Why does my boyfriend suddenly say he hates kids?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

I am going to take a leap here and say its because he hates kids? Or that you need to ask him why, how the hell would I know?

Chance are he got started in the relationship and thought it would not be a problem, then later on after dating a while he doesn't want kids. Do have kids already that aren't his? I date women with kids, 15 and 17 and I didn't think it would be a problem... but after spending some time with her kids, I really didn't like them. One was jerk and she spoiled the shit of her, and the other one was super quiet, would make you feel super uncomfortable and would not look you in the eye when she did speak to you.

She told me at some point I would have to care for her kids, I was no I don't I am dating you not your kids and they will neve be my kids. I care about you, but in a few years they will be grown. It didn't work out and I was fine with it.

If you don't have kids already, then it because he doesn't want to have kids with you or commit to that with you.

[Asker]

Not once have I ever brought up kids everytime we come on to the subject about jobs he goes like "I don't want kids taking all my money"

[DaveJord]

So then there you go now you have your answer. Its fianical and the man wants freedom. He just told you why.

[Asker]

A bit weird after only dating for 8 weeks talking about this

[DaveJord]

Not really if is important to you, I mean committed relationships are about making changes and accepting changes to allow both of you to go together in building a future.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Maybe he felt like you're really into them and he didn't Want to go into an actual convo about it

[Asker]

Not once did I ever bring up kids he just came out with it while we were walking to the cinema

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Maybe he saw this happen with someone else and decided he needed to voice his opinion

[Asker]

Just thought is was a tad rude as he thinks I'm like every other woman that's gets baby fever

[Asker]

Thought he**

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I see where you're coming from, but let's first know what made him think of this, asking him directly is the best way

[Asker]

No idea I have only been dating him for 8 weeks he's the one bringing up these kind of topics not me I've been playing it cool tbh

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Best of luck with him, it's very confusing when someone starts talking about something this serious out of nowhere

[Asker]

I have no idea what planet he's on? He's the one bringing up the daft serious topics

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I don't know how good those 8 weeks were but that was a serious f up : DD

[Asker]

On his part?

[SAMI_DABBAB]

For sure, 1- he's assuming you want babies... 2- he didn't handle this well at all, you can't surprise people with stuff like that

[Asker]

How couldn't he handle it I don't even bring up that stupid question about marriage or kids

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I'm assuming he wanted to talk about this, if this is how he'll talk about it then he handled the situation poorly

[Guy13]

Don’t want babies.

[Asker]

That's fair enough but it was tad out of the blue. Considering I've never brought that topic up myself and we were talking about jobs and he was like "kids aren't taking my money"

[Guy13]

Maybe that is the last thing before, "I am all in." Ask him if there is anything else on his UNDISCLOSED List... It is a great time to do that... get that out the way... no surprises !! Go for it !

[exitseven]

Maybe some little kid beat him up.

[Light909090]

Lol 😂 hahaha 🤣 LMFAO
thanks for the laugh I needed a good laugh

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Did he used to love them

[Asker]

I have no idea but we were just talking about jobs and he goes like "kids aren't taking my money"

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Oh, yeah, sounds like he doesn't want kids hun

[Asker]

Yeah I'm fine with but he made out I'm some chick with baby fever nah mate I'm not like the other girls couldn't care less tbh

[Light909090]

Girls always say there not like the other girls. Dude just wants his money because he works his ass off for his money and he doesn’t wanna spend it on some kid that is gonna have a tantrum and Be a ungrateful Brat

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

That's what they all say hun

Women have a biological clock, that basically makes them NEED kids

[Light909090]

Yeah They like to experience pain

[Asker]

Im 30 and hasn't crossed my mind