Girls, what would you do if a guy refused to talk about his past?

[Anonymous]

I'm 31 and have no dating experience. I am aware that this is a turn off for most women, and I am also aware that the topic of dating history and past relationships is commonly brought up by women when you're dating. Since a guy being honest about his lack of experience will get him rejected more often than not and lying about it will probably backfire since she'll inevitably find out that he lied eventually, what if he just set a boundary and said that he doesn't want to discuss that at this point in time? Not that he'll never have that discussion, just sometime later and ideally after you two have been seeing each other longer and a certain level of emotional investment has been established so she won't run away when she finds out he has no experience? Would you be suspicious about him not wanting to talk about this or would you respect this boundary? And I wouldn't set this boundary in a angry or defensive way since obviously that would arouse suspicion.

[itsannalee]

Not everyone wants to talk about their past, as long as not a criminal record i don’t really care tho.

[Asker]

So you would date a guy with no experience?

[Nikki1989]

I would never ask anyone about their past. That line of questioning is invasive and just plain rude.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

To me it's his to discuss but I would be more cautious with him becuase it send a red flag

[Asker]

I feel like "more cautious" is you saying you'll probably pick another guy over him because you don't like that he's inexperienced.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Not at all I have no issues with that at all relationships aren't just about sex plus then he'd be easier to train in the bedroom and it's fun to explore with there with someone you care about

[Asker]

Yeah they aren't only about sex, but what about the no relationship experience and the fact that he has no experience with the non-sexual aspects of a relationship as well? I've been told by women before that's actually even worse because he won't know how to be a boyfriend and the lack of familiarity with maintaining a relationship is even more burdensome than the lack of sexual experience.