I am holding off on having sex until I find the right woman... will I be missing out?

[Anonymous]

I am waiting to find a woman without a romantic past that has never had her first love. I am almost 28 and never had a real girlfriend.

I haven't touched a girl in over 7 years since my 2-day weekend fling with a 16 year old girl when I was 20. I feel if I start having lots of sex, then I will be less desirable for a woman without a romantic past and a hypocrite.

Yes

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I feel like I am boxed into a corner on this one. If I wait too long, I will miss my opportunity to have sex with young women. If I go crazy with sex, then a good woman without a romantic past may not want me.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes. Not only are you missing out but you are not having experiences which will help you grow and self evaluate. If the perfect person showed up at your door today you likely would not be able to keep her around long term.


Make sense?

[Asker]

I don't know what to do. I am very inexperienced. Both sexually and romantically.

[BarryLiverstone]

Start by talking to girls and then try to ask them out

[Asker]

Most girls don't even notice me. A lot of them feel uncomfortable when I talk to them. I got a girls number several months back and she never texted me back when I messaged her.

[BarryLiverstone]

How can you tell that she feels uncomfortable? We are not mind readers and if you are taking your time and being polite it should get easier

[BarryLiverstone]

Fact is everyone suffers rejection. You had one girl not reply. Go for 10 or more.. don’t let one rejection keep you from what you want in life. In fact the most successful people in life have been rejected the most often.

[Asker]

But then again, I go for women without romantic past, so I am really picky and hesitant I guess.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya cut that out. Even women with no romantic past have had flings or crushes or fantasies. How about lower your requirements and just meet real people who are just as flawed as we are?

[Guy13]

No. you'll be fine and will have an amazing bond with her...

[Asker]

I so hope so bad I find a woman like the one I am seeking. I am almost willing to sell my soul.

[Guy13]

2 of a kind usually find one another... especially if in church.