Dating older guys?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys, I hope I don’t get judged too hard on this hence why I’m putting it on private but this is a bit of a weird situation with me and I would just like some friendly advice please don’t be too harsh!

So I’ve known this guy who lives next to me and he’s quite a bit older than me but I meet up with him every so often and go out for drinks and he takes me wherever I want to go but the thing is I’m a really emotional person and I do feel like he’s a bit of a ladies man and I’m just worried I will catch feelings for him because no one has treated me the way he has before and I really want to avoid that situation because I’ve had my heart broken before and I can’t tell when he is being serious with me. I know he probably just wants a hook up but should I leave before it gets too deep? Or should I just live in the moment and have some fun? I am really interested in him but I don’t think he would take me seriously because of the age gap.

[Nawlins34]

I would leave it alone for now. You still sound like you're trying to heal and that would do you better.

Because if he only wants sex (most likely that is the case) and this goes the wrong way, you'll be devastated. So leave him alone and focus on you for now. He'll be around if you still want to go that way, trust me.

[Asker]

Yeah I completely agree and if people want you to be around they’ll prove it to you regardless of the situation.. I think some men expect the woman to message them first though 🤨 it’s strange lol

[bamesjond0069]

How much of an age gap? Im 33 and my girlfriend is 24. I've also dated even younger girls like when i was 32 and my ex was 18. But tbh i was serious about both of them BECAUSE of the age gap. I am a bit of a player because girls my age are not what im looking for so yeah i play around but when a good quality younger woman comes around i pay attention and treat her special, like he is doing to you.

[Asker]

I’m 18 and he is 31 and yeah I do agree I think he might think I’m being strange as we have only met twice but I’m really interested in him and I don’t want him to be like “what the hell this girl is crazy” and he doesn’t speak to me everyday I don’t know if I should be concerned? Maybe he wants me to message first? I don’t know how men or relationships work honestly 🤣

[Douglas76]

You have to know what you want and tell him. Believe it or not you have the upper hand being that you are younger and he is older. If he really likes you he will try to keep you in his life. Be straight up with him and find out how serious he is about you. If you want him for yourself, tell him. It will show him you are a mature young lady who is no pushover and you know what you want.

[t-8900]

Don't give him sex, see where it goes. If he continues to take you out you're not just a booty call. If he doesn't, well you weren't in too deep anyways.

[R3DthatDude]

When the moment is right tell him exactly what you just told us.

[Avicenna]

If you really want a relationship, then make it clear that he has to commit to you.

[Asker]

Yeah I do agree, maybe I should tell him if you want to carry on the way we are I don’t agree on you sleeping with other woman but then again he might become offended and be like “we are just friends”

[Avicenna]

Thats perfectly fine. You have some leverage here and can demand exclusivity.

[t-8900]

to be completely fair in this day and age commitment is not something to be expected until the "I do's" and even then divorces are all too real and common. I dont like it but it is what it is. For a "ladies man" it's a buyer's market as they say. If he's older and has the money and some charisma he's got a buffet at his finger tips. Sad but true.

[magiusX26]

why would you assume he would not take you seriously because of the age gap? many of us older guys just preffer younger women and are still open to more than a random hookup.

[Thatsamazing]

... I never understand questions like this. If you like the guy, then you like the guy. If you don't, then you don't. Everything else is just meaningless nonsense.

[WhiteGlaze]

Have some fun and dont let your heart open too much until you know its safe and feels the same

[Iron_Man]

I date younger women in their 20s and I have a lot in common with them and it works out perfectly. Just don’t put out and see where it goes and one day have a talk with him

[Anonymous]

I think the fact that he is a ladies man you should be more guarded with him than the age gap. If I were dating you I would take you seriously; but I date with the intention of marriage and am waiting until marriage for sex.

[Asker]

Yes I completely agree with you! Thankyou for the response 😁

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome

[gandolph3]

live in the moment, take it day to day and have fun

[Smirnoff23]

Be careful if he is a ladies man the he may just be doing it out of kindness or being friendly if he is being serious with you it's a different matter

[COMMODOREII]

How old is he and you?

[Asker]

I’m 18 and he is 31

[COMMODOREII]

Living in the moment and having fun is good but maybe you need to talk to him and see where you both want this to ho.

[COMMODOREII]

*this to go

[Asker]

Yeah I completely agree but I’ve only met him twice but I see him around my little area that I live because he lives near me and we’ve spoke a lot of times but I’m worried he will be like “what the hell thats weird you like me already?” Or not take me seriously.. maybe if I meet him again and just have a chilled one no alcohol involved and see what happens and then I will tell him how I feel

[COMMODOREII]

Sounds like a plan. Good luck 😎👍

[Anonymous]

How much of an age gap?

[Asker]

I’m 18 and he is 31