Why are males so intimidated by funny goofy women?

[Anonymous]

Im very funny. But i spent most of my life hiding who i an because i was made to feel like being goofy and funny and wanting to laugh 24 7 is a bad thing.

[Datboi65]

This surely has to be one of the most ridiculous questions I've ever come across on this platform, and I've seen my fair share.

Allow me to bust your bubble ma'am, the reason why guys don't deal with you isn't because of your sense of humor, but your inadequacies in other areas. I can be petty and point to your grammatical mistakes as a sign of laziness/low intelligence, but even if I let that one slide, you come across as one-dimensional.

First of all, let's define what you mean by "very funny". What I noticed is that most people who call themselves funny, or brag about their sense of humor are not funny at all. If you are funny, people would let you know. Also ma'am no offense, but nobody is intimidated by you, because you're not a threat in the slightest way imaginable. You have to understand that words have meanings and you cannot just use them out of context.

Now let's get to the core of this, shall we? According to you, men are repulsed by "goofy women". The truth is that men value a woman with a decent sense of humor, but it needs to be by our standards, not yours. Most girls that call themselves funny make period jokes and tell hoe stories, there's absolutely no substance to it. The "female comedians" are who I'm talking about, and Amy Schmur is the perfect example.

Just watch this clip for reference:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/sXdF8PgD3Cc

Enough cringe for the next 24 months, guaranteed.

If we do assume like you're nothing like Amy and you're actually legitimately funny, then like I said, you have a lack of self-awareness to point out the real issue that's causing men to stay away from you, which is most likely gonna be your attitude. I read another question of a GAG member asking why men are "intimidated by smart women" and this is just similar to it in a lot of ways. Sometimes it's you that's the problem, not other people.

[MCheetah]

There almost are no "funny goofy women" in existence. For every Kristen Wiig, you get about a hundred Amy Schumers, Sara Silvermans, and Whitney Cummings. Keep in mind, "laughing at yourself" and having a sense of humor isn't the same thing as being funny or goofy.

Not to be "that guy," but women in general can't take a joke and get offended BY EVERYTHING! That's why I learned to stop making jokes around women unless it's on the internet or something. Women are a natural buzzkill to comedy. Even fake women; just ask Dave Chapelle all about that!

The fact that you had to crap on men by saying "we're 'intimidated' by funny women" proves to me you are not at all funny. This is the same thing as "You're a misogynist if you didn't like Ghostbusters 2016." Actual funny people don't need to call people bigots and "fragile male egos" in order to prove how "funny" they are. You didn't ask "Are males intimated by funny goody women?" You asked "WHY ARE males intimated by funny goody women?" As if that's even remotely true.

Now tell me a joke that doesn't involve your vagina or PMS and I'll see if you're actually funny or not.

[MCheetah]

"funny goofy women"

[helpmary16]

Ignore these guys- they're likely to be unconscious of their own biases and/or offended for being called out.

Here's the thing- humor is correlated with intelligence. It's actually been scientifically proven that men are attracted to intelligent women... from far away. When taking a test in the same room as a woman and informed that the woman scored higher than them... men consistently rated the woman as less attractive.

check it out:

The fact that they rated intelligent women as more attractive when not interacting with her shows that they aren't likely to admit this bias, and may not even be aware of it. Some men, as clearly shown in the answers, will get angry at you for even inquiring. My guess is that they are pre-programmed to seek out mates who are more submissive and therefore easier to control as mates, and intelligent women are less obedient. Funny women, likewise, are more likely to outsmart them or mock them.

[dazzinu69]

I am more attracted to goofy funny girls personally

[tiajoka]

My humor hits home with about 50% of people, the other half it falls flat on. Generally it's men who laugh at my jokes. I'd say it works in my favor for dating about 50% of the time as well. I just like making people laugh. But the thing is that people don't take you seriously when thats all you do, and they may value as entertainment rather than as an actual person. So their view of you is shallow, and they move on as soon as they get bored or find something more entertaining.

[macjets007]

This is my type, so I don't know precisely. My theory is that immature & insecure dudes like to be dominant in regard to dating (at most stages).

Most men want a quiet, subservient person who doesn't talk a lot. Sound nuts? It is, a majority of dudes simply have no personality. When your personality brightens up the room, they don't feel like the center of attention I suppose.

Also, funny women usually are confident, and this is not for most dudes. The alpha male who is comfortable with himself is usually looking for this kind of women!

Don't worry, you will find someone who appreciates this; it's a sign of intelligence and independent thinking! From what I hear from women I am friends with, there are a lot of men who are good looking, but have no personality aka a "dud" opposed to a stud lol

[Sour-rose]

Very unlikely but those who act goofy might come off to them as crazy. As in "she's one of them. She's gonna drug me, drag me to the woods and rip off my toe and finger nails while wearing a clown mask while laughin and have me tied up so I can't move."

[MrButty88]

I've never met a "funny" goofy woman before.

I met goofy women, but never "funny" goofy women.

I think what you mean goofy women. males aren't intimidated by goofy women. They just get annoyed by them because these types of women aren't as funny as they think they are.

[jshm2]

We aren't.

You're probably crazy or suffering ADD or something and not as "funny" as you like to think.

Laughing 24/7 is what a mental patient does. Hence why we lock them away for their own good.

Also, it's a golden rule: never date crazy, never breed crazy.

[BlackKidWitGlasses]

I can't take a goofy girl seriously. I deadass hate goofy girls, cause they have less understanding of boundaries in the means of communication. Meaning, if she doesn't take herself seriously she probably won't take you seriously either, which is why I can't take her seriously.

Never in my life would I date a goofy chick. The most annoying disrespectful girls there are. I stay the fuck away.

[Anonymous]

Whoever told you that is an idiot. Men love women who are funny if you can find a girl like that. But most women aren’t funny, most women don’t have a sense of humor. Look at how many successful women comedians there are. By whose standards are you funny? Your own? Family?

[Anonymous]

Its not intimidating, its more concerning. We want to have fun, yes; but you need to have a ballance between being plain and jovial. Men probably see it as immature and childish in the same way women view man-children.

Perhaps hold back until you find someone and reveal this once you're a thing.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Are they really?

If someone can let their guard down and just be fun to be around, that sounds amazing to me.

Obviously you'd have to be serious sometimes, because life has problems and bad stuff happens unfortunately.

[YHL6965]

We aren't? What's the deal about women thinking they intimidate men so much? Sometimes, we are just repulsed or not interested. In your case, I doubt it's because you're being funny or goofy, there is probably something you're not seeing or not telling us about yourself.

[DirkCoenen]

It depends. Are these men introverted? Are these girls loud and drawing attention? I think this is more of a personality question rather than a gender question.

[CA4444]

Yeah I don’t think men are intimidated at all, for some reason it’s just a stereotype that women have in their head that they should be serious or something

[JDBSLAOQ]

bec theyre not into humour. you'll find that people who dont like "goofy"/funny people are also people that generally dont joke around themselves either

[Phoenix98]

I actually find that attractive.

But there is a difference between thinking your goofy and funny and actually being goofy and funny.

Lots of people think they are funny and goofy. But not all of them are

[Anonymous]

Have you ever seen the difference between male and female comedians?

Most of the female one aren't funny and even if they are most of their jokes are sexual and relationship based. Whereas many top male comedians can pull off fun from the everyday stories. Now coming to regular girls. It's lovely to see goofy women. But girls take things personally way faster than men. Even the ones I know get offended by sarcasm.

[DermalPunch]

I'm a woman and I think women wry wit is the best type of humor to cultivate as a woman. Not their bodies. I don't like goofy men either but it is particularly unnappealing on women.

[DermalPunch]

I am very goofy with my kids but that's different.

[Hairylegs222]

Uh who said that's intimidating? Why do you think that's a bad thing? Sounds like to me you're afraid of being yourself. Silly goofy humor is attractive. Afraid of being yourself is unattractive. Be confident in who you are.

[jasco]

Not sure how you got the image that men are intimidated by funny women. Most men like girls who are easy going and funny. However most people don't like listening to someone who has bad jokes, isn't funny or just has a ugly laugh.

[Anonymous]

Intimated, probably not. More likely pleasantly surprised.

Women are some of the most humorless people I know, maybe thats just me. I mean, there is a movement that claims to speak on behalf of women as a collective and they would rather see the concept of jokes be removed entirely.

[DryGermanGuy]

Could it possibly be that you are the type of woman that babbles and babbles endlessly and men can't get a word in edgewise?

[genericname85]

why do women always believe that a man not going for a girl MUST be intimidation? like are there no other reasons a man does not want a girl other than that?