 · Answer

I actually find that attractive.

But there is a difference between thinking your goofy and funny and actually being goofy and funny.

Lots of people think they are funny and goofy. But not all of them are

Anonymous · Answer

Have you ever seen the difference between male and female comedians?

Most of the female one aren't funny and even if they are most of their jokes are sexual and relationship based. Whereas many top male comedians can pull off fun from the everyday stories. Now coming to regular girls. It's lovely to see goofy women. But girls take things personally way faster than men. Even the ones I know get offended by sarcasm.

DermalPunch · Answer

I'm a woman and I think women wry wit is the best type of humor to cultivate as a woman. Not their bodies. I don't like goofy men either but it is particularly unnappealing on women.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Uh who said that's intimidating? Why do you think that's a bad thing? Sounds like to me you're afraid of being yourself. Silly goofy humor is attractive. Afraid of being yourself is unattractive. Be confident in who you are.

jasco · Answer

Not sure how you got the image that men are intimidated by funny women. Most men like girls who are easy going and funny. However most people don't like listening to someone who has bad jokes, isn't funny or just has a ugly laugh.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Can’t relate, maybe it’s a generational thing? Of course Comedy’s also objective/subjective/whichever is the right word for this context, so what may be funny to one person just sounds lame to another.

Anonymous · Answer

Intimated, probably not. More likely pleasantly surprised.

Women are some of the most humorless people I know, maybe thats just me. I mean, there is a movement that claims to speak on behalf of women as a collective and they would rather see the concept of jokes be removed entirely.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Could it possibly be that you are the type of woman that babbles and babbles endlessly and men can't get a word in edgewise?

genericname85 · Answer

why do women always believe that a man not going for a girl MUST be intimidation? like are there no other reasons a man does not want a girl other than that?

Lionman95 · Answer

I wouldn´t say they are intimated they might just friendzone you meaning they don´t see you as a girlfriend but rather as a person to hang out with.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I’m naturally goofy and light hearted so I would welcome it personally

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's not intimidating at all. The only negative aspect I would say is that funny women can get annoying if they aren't actualy funny.

Dan_cColt · Answer

Cause men and women can have different ideas of what's funny, what you might consider funny most men might consider annoying or kinda lame jokes.

RedThread · Answer

I'm not. I prefer someone with a sense of humor. Life is too short to be serious all the time.

BeMuse · Answer

We're not. You're probably just not funny and more so crazy...

NNWSSEnew · Answer

We feel you shouldn't have to feel anyway just be yourself most try to become funny an fale bad without trying to pick them self up and just because there nice looking or so men don't care what it is.

TheCougarHunter · Answer

I'm afraid of funny women because I have a poor sense of humour myself and I have always been terrified that I could never match the humour of such a lady if I ever met one

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

I love them personally. I think it's because those girls are intelligent and most guys want someone to manipulate. You can't manipulate a smart girl easily.

Sixgunsound · Answer

That’s news to me. If you’re funny bring it on!

OneManOnly01 · Answer

Because such a girl seems like she might have a Harley Quinn like personality😂

Sarahplus2 · Answer

There is being funny and then there is cracking jokes about them which I don't do.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do women assume that when a man is put off by something it must mean that he’s intimidated by it?

Juxtapose · Answer

I have met very few women or people in general with comedic talent. Usually people have to be in the mood for it and find the right moment.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

They aren't. Funny and goofy can be good if she is actually funny. Funny and goofy is annoying if she isn't funny. Same goes for guys.

Shamalien · Answer

Translation: anytime a woman asks why men are “intimidated” they mean “not attracted to”. I personally love goofy women tho

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I’m not intimidated. More so turned off if they’re too goofy

worldscolide · Answer

Im not. i love em.. My wife is very funny and goofy..

litty · Answer

People have different senses of humor. Some like pranks, some like slapstick. What's yours?

Twalli · Answer

I am very goofy and funny with my girlfriend. I want to be with someone who can make me laugh and someone I can make laugh.

Chthou95 · Answer

He we go with the "men are intimidated" post. Men aren't intimidated. a lot of women just simply aren't funny

Anonymous · Answer

I think you may be mistaking something else for intimidation.

Anonymous · Answer

Some men don't like their woman stealing the show from them.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do women with undesirable personalities always think men are "intimidated" by them? Lol

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

Only one of us can be hilarious. I prefer that it be me.

Valso · Answer

Then you've been dating messed up in the head men.

russianpsychopath · Answer

I'm not. I think they're really cool. I like hanging out with those types of girls.

Lickmymeet · Answer

Only women who don’t hold themselves accountable use terms like why are men intimidated by (blank)

Anonymous · Answer

Males aren’t. ”Funny” women are usually not actually funny. They are “female funny” which is usually just obnoxious and loud.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I’m not intimidated but some girls can be over enthusiastic

icetome · Answer

why would we be intimidated by a 5 foot 90 pound creature ?

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

That's the kind of girls I look for because I'm the same way... not everyone can handle that

ronaldo75 · Answer

Your experiences mean "most men". Wow. Let me guess you're white?

Waldoe · Answer

some guys want a serious relationship, a wife, children, not a cartoon version of a woman

OddBeMe · Answer

My youtube playlist of hot chicks are mostly standup comedians.

Anonymous · Answer

You wouldn’t happen to live in LA by any chance?

barn_stormer · Answer

we're not. I think it's great!

Jouth · Answer

BECAUSE IT'S SO SCARY UGHHH I'M SO INTIMIDATED!!!

Anonymous · Answer

No one is intimidated by women like that. They get avoided because they're not actually funny.

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