What do you consider to be clear signs the person you're with isn't serious?

Question

You're dating someone what signals short over long term?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would immediately think I want to marry this girl, then she does something crazy like wanting to hang out with a new guy or something and I realize she isn’t marriage material so I switch my plans to just boyfriend and girlfriend. Then all the sudden she will fuck me silly and I’ll think the sex is worth marriage. Then she’ll get drunk and crap on my Bed or something and I’ll have to seriously think hard if I want to give everything for this person. 90% of the time, I think most guys will know right away if they think a girl is worth investing marriage within the first month of dating, just based off how attractive she is and any similarities you can share. That’s me though. I don’t think one guy or any can be a bible for all. I think the best way to figure out his to ask him his goals and careers. Does he want marriage? What does he think about having a kid? A lot of women seriously undermine how important those are for a serious relationship.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

Lack of depth.
Lack of effort.
Lack of communication.
Lack of loyalty.
Lack of sincerity.
Lack of maturity.

Everything being about just enjoying the moment, just having fun, not thinking about the future.

Which, isn’t bad in itself. But if that’s ALL you do and you’re not able to explore deeper aspects of the relationship, then it’s likely they aren’t serious and they just want to play and not commit to anything.

MoniqueTLC · Accepted Answer

*) Flaky with plans *) Only sees you when it suits them *) Doesn't introduce you to friends/family, or includes you in group plans/activities *) Avoids speaking about long term plans

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Their actions don’t match their words and are inconsistent. I’m wary with these. Hence, I won’t put my 100% either. You get what you give from me.

Kusz76 · Answer

She doesn’t appreciate anything you do for her, any nice gestures etc, always complains about whatever you do or don’t do. She never makes the same effort to please you that you make for her. She stops kissing you and doesn’t want cuddles. She goes to bed after you’ve went to bed and fell asleep to avoid sex. She expects more and more from you and gives nothing back. I’m saying all this from personal experience

melanieeeB · Answer

He simply doesn't care about you, the things you say, your needs and so on. The conversations are also mostly pretty shallow and worthless.

Surely · Answer

They are always too busy to be with or to do anything other than sex with you!

Anonymous · Answer

If she doesn't match your effort. Women will always take. But some women ONLY want to take. Because you hold no value to her than what you can provide. A woman who values you will always make effort. Because real love is reciprocal.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Ghosting. Lack of commitment. Delayed replies every day. Frequently canceling plans. Only just seeing you for sex. Their friends and family aren't aware of who you are. They don't want to be seen with you.

DizzyDesii · Answer

When they push back plans or wedding dates that they initially set lmao

JSmuve · Answer

She's seeing other guys, she doesn't take the time to get to know you, she's flaky and doesn't make an effort for you, she doesn't prioritize you in her life

Synikal · Answer

Lack of effort/communication, body language (turns away from you for example), short answers when asked a question, barely around or absent. These are just examples from my own experiences but there may be more.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

They look bored and aren’t asking questions, or bringing up past exes and other baggage

Infinity12 · Answer

I don't think he is serious if he hasn't asked you anything. Also if you only discuss surface matters. And if he doesn't bring up the future.

Twalli · Answer

They find reasons to spend less time with you. They rushed into sex. They don't introduce you to their friends or family.

HighValue · Answer

They won't add you as a friend on Xbox Live. That is a huge sign that it isn't serious. :P

finesxed_j · Answer

They dont put in any effort to connect or build the relationship

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

When they can't make time for you and always excuse they are busy with work.

Andrew2128 · Answer

She's not paying attention to you not giving you sex nor is all your phone calls she might be seeing somebody else

eagle1951 · Answer

does not pay much attention to you, talks to other women

In_Trance · Answer

lack of communication. patterns that don't match the communication

Smegskull · Answer

As in they aren't being serious or they aren't serious relationship material?

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Putting themselves first and having no complaints about anything whatsoever

HaveNoName · Answer

When he shows no signs of getting engaged or married in the next few months.

nawtee_me · Answer

When they say look at that ass while pointing at someone else…..

lorenzomichael · Answer

When they straight out tell you they hate you, and for you to go fuck yourself.

dustybiker · Answer

They don’t listen.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

They don't really bother

driven159 · Answer

Not being the center of their attention

TrillXHippy · Answer

They’re not interested anymore

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

By the way they treat you

Apologies456 · Answer

Flaking lmfap

Anonymous · Answer

If she kicks me in the nuts.

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