My boyfriend has lices and I don't know how to tell him?

[Anonymous]

Him and I are on a long distance relationship for more than a year. He told me several times he has lices. And i got stunned by it each time. It is just so yuck and disgusting me.
How can you ever live with that and be so chill about it? How should I tell him guys I'm super disappointed...

[SueShe]

To have lice is not such an innocent thing as it looks like.

It could become a serious health condition and mainly for those that are close to him, it can become a real issue as those lice will likely be transmitted to other people. In many cases, lice are a sign of poor body hygiene or adverse environment. It is important for him to determine the source of the infection. Are they nested in his mattress or anywhere else? Best is to treat those lice with a special shampoo and do a thorough disinfection of all possible contaminated areas.

There is no easy way to tell your boyfriend to seek help with a specialist if he is not capable to get rid of them on his own. Best would be to have someone accompany him to a dermatologist and have him checked thoroughly. Don't be afraid to tell him that you are disappointed in him for not taking proper action and that you cannot be in close contact with him as long as he still has not gotten rid of them. If you push him, he may react. If he does not take action, that means that he could not care less about your relation because he is either too lazy to act upon it or his attitude towards the plague is too nonchalant. That is a bad sign and definitely a thing to look into if you want to keep the relation alive. Good luck.

[Asker]

I'll keep that in mind, try not to hurt him but still will tell him that i won't touch him until he gets rid of them.
The problem about lives is even if you clean your head your mattress, your clothes, your school bag, your couch your blankets... Everything had lices so that takes a long time and efforts to clean. But i won't for sure be quiet about it and get his lices it's disgusting

[SueShe]

I believe that the only option here is to call the exterminator and to do a thorough cleaning of the entire place. The downside of it is the use of toxic chemicals.

[boggboss]

Some people just don't see it as that much as a issue

[Asker]

Yea it also is the case for him... But i hate it so much I'm scared of his reaction. Last day i asked him on an innocent way otp
"Hey you want to buy all these but make sure you have money to keep up after and not be starving. Babe do you even have money?"
He was like odded at me because i asked him if he has money for himself...

[boggboss]

It is a weird question to ask so makes sense

[Wise4myage]

Wtf, why doesn't he just go to the doctor?

[Asker]

He doesn't really care about it but it's eating me inside to know I'll get to go in his house, hug him and stuff but knowing he has lices

[Wise4myage]

That's disgusting. Stop seeing him till he see's a doctor.

[Asker]

I mean i like him, I'm scared of being embarrassed and to embarrass him...

[Wise4myage]

Tough, he needs to suck it up.

[In_Trance]

You haven't dumped him so it can't be that yuck

[jimmy2]

Tell him

[Asker]

Since we're on a long distance relationship and i haven't seen him yet, i will tell him some weeks before i see him. Explain him the danger or it and that's it's not clean

[Asker]

Gosh that will be hard