An age-gap relationship with a minor?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I'm a 25-yo guy and 3 years ago I met this girl 9 years younger than me. In the beginning I was attracted to her because of her looks, but after talking with her I saw that she had a beautiful personality too. We didn't know each other's ages at first (and she looked a lot older than she really was). We exchanged phone numbers, and through texting, I found out her age a few weeks later. Before this i already had feelings for her; however, despite knowing that we have a big age gap, I'm still very attracted to her. We continued texting and I confessed to her one year after we met. She accepted my confession but was worried about our age gap (and so was I). We've been dating for two years now, and from the day I confessed to her, I only wanted our relationship to be about love--no sex or any of that until she turns 18. Do you think our relationship is okay even though we have a big age gap and she is underage?

[hahahmm]

Since she is underage her parents should have a say in whether she dates a guy 9 years older. Presumably you have not informed them.

Yeah, I think it’s weird for a 22 year-old to be interested in a relationship with a 13 year-old since normally the maturity levels are very different. Plus older people are usually in different social circles. Like when I left grade school I did not go back to grade school looking for a girlfriend. I was content with high school... and after high school I did not go back to high school & so on.

Why are you concerned now if you were not concerned enough to stop seeing her when she was 13

[Anonymous]

In my opinion it's pretty weird and wrong, but as soon as she turns 18 it's not weird anymore. That would be if I didn't see this question. You posted this anonymously and obviously aren't posting this to clear your reputation, so I think for you it isn't that bad. As long as there's no sex or making out or anything and she's ok with everything.

[mak_1]

I think age gap relationships are totally fine and am actually a fan of them. However, dating a minor is extremely risky business even if you aren’t having sex. Also I don’t know if 3 years ago she was 9 years younger than you or if she currently is but either way, she’s between 13-16 and that is very young under the law (especially with you being 25)! I would break it off until she is 18 because you never know what might happen between the two of you and it’s better to just wait a few years and have her then, as opposed to never being with her because you’re in prison.

[Cornchipuniverse]

In some places 16 is the legal age of consent.

[mak_1]

@Cornchipuniverse I’m aware of that, however I’m assuming its not the age of consent where he is because he referred to her as a minor and said he’s waiting until she is 18 (presumed that this is the age of consent where he lives).

[Cornchipuniverse]

There is the possibility that he doesn't know 16 is the legal age.

[Hauler72]

How old is to old?

[mak_1]

@Hauler72 I personally don’t believe there is a “too old” if the relationship is legal. I don’t necessarily agree with 18 being the age of consent anywhere because I think 16 is mature enough and more fitting. So if the age of consent is 16 then I don’t think there’s anything wrong with them being together just because he’s 9 years older. Some people are more mature than most their age and are just better suited to be with someone older. Maybe that’s just my thinking because I see myself only in an age gap relationship but that’s how I see it!

[Hauler72]

I can agree with you on that

[Kay0019]

Just wait. Until then, cherish each other but not in a sexual way.

[standardguy]

The problem is that it takes many years until you can have sex with her along to the laws in your country. And if she selected another boyfriend she could have sex earlier. Stupid rule but it's true.
So it's not realistic to wait 3 or 5 years to turn sexual with her. And if you turn sexual with her before it's illegal.
Search an older girl.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I think you should date her and the two of you do whatever you want to do

[Anonymous]

i think its totally okay and its no one else busness the age gap

[Spidersandsnakes]

No it’s weird and bad for her she’s too young

[CoffeeWC]

It's okay but it's still risky

[SavageGirl101]

that is not ok