Girls, If a guy told you he's never been with anyone because of sexual abuse would you immediately walk away or try to understand him?

[Anonymous]

I'm that guy. I have never been with anyone because of the embarrassment and shame. Plus no trust. I don't know how to talk to a woman about it. It's ruined my life.

[Ga-girl]

I've never been in the situation myself but I'm a very understanding person and try to get where people come from. I think it would be important to be open and somewhat vulnerable in this situation.

In your case it might be easier to have a female friend that your comfortable sharing that information to then expand from there. Easier said then done.

I've dealt with domestic abuse (mostly mental) that also gave me trust issues and insecurities. It was on the forefront of my mind that I wasn't good enough or the problem was always me.

After a couple years, it was eatting away at me and effecting my social life. I've learned to not keep myself in the past. But it took a lot of self esteem building and a peer group who supported me through it. I don't know your peer situation but try and surround yourself with positive energy

Reach out if you have any questions💓

[Asker]

Being a guy it's hard because you're expected to be out there every night trying to get some. I'm not afraid of women I'm afraid of the ridicule I may get from a woman. She may tell others and I may end up more embarrassed than ever.

[Ga-girl]

I'm sorry to hear that.. at your age I would expect people to be more understanding of other people's history. Where I come from, all walks of life are accepted. Doesn't matter what color, language, household, or history you have. No one's perfect and a person shouldn't be judged based off a piece of their life (not counting legal crimes)

I expect a guy or a man rather, to be respectful of himself and others around him. Not sleeping around aimlessly. That's high-school stuff

On the other hand you'll have to accept that there will always be a risk that you get hurt when interacting with anyone.