I've acquired some degree of social anxiety; I feel stressed when a cute girl comes too close in the bus, for example, to the point that I start getting stiff facial expressions and sweaty. You could say that I have a fear of attractive women, but for some reason, I feel perfectly fine talking to them if they begin the conversation; there's no way I can approach them on my own.
There's one thing that has been stressing me specifically , though. I don't want to sound narcissistic or anything - I'm not Brad Pitt, but I've never heard anything negative for my looks; opinions mostly range from 'cute' to 'very handsome'. Let's leave it at 'presentable'. At least, that's what others believe; I don't really know if I'm attractive. So, there are times when I will look at a girl outside politely, but she won't look at me like I'm the ugliest thing alive. This has been very apparent to me lately. and it's really sapping my psychology to sub-zero levels.
I know it's superficial, but it is making me sad. I want to meet girls and date like a normal person, but this low self-esteem is killing all my chances. Do you believe external attractiveness is closely related to inner feelings? What I mean is, could my internal low confidence be making me look unnatractive outside?
Thank you!
What I mean is, if you see a handsome guy outside who doesn't look confident (maybe he is looking down, has bad posture etc.), could your perception of him suddenly change to unnatractive?
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