Can You Date A Person Who Doesn't Value Money?

Question

like they don't have a job, and they think world can go without it and they aren't necessarily spend thifts or sum, they spend little and might even earn a little but they kinda hate money xo

Middleman · Accepted Answer

My own dad is like that and I can honestly say it is the most frustrating thing ever when dealing with someone who has that mindset. Despite being able to make decent amounts of money over the course of his life (and being very much a spiritual-inclined kind of guy), he was never able to keep much of it (instead just spent it frivolously). Years ago during a check I made on his finances (when I finally had the chance to get access), I'd found on a personal credit card bill of about £5,000 he'd accumulated for more than 25 years, he had been paying only the minimum amount on it and never bothered to pay more to wipe the debt. I worked out from that, he'd actually paid more for the interest generated on that card over the years, than the actual amount he ever owed. In fact he overpaid nearly 3-4x the amount he owed. That's how bad it is when you have to deal with someone who is bad with money or doesn't care for it.

I mean we unfortunately do live in a polarised world. Some people call it 'duality' - a place of good/evil, light/dark, and things here are seen as good/bad for some. In that sense one should make a choice - be sensible with money if you want to live a decent fulfilling life. However it is no the end all and be all - it is just a tool or means to an end. Your happiness ultimately is not dependent on how much money you have, but what you do in your life (or with your life) that counts. However it is a double-edged sword that we live this way. A lot of people in the world have time but no money - and yet without money we can't seem to get the quality of time/life that we wish to have or spend with our loved ones (at least that's what the media have us believe).

In all honesty, the world could work without money - that worked for thousands of years ago when the world used bartering to get by (before the invention of money) and could help us perhaps not just reduce our global common hardship and quality of life but also might save the planet in the process (since we don't need to over produce just to make a living) but that is a long ways off.

BullShark · Accepted Answer

If they've got poor spending habits as well, topped with not wanting to work and just blowing away whatever little they make/have left on dumb shit, then no, you shouldn't be dating someone like that.

My friend's ex was kinda the same. I'll be honest and tell you that he isn't a really wealthy guy himself, and she was one of the "privileged" upper middle class girls who never worked a dime in her life and was basically gifted almost everything she owned. She didn't like to work for herself and would complain that she can't get along with others and gets pissed when she's told what to do, so she had a habit of blowing away his hard earned money (which wasn't much) that he earned from freelance graphic designing at the time.

youngmix · Accepted Answer

As long as he doesn't spend too much of my money, then we're fine. He would have to take care of a bunch of our chores, and be really good at other things, like basic repairs as well. So, if I'm paying rent, car, and whatever else, and he's not even trying to get into a career, then take care of the dishes, clean the bathroom regularly, clean the kitchen, cook, vacuum and mop whatever else, don't let the garbage get too full, and do the laundry *properly*. Basically, help out.

I put my time, at least 8 hours a day, into working so that I can pay for our bills, so please put time into our responsibilities as well.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

They don’t hate money. They’re just lazy and unmotivated and uses that poor excuse not to get it but desires it. 😑 I cannot date someone like that. They might have lot of money or no money but money shouldn’t be god or priority in dating…

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Yes. Here why:

Money, it's a lie,
As irrational as pi.
Money, oy vey,
It's as fake as Your birthday.
Money, it's a drug.
Why don't You gimme a hug?
Money, it's all fake.
To dig it's a piece of cake!
Money, it's a trap,
All delusional and crap.
Money, that bullsh t.
Greedy folks want every bit!
Money, it's abstract.
Hoarding it's an evil act.
Money, it's all traps,
Will delude You in the haps!
Money, what the f&ck?
Some people just have no luck.
Money, it's a crime —
Stealing the cash all the time.
Money, it's a scam —
Everything is in a jam.
Money, it's just sad
That all it does is quite bad!
You might think it is quite funny,
But I don't believe in money. — Mad Abdullah

The most important things in life are free of money and must be paid with an arm and a leg.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

No.

As much as I would love to live in a moneyless society, the reality is we don't.

Money is required for many things to live a quality life, in my mind.

It would make me and the other person miserable.

Plus I'm a really business minded person. I enjoy making things and making money.

Fireguy17 · Answer

It's a necessary evil.
Nothing is free.
Even our time has value.
So whether they barter for food and a place to live that still cost them some time.
Or if they have to work for what they need to survive then they get paid for their work.
I'm not sure how they think they will be able to survive without money, nothing is free.

Kaneki05 · Answer

People who value money are idiots.
"Trade money for time, not time for money. You’re going to run out of time first." Naval Ravikant.
"It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor." Seneca
"Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants." Epictetus
Yeah these two said the same thing.

Adam1978 · Answer

Well they still need to cover their own ass, I am not going to sponsor a lifestyle that doesn't go around. There is a lot of things more important than money but don't go around and expect a free ride through life.

IveGotNoName · Answer

It's not really the money thing that would bother me... more the not having a job part. I don't reallt want to be in a relationship with someone who is that unmotivated.

Guy13 · Answer

No thank you as we would not be a good fit. At least volunteer for Make-A-Wish or something like that…

Jouth · Answer

I'm a trillionaire but money is gay. Miss me with that gay shit. I dispose of my money by throwing it at charities, fuck charities, they can figure out what to do with it. $$$$$$$$

Sour-rose · Answer

:)... very simple. I don't. And no amount of "promised cuddles" can change my mind.

Blackcosmo · Answer

I'm not sure because I'm the polar opposite. I value money a lot.

ArtieWhitefox · Answer

The person is wise. Jesus did not value money. Jesus valued the things that he made. Money will be seen as the nothing that it is when God's gifts are gone.

OddBeMe · Answer

Ehh, no. Its more about ambition. I wouldn't care if theyre poor as long as theyre as ambitious and trying.

Guardian45 · Answer

While I understand the philosophy, I don't see how it is possible to live in our consumer society without money.

TallAnon · Answer

Probably not? Sounds like a very different worldview. I like comfort, I like working hard at something.

EarthRealm · Answer

I won’t spend my money on anything accept myself.  I don’t care if the person threatens to kill themselves if I don’t give them money 💴  I’m not buying anything for anybody

AimeeKyle · Answer

I doubt that I would last very long in a relationship with a person like you described.

animesenpai · Answer

It depends if they don't value money or if they worship money.

Juxtapose · Answer

If they can pay their half of the bills then I don't care.

call_me_scar · Answer

I mean I don't value it much it either if it's something I want I'll spend the cash no problem but even I recognize I need a job and all that so probably not

Bratsondanielle · Answer

I certain hope my husband likes such a girl lpl

Yaangyin · Answer

Yeah, maybe, because if they're grateful of what they have, no matter small, it will multiply

idk87334F · Answer

Yeah, definintely! I actually kind of want to live that kind of lifestyle if possible :)

Phoenix98 · Answer

I’m not gonna be with someone who intentionally doesn’t work.  I have have no interest being with a bum and a leech.

shortster · Answer

I don't value money as much as most people. I see it as a tool and not as the goal.

maximumpower · Answer

Sure. Just don't expect the relationship to be anything but 1-way when it comes to money. There needs to be a REALLY good reason for it to get that far, tho.

humanearth · Answer

Nothing wrong with that. Money was created by man.

exitseven · Answer

no, it would be incongruous with my values. however if she was hot I could make an exception.

Staximus · Answer

As long as I don't have to be their ATM machine. Money and credit is a bullshit concept anyways

dtweed1996 · Answer

My girlfriend didn’t leave me when I was jobless but eh she had an intention of almost leaving me when I was jobless

anton_dee · Answer

Yess. As long as the person is not becoming a burden, then cool. In fact, it is correct that money is the root of evil in the world...

Nigjt · Answer

No Fucking way she is just a lazy Bitch. God Bless

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Hating money and not valuing it are 2 different things in my opinion

dreamstar72 · Answer

No because money has a value.

macjets007 · Answer

No, that's pretty nuts.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Most likely, but i’d have to know more.

the_sinner · Answer

Nope. I can’t afford to date such a person

LogicBomber · Answer

So would I date a female...

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Never met a person like that

jamesgoldman · Answer

Nah, too liberal for my taste

jengeorge26 · Answer

Yes but money does help

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

monkeynutts · Answer

Yeah, that's my ideal girlfriend.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's actually the type of person I prefer.

Luopio27 · Answer

Whats money got to do with love?

Stevefiveo · Answer

I don't think so.

BLP11520 · Answer

Get another person who is mature.

LazerBean · Answer

Nope.

DavidRaul · Answer

Yeah maybe

Iamcoming · Answer

Yes maybe

alance99 · Answer

Nope

EaterPeter · Answer

Nope

Thecubs22 · Answer

Yeah absolutely!

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