How can I get his attention?

[katestar]

Will he return my feelings?

[DenizLikesTennis]

Hey kate, how is it going? I have been mentioned by WonderBell99 to give you advice. Can you tell me the full story how you guys met and what happened since? I have read that he couldn't reciprocate your feelings, so you've been rejected because he doesn't seem to be in the mood to date anyone. Which is fine. First, you must respect his boundaries/wishes. So you have still feelings for him. Congratulations! Because it is not easy to fancy someone like this much. He must be very important for you.

How about you do it both by moving on and still remembering him once in a while like: ''hey, I just wanted to say that I wish you a very good weekend :) kind regards, Kate''.

Try to pursue him like once/twice a week. Give him space. You have to trust him when he says that he won't see anyone for the long term because he is been doing stuff or else. Okay. I know what's in your mind. I have had it too. But that's a lie and not true/real. You feel like he is seeing/dating/texting anyone else behind your back when you are absent and has a good time with her. Against this thought, I want you to remember what makes you YOU. Your skills, your personality, what you are good at, your hobbies. Like write down all the good things and affirm these daily. (Meditation). The more you this, the happier you get. and the happier you are, the better the relationships with others get. This emotional stress will also have an impact on your daily life and tasks.

But hey, you know what? It is absolutely fine, very normal and okay to feel like this once in a while :). You and I are human. It's mere instinct.

Anyways, stay strong and keep your head up if it is finally over! You will certainly meet the man of your life! All it takes is timing. There is nothing wrong with you :)

Kind regards,

Dennis.

[katestar]

I can't move on. You know that.

[DenizLikesTennis]

Why? :)

[WonderBell99]

Kate, we talked about this..

You mentioned that he does not have time to date and does not date someone for long anyway. You said you were going to move on. What happened? You seem to like him a lot, why not shoot your shot again? You tried it once, but he did not reciprocate it back because he did not have time.. well, it has been over a year since that incident. Instead of waiting around for him to make a move, you should take up the initiative. Many guys are shy, or maybe he sees you as a friend since both of you practically grew up with each other.

I saw your comments down below. You cannot "make" someone like you. It is not that simple. He has to like you by himself.. why are you pining after a guy who does not value you? Or see you as the amazing person you are? I tell you what, give this one last try. If he does not say yes, or beats around the bush, at least make some sort of an effort to move on.

[katestar]

I can't move on.

[WonderBell99]

Always remember this: never say never. It may feel like you cannot move on, but trust me, you actually can if you try. But you are not even attempting to do so. I know that it sucks to be infatuated with someone who does not return it back. I’ve been there plenty of times, but instead of mulling over this, why not just ask him out once?

[katestar]

Really?

[WonderBell99]

Of course. Most guys love it when women make the first move. I could tag some of my male friends on GaG and they would say the same.

One of my very close friends, @PrettyPriya asked out her now fiancé and they’re engaged. It’s not bad to make the first move. The right guy won’t mind if you made the first move.. because the important part is going on a date and getting to know each other, right?

[WonderBell99]

@denizlikestennis @NathanDavis @Wise4myage @BarryLiverstone

hey guys, sorry for the tags. Hope you don’t mind answering her question. thanks!

[katestar]

Okay.

[WonderBell99]

Ask him out. The worst thing he could do is say no.

[PrettyPriya]

@wonderbell99 You are very much correct here. What happens when you let that chance slip by?

Let’s look at my situation. Had I not had the courage to ask him to lunch, I would likely not be getting married.

My fiancé has backed this up. NOT because he didn’t want to ask me out, it is because he felt he would make it awkward for me because I was at work.

We didn’t know each other or ever seen each other outside of work. He was relieved that I asked him because he didn’t think it proper to bother me while working.

So, if you let chances slip by, you could miss out on a true love just because of that “the guy is supposed to ask the girl” rubbish.

[katestar]

Oh. I got it now.

[NathanDavis]

@katestar I would agree with them here...

there should be nothing wrong with you making the first move or doing the initial approach because that's all it is, first of initial moments of action, and what follows next could be all kinds of great, possibly

in fact, most of my ex-girlfriends made the first move, and they approached me first and that lead to some great relationships I had with them for a few years (at different points of my life, with each, of course)

and there was even a time in which for my first relationship she approached me first, talked to me about her genuine interest in more with me and I, initially said "sorry I can't do it right now" however, a few weeks later I came around that idea and then we ended up together just as she wanted, and just I wanted too but I just was very unsure at the moment she asked me first, lol

either way, there's reasons to try, and there is possibilities that it could you make it work if the situation has changed for him... so in approaching and asking him, you will have that certainty, if he has changed his mind it could work for something great and if he's not ready or not willing to give it a try with you, well then... at least you will have that certainty and clarity, and you can see this as the final closure you need, to gather up together with yourself and move on for good, for your own good, once and for all

[katestar]

Actually. I don't agree with you. I can't move on. Sometimes in life. You tell someone to move on. It hurts a lot. It turned out that I don't want to move on.

[NathanDavis]

@katestar well, then... that would be your choice

sometimes the walls close on us and enclose us...

other times it is just us, running onto walls head first, stubbornly

[katestar]

I'm not

[NathanDavis]

@katestar best of luck with your endeavours (=

[katestar]

Thanks... not!

[PrettyPriya]

Wow, aren’t you a 32 year old baby. Please do me a favour and block me so I do not see your nonsense anymore. What a waste of my time.

[katestar]

Fine.

[PrettyPriya]

You can’t even get a block right. SMH.

[katestar]

I can't move on

[BarryLiverstone]

My advice is to move on.

[katestar]

I can't do that

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya I knew that

[Iron_Man]

Tell him how you are feeling

[katestar]

So. Here it goes: he is single and 100% straight. He doesn't have a girlfriend. He's a actor.

[katestar]

He grew up in Virginia like me.

[Iron_Man]

Go for it

[Iron_Man]

Is she well-known

[Iron_Man]

I mean he

[katestar]

No. He is a mysterious person.

[Iron_Man]

Oh ok I see

[katestar]

Besides. He moved to New York for his acting roles. After that. He moved back to Virginia to see his family and friends and to see me.

[Iron_Man]

Good

[katestar]

Can we talk about this in private? I have to talk to you about something.

[Iron_Man]

What about the guy?

[katestar]

Okay. He is a one year older than me and I'm a one year younger than him

[Iron_Man]

That’s not a big deal at all no problem I told you to go for it

[katestar]

He's a June and I'm a December

[Iron_Man]

That’s not a problem

[katestar]

He's a Gemini and I'm a Sagittarius

[Iron_Man]

Zodiac signs have nothing to do with a relationship

[katestar]

Oh. Got it. I have to ask you something.

[Iron_Man]

Ok Ask

[katestar]

If I want to see him. What is his reaction to seeing me?

[Iron_Man]

You’ve seen him before he should want to be with you

[katestar]

Oh. We've seen each other as friends for years.

[Iron_Man]

Well then date him

[katestar]

Date him?

[Iron_Man]

Sure

[katestar]

Really? I've known him all my life. We've been friends since we were teenagers. He was 15 and I was 14. Now. I'm 32 and he's 34. I'll be turning 33 in December 14

[Iron_Man]

Go for it if you like him

[katestar]

I do. I like him more than just a friend.

[Iron_Man]

Then make yourself available and become an actress as well

[katestar]

Really?

[katestar]

If I do that. He will say yes to me

[Iron_Man]

You’ll find out either way but at least go for it for peace of mind give it your best shot

[katestar]

If he sees me. Will he remember me?

[Iron_Man]

When was the last time you saw each other

[katestar]

4 years ago

[Iron_Man]

Oh wow How do you plan on meeting him

[katestar]

I can study him.

[Iron_Man]

What do you mean you can study him

[katestar]

I mean study other actresses

[Iron_Man]

What does that have to do with dating your friend

[katestar]

Never mind. I can study his interests.

[Iron_Man]

OK good luck but you shouldn’t of waited for four years you should’ve made your move along time ago before he moved

[katestar]

You're right about that. He moved to LA.

[Iron_Man]

I thought you said New York

[katestar]

That was a long time ago

[Iron_Man]

Hmmmm ok why don’t you write this man and tell him to come pick you up and move you to Los Angeles

[katestar]

What? I'm a dancer. My mom will be angry at me if I go to Los Angeles.

[Iron_Man]

You can dance in California take your mother with you

[katestar]

When?

[Iron_Man]

Make your move soon it’s going to be September already

[katestar]

I told you that he is a single. Like me. It's too much to think about.

[Iron_Man]

Ok lol

[katestar]

It's too soon for me. It's just that I'm getting ready for my 4th year of dance academy.

[Iron_Man]

Do you really wanna wait five years

[katestar]

No. I'm not going to wait for 5 years for him

[Iron_Man]

Find yourself a new boyfriend

[katestar]

I can't do that.

[Iron_Man]

You can’t wait five years you can’t find a new boyfriend what the heck do you want

[Iron_Man]

@aliyapashav How can she be possibly talking about me when she’s talking about some guy from Virginia that now lives in Los Angeles

[Iron_Man]

@aliyapashav oh ok lol