How to show him I am working on myself and trying to be less insecure/needy?

[Anonymous]

I should first explain that I have been struggling with mental health problems for a few years now. I feel very insecure and have social anxiety, with panic attacks when I feel overwhelmed. I met this guy a while back and at first I could see he really liked me and I also liked him so we wanted to meet in real life. Then stuff happened in my private and work life and my mental health got worse and worse to the point where I was scared he didn't like me at all and was just playing with me. I had to cancel our meeting but I explained why, I told him about my struggles, and he seemed to understand. Still, because of my anxiety I thought he was never going to wait for me. And things just got worse and worse, I was very needy and very insecure. I didn't want to bother him or disappoint him but I think the fact I was worrying so much bothered him. My job was also making things worse, until a couple of months ago I decided to quit. It was just one decision but it changed a lot. I feel like I can see things clearly for the first time in years, and I am realizing my mistakes. I know my behavior made me look insecure and clingy. I want to change that. I want to be a better person. We decided to organize a new meeting, which made me very happy. But I can see things are not the same. He barely talks to me, even though he says he wants to meet. Is it possible for me to show him that I really do want to change? And how can I do that?

[Anonymous]

A couple months of “seeing clearly” has nothing on the literal years you’ve spent battling severe mental health issues. Since you two have had some space you probably feel like you’re a lot better, but what you’re dealing with takes some REAL time to heal at least to the extent that you are ready to date and be a girlfriend. Not a couple months. On top of that, you’re focused on the wrong things.
Getting back with him should not even be a priority for you right now no matter how good you’re feeling. Those bad traits will only rear their ugly head again, because it has not been long enough for deep change. If you two are meant to be, then once you’re further along in the healing process you will find each other romantically again. But not right now. He’s still got his guard up and you are putting too much confidence in your current frame of mind.

[dustybiker]

Martial arts classes help a great deal with this sort of thing. Take some time for yourself.

[FilmGuy93]

You could probably go a long way to showing him that you've gotten better by not making an effort to impress him lol

[Guy13]

Be who you are as that's all you can do.

[Anonymous]

Work on yourself and forget about him.

[Iron_Man]

Just be yourself he will find out