Dating an older men?

[princessdiza]

I have been dating a man for some time, who is 10 years older than me. I am 22 years old and he is 32 years old. I wonder how men in their thirties think. I'm afraid it will use me only for sex, since we slept together at the first date. Do you think it's a good idea to date a much older man? Should I be wary?

[Anonymous]

You've forgotten the gravity of sex, but deep down all men still remember. Thus when you treat it like it's causal, they will oblige... but they will never see you as anything beyond a source of pleasure that is not to be taken seriously. If you want men to take you seriously, you need to start taking sex seriously. Society that is reflected in the image of satan wants you to see the creation of life as nothing special... the bonding of two together as nothing special, and the unison of man and woman as worthless. Feel free to see beyond their programming and you will live a more fruitful life.

'He was kind and romantic after the sexual act.'

It wasn't a sexual act, it was the most intimate sharing of energy powerful enough to create a new life and populate an entire world. But it is easy for such men to fool you with an act. To summarize, do not make the same cliche mistake almost every other young woman is making. I've seen the outcome of it...

[princessdiza]

THANK YOU SO MUCH for your advice! I do feel like if I started to emphasize sex and add my emotions to it, it will only create an attachment bond and in the end I will get hurt, so that's why I don't give it so much importance. I have the impression that no matter if you get physically involved with a man or not, they will never take me seriously…😓

[bamesjond0069]

"I'm afraid it will use me only for sex, since we slept together at the first date."

This has nothing to do with age. Most men to some degree have this kind of mentality. Not an age thing.

"Do you think it's a good idea to date a much older man?"

Yes. Older men are more likely to treat you with respect and have their shit together. But of course older or younger... all are men so they can do anything any other man might do.

[princessdiza]

Thank you so much for your advice!

[RuthlessAggression]

How much more cliche could you be

Younger girl, older man

my mom is ONE YEAR AND TWENTY FOUR DAYS, OLDERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR than my dad

they've been married over 35 years

What is it that women think they HAVE to be the younger one

[Avicenna]

I dated women in their 20s when I was in my 30s. It's no big deal. A guy in his 30s is not more likely to use you than a guy your age. Since you're both adults, what matters is your compatibility and personal chemistry.

[chicosuave]

No. They are more masculine and they know what they want. They probably should already have their shit together by that age. Plus they have more experience

[Guy13]

He got what he wanted and has moved on. How much do you really know about him?

[princessdiza]

Not much, apart from the fact that he is an accountant, he lives in a condo, he wants children, he likes to tease me and provoke me because he finds that it adds spice to the relationship

[Guy13]

What about his wife and family...

[Anonymous]

since you already slept you probably liked him. you don't trust yourself or what?

[princessdiza]

I like him, but my last relationship really ruined my self-esteem. Not my self-confidence towards my physical appearance, but rather in my personality. The old one really made me feel like I was a piece of shit. So now I'm more on my guard and I'm afraid to open up. For now, I play the role of the girl who doesn't care, but in reality I have real interest 🥹

[Pejtu]

If u want sugar daddy go for old dudes they give u more money at least

[Randalama]

If you're worried about getting used, you've already been used.

[Iron_Man]

That’s perfectly cool I have no problem with that

[Luckycharms12]

Ya he was nice because he wanted sex. He got it on first date now you will not see him again

[Anonymous]

Nope. But you're already neck deep in it so... good luck! 🤣

[In_Trance]

How long have you been with him?

[princessdiza]

I met him in early July at a party. Then I went on a trip and after my return (July 13) we planned a date. So it's been almost two weeks. We are not a couple

[In_Trance]

Yeah I can understand your concern that early on. As simple as it may sound if you don't want to be used for sex just keep your clothes on

[Guy13]

Be weary...

[princessdiza]

Why?

[Guy13]

He is much more mature than you and has twice the life experience that you do. Do you think he wants to settle down into marriage with you?

[princessdiza]

We talked about it and marriage is not an essential thing for us. However, he was not clear about his intentions with me. I don't mind, because i’m not in a rush to settle or to have a real relationship. I only wonder if he has a real interest in me…😭

[Guy13]

I doubt it as he "came" and conquered... heading back out into the Jungle now...

[Dk945htbdb]

He is smart af. Dont fornicate.

[princessdiza]

Why will you say that he is smart?🤔

[Dk945htbdb]

he's 10 yr older.

[Dk945htbdb]

Men are more smart but he's super smart due to the age