Girls, would you ever consider a guy with confidence problems/self esteem?

[Anonymous]

I trying to be introspective and judge myself but I feel like I’m not the super prideful/confident guy girls look for. I’m 19 year old male

[river23]

I'm not gonna lie, I'd be a small problem in the beginning because I also have similar issues but I'm learning how to put myself out there and I can be a very honest yet kinda blunt person though I try to be honest but nice about it. Though it depends on the rest of your personality ya know, that can't be all there is to you and if it were then sure I'd probably still give you a chance because well I'm gonna sound stupid everyone says I am for doing this but I have a feeling you'd be a nice guy and you seem like a pretty awesome one at that and not gonna lie I get these guy feelings either from my heart or head and sometimes both and I follow them no matter where they lead because I've always had this feeling everything will work out so why not try it. But to better explain myself it's the way you asked and said what you did I'm probably just being dumb for sure jumping to conclusions but the way you said what you said the way you asked it the way you worded it says a lot about you not sure how to explain it in words which is why I said I have a good feeling about you and there's so much more to you than what you asked which is why I think your a nice guy and your probably so much more so much better ya know. But hey just my opinion and beliefs ya know.

[Asker]

Wow thanks lol, I’m glad you see me as a nice guy

[river23]

Well it's just a feeling I have, but you should already see yourself as a pretty amazing and nice guy and if you don't I think you should start but then again it's just my opinion belief and gut feeling so hey who's to say things won't be different for you but I do hope you see yourself as a nice guy cuz I trust this feeling so if you don't see yourself that way I hope you do soon if so that's amazing cuz I'm still working on myself 😁

[Topaz1979]

If you have low self confidence and self esteem you need to work on building those things and on increasing them otherwise you are going to be insecure, bitter, unhappy, and mean and jealous and those things are bad for relationships. I'm speaking from experience.

[7Phoenix7]

It would depend on how bad the self esteem issues are and how it affects your everyday life. Everyone has a little bit of confidence/self esteem issues sometimes.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It really depends. If you're one of those people who talks bad about themselves no matter what happens to them, no I will not be interested in dating you.
It will only lead to misunderstandings and arguments.

[Asker]

Well not like self hatred, but I’m not the super confident type, and there are times where I’m ashamed of my past. I’m a quiet, self reflective guy, not extroverted at all

[Ms_Facesitter]

It's okay to be introverted, but I would prefer a man who doesn't live in the past.

[Anonymous]

My first boyfriend was very insecure and had some serious issues, which led to him treating me horribly as I was also having issues with my self-esteem at the time. He managed to make me attempt suicide on several occasions from his abuse. So would I now? No, because I feel like that would happen to me again if I did.

[fonduegirl]

It depends. Do you get jealous of me having an attractive male friend because of your personal insecurities? Do you whine? Do you bother other people by cracking self depreciation jokes? If so, yes you're undateable.

[melanieeeB]

No, confidence is key but with just 19 it's normal that you're still trying to find yourself and are not that secure in yourself

[Anonymous]

Most people in general want to date someone confident. That doesn't mean you have to be prideful or full of yourself. It's more an attitude of acceptance of self and being comfortable with who you are without fear of judgement

[malwins]

This

[Smashingdoozy]

Depends on how severe. If it's so bad that they're constantly a downer then no I can't do that.

[Guy13]

Nope they would not. Unless they were trashed and horny…🤷🏻‍♂️

[Aphrodite801]

Well the fact you think that’s what all girls want makes me think you’re gonna be single for a while. And bitter

[Asker]

Not sure how you came to that conclusion. I’m says girls because I’m addressing the women in this site for their varying opinion, not generalizing…

[YollyM]

I wouldn't it's he'll in there 1/10, do not recommend personally

[dophix]

Unless he is emotionally and mentally stable. I don't like a man living in the past ☺️

[Agagagagaga]

So no guys who have been abused and are in therapy?

[KrakenAttackin]

It's tough to be confident at 19. Stay focused on your goals and confidence will come.

[Seriouslyitsnotjayy]

I for instance don’t mind 😇

[AssholeNumberOne]

Yeah. AND I'd help him with it.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes. I would.

[Missgingles]

Yes ofcorse:)