I am a 25 year old guy, who has never dated before, but before you jump to conclusions let me tell you a little about my life. When I was 17 years old, my Dad was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's disease. He took it really hard, and my Mom needed my help to take care of him. He became a really rotten person as his condition got worse, he tried to commit suicide several times, usually on holidays and my birthday. Most of my time was spent taking care of him and working to help provide for the family. After a year my Dad was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's disease, my younger brother left home, because he couldn't take it anymore. He cut all contacts with the family, and I haven't seen him since the day he left. My Dad died when I turned 21. It was hard on me, and my Mom. But I didn't have much time to mourn, because my Mom was diagnosed with cancer. She died later that year. This was all very hard on me, but I knew I couldn't just cry all day. All of these deaths changed me, it is a dog eat dog world, I knew I had to be physically and mentally tough. I realized the importance of being healthy and strong, I started eating extremely clean and exercising six days a week, and practiced martial arts. I have been living this kind of lifestyle ever seen I have been 19. I am no longer, the shy, weak kid I used to be. I am very physically fit, and strong, six pack abs all year long lol. Unfortunately the stress I had to go through, did cause me to start losing my hair, I decided to buzz it off. Now I wear a tight buzz cut. People have told me I kind of look like Jason Statham's younger brother (lol). Anyway, after my Mom died, I went to college, and got a pretty good stable job. Now for the first time in my life I have to time to start dating, and I would like to start a family. Time flies though, I can't believe I am 25. I never really experienced the "college life" or my "wild teenage years", and that doesn't really matter to me. Anyway, I am open for dating for the first time in my life, now that I have the time to. But the ironic thing is a lot of 18 and 19 year old girls are interested in me. It is ironic because, when I was their age, girls wanted nothing to do with me, mostly because of my situation. I have been politely telling them that I am not interested, because I was thinking I was too old for them. But I was thinking the other night, that maybe I am not too old for them. I mean, I am very fit, and have a stable job, I am not some pervert. I guess my question is, is it acceptable for a 25 year old guy like me, to date an 18 year old girl. Thank you for taking the time to read my background.
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Like the guy below said, it comes down to maturity level more so than age. I dated a 24 year old at 18. That went to hell in a hand basket rather fast. He was attractive to me (beyond the physical) because he knew what he wanted and he was over the whole party thing. But I lacked the life experience and in the end, that's what drove us apart. There is a huge difference between the person I was at 18, starting university and the person I am now at 20, almost done university.
You can date those 18 year olds but I think you're going to find its not nearly as good as you want it to be. You are done school, you don't want someone starting school. You are likely going to be ready to settle down long before she is.
You can try, but you might find that you are indeed "too old for them."1