Do you think that a man should be darker than his girlfriend/wife?

[Babygirl_S]

Yes

Not necessarily

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In my culture that's the general belief so I was curious.

[ohsheeT]

To me I don't even think it matters I mean our loving God created us all equal he also had common sense knowing that this Earth has extreme harsh conditions he made it so our bodies could adapt to any conditions that we are put up against so as all these millions of years past people's bodies have adapted to the harsh conditions they live in it's just like you and I going to the lake every weekend and getting a tan I love to get a tan sometime last year a girl asked me for some pictures I sent her two pictures of me when I took in the summertime and one was in the winter time and she told me you're two different people you're trying to tell me that black guy's you and all I could do is laugh I said it's me she called me a liar she said no they're two different people so to me it doesn't even matter where all the same people we're all one it's just some fucking old Pig headed old man one day decided to become racist and that's where the ignorance started and that's where we are today and it's just gotten worse and worse and worse because there are followers I think they were different and to be honest with you every single person in this world is different from every other single person in this world no matter if you're black or white you're never the same color black and you're never the same color white so that doesn't even matter

[love_conquers_lust]

Have you managed to find your in to Europe? I’d steer clear of the States, we’re mad at each other right now.

Darker in appearance or personality?

[Babygirl_S]

Darker skin.

[love_conquers_lust]

I know I’m going off a tangent again, but I think ultimately it is inconsequential which you pick. The only two possible scenarios I see racism coming close to not being an issue are in segregated societies and one single homogenized society (melting pot). But even in those cases, people will still strive to stand out in whatever way they can. And people will still wander across groups seeking variety, it’s inevitable. Nature foists diversity it upon us, it’s unavoidable. Have you ever seen leucistic deer?

blog.nature.org/.../

Changes in nature happen, without our consent.
The only “should” that matters is what you think your “should” should look like. Whatever makes you happy. But I urge you to look beneath the surface. There are few things in life quite like connecting with another human being on a deep level.

[love_conquers_lust]

In this context, “you” can mean anyone, as in “one”, not necessarily the OP.

[Aurora1010]

It doesn't matter for me, but I admit that very dark colored guys aren't my type.

I thought fair skin was a standard for both men and women in India

[Babygirl_S]

Yes it is but a man should still be darker comparatively.

[Sarahplus2]

Who cares what color

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Green Is the Colour.

[Sarahplus2]

So is purple

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Purple is the colour when it comes to haze!

[kmg9150]

You question is based on the belief within the same race/culture if to be true correct? Either way it should be personal preference. But it seems as it is more cultural/religious belief that you are talking about. Which that I dont agree with. It creates psychological disruption to how one feels and to what he thinks he should feel to avoid being ridiculed. And to women in fear of being undesirable, or conceited as over desirable.


I this worries you then seek companionship outside your culture, if you are worried about disappointing, remember that they are not the ones living your life. Your life can't prosper unless your a happy. Ask these people to go about a strong belief that have, otherwise it will disappoint you, most likely they will no, then why should you for them?

[insteadfew]

No body wants to be dark skinned... be it a male or female. Sadly in India Most of the men are really darker than their female counterparts, hence women don't have much options... that's why they settle for whatever they have. Otherwise Indian women who get opportunity to have white men choose them over darker Indian men , who look so darker next to a woman and are so so hairy bodied too

[Berethor]

Should be taller, but yea light girl, dark boy trope is a thing.

[NathanDavis]

I try my best not to think of nonsense...

happens sometimes though

[bigpauly]

No It’s fine if they are lighter darker or the same

[NYlatefun]

God, you have so many racial problems! All your questions are about that. Give it a break.

[Babygirl_S]

You're overreacting.

[NYlatefun]

Look at all of your posts, all of them are about skin color. Very annoying.

[Babygirl_S]

They're not actually. Many other people have asked similar questions before. Why don't you attack them?

[NYlatefun]

You seem particularly obsessed with it, nothing an ol’ good block won’t solve.

[Babygirl_S]

I'm not. It is literally the first time I've asked a question about skin colour. This website is, however, replete with questions like this.

[Avicenna]

That is completely irrelevant to me.

[JosyJosy]

What? In what way, humor?

[KatherineJ]

I don’t understand what you are asking.

[dolemite89]

darker skin color? 🤔

[Babygirl_S]

Yes.

[dolemite89]

i’d like to date girls that have darker skin than me

[CuriousMufuxka]

No. Why should shade or tone matter?

[Zolly99999]

No not necessarily.

[AviatorTom]

Why should he be?

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Stupid question

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Are you too dark? Are you facing any problems because of skin colour?

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Which culture I haven't heard of any such culture.

[Babygirl_S]

The Indian culture. Lighter men are seen as feminine.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Lol, I am also Indian and it is not true, kuch bhi bolegi matlab.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Isey Kehte Hai khayali Pulao banana

[Babygirl_S]

Don't you know that Shiney Ahuja, Jugal Hansraj, Neil Nitin Mukesh and the like couldn't make it big in the Hindi film industry?

[Babygirl_S]

Only Hrithik and Ranbir could get roles but both of them have families already established in the industry.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

It is because of monopoly contacts and connections and how much audience connect with them.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Nepotism

[Babygirl_S]

That's what I'm saying that the only successful ones have connections. Others aren't received very well.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

You asked this question because you feel you have dark skin, so if you can rate yourself on your skin colour where 0 is the darkest and 30 is the snow white, how much will you rate yourself and also give an example of celebrity whose skin colour is close to yours.

[Babygirl_S]

And tum muj par gussa kyu? Kya esa nai h? Kya har husband apne se gori wife ki demand nai krte?

[Babygirl_S]

Why are you making personal attacks on me?

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Gussa nahi hu, demand karna alag Baat Hai but I have seen men fair than their wives.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Nahi kar rha personal attack, Indian culture itna bhi kharab nahi hai but tumhare aaspaas ke log jyada typical Conservative hai.

[Babygirl_S]

I have seen fairer Indian men with darker wives too but I'm talking about the kind of couples that are seen in popular culture. In general people want to see that. Look at all the movies. Sach nai ho to.

[Babygirl_S]

Mere as pas ke log? I live in Mumbai-regarded as the most Westernised city in India.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Bollywood is propoganda, copy paste from Hollywood and brainless stuff hai that is soft persuasion or bolstering views in people's mind which they want general people to assimilate.

[Babygirl_S]

Bollywood follows society, society doesn't follow Bollywood.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

I am fair and my girlfriend was 2 to 3 tones darker than me and this skin colour was never an issue so saying that white men are feminine or this reason doesn't make sense. Infact white boys are more preferred by girls, this term tall dark and handsome doesn't mean dark is skin colour, it means personality where he is some kind of powerful person but stays calm and silent in front of everyone and will be able to extraordinary stuff when required.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

It is a preference, like girls want tall and rich guys, men prefer fair girls or it is their preference.

[Babygirl_S]

Come on! We both know what tall, dark and handsome means. Dark actually means darker skin, hair etc.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

I have interacted with many girls and all of them said they would like to be with a fair guy and I have seen tall and dark guys having no luck with girls. Reality is often different.