Girls, How to ask a girl on a date after “let’s try be friends”?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had a crush on my friend for the longest time and last year we both figured out how we felt about each other and it turns out she had the same feelings. We dated for a bit and then I moved away for work and we decided to be friends. I think it ended in a door half opened/half closed situation. I’m coming back soon and want to know if I should call or text her when asking her out on a date again. Texting might give her some time to think about everything seeing that we’ve had a strange relationship a few months ago, but I am the type of guy that likes doing things more personal. Should I text here and thus give her time to figure it out and not put her on the spot by calling her?

[PrettyPriya]

Okay, so first thing first, I don't like texts like that. Here are the reasons. One, you will text and then have to interpret what she writes back. Do you know how easily it is to misinterpret a text? Very. It is nearly impossible to determine someone's tone or reaction to a text message.

The second thing that can happen is if you don't get a response very quick. You will be likely pulling your hair out, wondering if she read it or not, thinking about what you said or blew you off, etc.

This is why I would ask her on the phone, at the very least. Key is to make it casual and not make it so "date-like" the first time. Just say something like "Hey, now that I am back in town, I would love to catch up. Any chance you'd like to meet for lunch or a coffee?".

Simple and sorted. Then, when you have her one on one in person you can start to feel out if there is still something there. You will be able to see how she reacts around you. I think that is the best way to go about it.

[MoniqueTLC]

Have you been chatting via text while you were away?

You can still call her, ask her out and say that she can think about it and send you a message with her response if you want to go that root? Do what feels right for you, if you're a caller, be a caller :)

[KaiidiraX]

Was the reason you decided to be friends based on moving away? If so then it isn't unreasonable to ask them out if you are back.

[Anonymous]

Don't text. Talk to her and tell her your feelings.