How do I know if he wants something serious or wants to keep it casual?

[Anonymous]

[MoniqueTLC]

How long have you been 'seeing' each other and how frequent? Is he being vague about his feelings? I presume you guys haven't had a conversation about what it is you're doing. In this case if you're uncertain and he hasn't said anything, I suggest you might want to bring it up in casual conversation.

[Asker]

He used to live here but moved due to his job but we talk everyday and recently he flew here to spend the week with me and asked what my future plans are. He didn’t say much else on it so I was unsure what his thoughts are but we both admitted we liked one another and would want to spend more time together.

[MoniqueTLC]

Sounds pretty positive. I assume he asked what your future plans are to gauge where your heads at and whether he fits in with your future. Do your lifestyles align with one another?
There's defo interest there in dating I think!

[Asker]

Our lifestyles align quite well together since we’re both in the medical field and have similar personalities and routines. I think the only hesitation is the fact that he’s constantly gone since he’s a medic in the Army but other than that, I’ve noticed he’s been asking more about my future plans lately

[MoniqueTLC]

I see. Probably to see where you're going to be etc. I think it's definitely a good idea to ask the question to better understand. It will also give you peace of mind and more clarity. He clearly likes you so just go with it xx

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your response! It was really helpful and I truly appreciate it

[MoniqueTLC]

No worries :) I hope everything works out (which I'm sure it will) x

[Hardworkingguy]

Well I suppose you should talk to him about serious things like children houses and things that a couple would need if they were married in an indirect way to see how he reacts

[FilmGuy93]

See how much he goes out of his way to take care of you.

[Anonymous]

By asking him to be truthful.

[Anonymous]

Casual never leads to serious