How long to wait for message after first date from HIM?

[D1ana13]

Went on a first day today. Felt like we really got along overall but didn’t send a ‘hope you got home ok’ text after. How long do I wait? I have mixed feelings on this

[Lliam]

I met my wife through a pre-internet dating service. We agreed to meet at a restaurant and really connected when we met. We chatted effortlessly for a couple hours. She kissed me in the parking lot next to her car before we drove away.
The story of that first date is pretty funny, but I won't digress.

The thing is, I had other dates from the dating service lined up. There is a chance I wouldn't have called her right away. And if too much time went by, I'd be afraid that she would be hurt. So, the chance of me calling her would have diminished as more and more time went by.

Two days after our date, she called and said that some friends had offered her two tickets to see the Rolling Stones and Red Hot Chili Peppers. She wondered if I was interested in going with her. Of course, I was! I love rock music and she knew it.

I also knew that she WASN'T interested in that kind of music. So, did her friends just happen to offer those seats? It was kind of coincidence.

But I was impressed by her initiative and possibly ingenuity and creativity.

We had a great time at the concert. She held my hand on the way in and out.

And, well, we wound up dating exclusively. I didn't follow up with the other girls I could have dated.

She put herself out there and took a risk. She knew what she wanted and she went for it. And I appreciated the fact that she wanted me.

Two years later, we got married and have happily married now for over 25 years.

[D1ana13]

Thanks for sharing I appreciate. However I don’t want to chase a man, this is yikes for me to do and if I have to do it I lose my interest immediately

[slatyb]

You don't wait. It's not an exclusive relationship. If you get another attractive invitation, take it. If he wants another date and you do too, great. Keep your expectations low and you won't be disappointed, but you may be pleasantly surprised.

[D1ana13]

You did not answer the question. To rephrase: after how long of no messaging after the first date should I consider he’s not interested? There is still a timeframe no matter what

[slatyb]

Why do you need to know? Don't change any plans for him. Just do whatever you were going to do as if the date had never happened.

[melanieeeB]

If we both don't keep texting afterwards, normally and all, he is out.
Sometimes you text them and their responses are little weird and not like before.. he is out.

[melanieeeB]

Once a guy literally waited 3 days to answer my text, he was out.
I did not wait around for his ass and called him out.

[dynamicyandere]

I would think if it’s over a week and there’s nothing at all, then yeah. He’s probably not interested. Two weeks? Definitely not interested. That’s my two cents.

[dynamicyandere]

But, he might also be waiting for you to initiate. So you could initiate something within a week and see how he responds.

[JustADudePlayinADude]

Why don't you initiate it? He might be waiting for a text from you. If he seems standoffish after you text him, then he isn't interested and you can start to move on.