An age-gap relationship with a minor?

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Hi, I'm a 25-yo guy and 3 years ago I met this girl 9 years younger than me. In the beginning I was attracted to her because of her looks, but after talking with her I saw that she had a beautiful personality too. We didn't know each other's ages at first (and she looked a lot older than she really was). We exchanged phone numbers, and through texting, I found out her age a few weeks later. Before this i already had feelings for her; however, despite knowing that we have a big age gap, I'm still very attracted to her. We continued texting and I confessed to her one year after we met. She accepted my confession but was worried about our age gap (and so was I). We've been dating for two years now, and from the day I confessed to her, I only wanted our relationship to be about love--no sex or any of that until she turns 18. Do you think our relationship is okay even though we have a big age gap and she is underage?

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Since she is underage her parents should have a say in whether she dates a guy 9 years older. Presumably you have not informed them.

Yeah, I think it’s weird for a 22 year-old to be interested in a relationship with a 13 year-old since normally the maturity levels are very different. Plus older people are usually in different social circles. Like when I left grade school I did not go back to grade school looking for a girlfriend. I was content with high school... and after high school I did not go back to high school & so on.

Why are you concerned now if you were not concerned enough to stop seeing her when she was 13

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In my opinion it's pretty weird and wrong, but as soon as she turns 18 it's not weird anymore. That would be if I didn't see this question. You posted this anonymously and obviously aren't posting this to clear your reputation, so I think for you it isn't that bad. As long as there's no sex or making out or anything and she's ok with everything.

mak_1 · Accepted Answer

I think age gap relationships are totally fine and am actually a fan of them. However, dating a minor is extremely risky business even if you aren’t having sex. Also I don’t know if 3 years ago she was 9 years younger than you or if she currently is but either way, she’s between 13-16 and that is very young under the law (especially with you being 25)! I would break it off until she is 18 because you never know what might happen between the two of you and it’s better to just wait a few years and have her then, as opposed to never being with her because you’re in prison.

Kay0019 · Accepted Answer

Just wait. Until then, cherish each other but not in a sexual way.

standardguy · Answer

The problem is that it takes many years until you can have sex with her along to the laws in your country. And if she selected another boyfriend she could have sex earlier. Stupid rule but it's true.
So it's not realistic to wait 3 or 5 years to turn sexual with her. And if you turn sexual with her before it's illegal.
Search an older girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I think you should date her and the two of you do whatever you want to do

Anonymous · Answer

i think its totally okay and its no one else busness the age gap

Spidersandsnakes · Answer

No it’s weird and bad for her she’s too young

CoffeeWC · Answer

It's okay but it's still risky

SavageGirl101 · Answer

that is not ok

An age-gap relationship with a minor?

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