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You look very young for 35. That has to be an old pic. Other possibility is you've taken some trauma early in life and are projecting a young age. Either way, they are wrong, you look... normal. You could update your appearance if you wanted, maybe it's not important to you. Is your mbf in essence saying..."make changes to find a guy"... indirectly?
Go to a therapist (or study the issues on your own with videos/books) to figure out your mother and how to deal with her. I don't like what I hear her saying, mothers shouldn't say stuff like that. She may be a different personality extreme. She's a mother and you only have one. But you need to ensure your emotional health and one wonders how you responded to them when they said that. I bet you took it on the chin... emotionally.
No mother or boyfriend should say that... it's abusive. They don't know how to communicate with love (thus they are coming from another emotion... shame, pride, etc..). They are saying you should change your appearance, but it's wrong way. Maybe they were drunk?
They are wrong, question is how do you feel...
I'm not 30 I'm in my 20s
I actually didn't talk to her for 20 years becuase my dad and mother divorced but I stayed with my dad as I felt she was a bit crazy. So this summer she reached out after 20 years and of course me being too nice I gave her the chance to talk to her again. She seemed to talk to fine and she even commented about my looks and said I was stunning. Fast forward 2 months later I get a nasty email from her boyfriend who I've never seen in before in person just messages me a lot of abuse and says im gay looking.
I followed you can i message you?
yes go ahead.
I suspected what you just confirmed. you are good hearted person. There are people who are not, or hormonally or emotionally not good.
your profile said 30-35.
Well sweetie the problem is this:
The media has made the public accustomed to see a girl wearing makeup.
If a girl decides she wants to wear her hair naturally and go with as little makeup as possible, the average public will immediately have some negative opinion.
You got 2 options.
1. Stick up the middlefinger to whoever talks bad about u. Lets face it. NO MATTER what you do, some people will love you and some will hate you. Just don't worry about the ones that hate you. Cuz even when you manage to make 70% of people love you, the other 30% will say that you're just sucking up tot he 70%.
2. Pursue your insecurities (which are not true) and watch video's like this on how to use makeup.
For the record, I think you're beautiful.
Realise something. I didn't say that you are completely glammed up like those fake celebrity looks.
I said you are beautiful, because even without putting too much effort into your looks, you look quite nice. I'd date->marry you.
My biggest advice, stop worrying about what other people say about you.
Your dad did a great job letting you grow up focussing on the things that are really important, and not about "how to put on the perfect makeup" or "how to put on the perfect dress".
At the end of the day, when you take those off and your guy sees you, he'll not see the makeup/dress but he'll see YOU.
And YOU are beautiful.
I think middle parts aren't for you. Also you need to deal with the ends of your hair. Get a stylist to deal with all of that dry and bleached hair. There are some stress acnes on your chin. More positive thinking and and nice deep pore facial should help. Maybe 4x a year.
I know the 90s are back but that jean style is just the frumpiest.
Just ignore whoever is talking 💩
You are a pretty girl!
Is this you? Don’t pay attention to him or anyone else who talks shit about your looks or you in general! You know yourself more than anyone else. You are beautiful and be careful he might have hidden agenda! So do not ever fall for it. Also, don’t listen to your mom’s hurtful words. Hugs for you and be strong!
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I heard that women raised by their dads tend to be more masculine. If not in how they look in how they act BECAUSE the dad is mainly teaching the sort of stuff he knows about building a dude. On the flip side, a woman raised by a single mom tends to be more masculine BECAUSE she thinks she can't depend on men so she has to pick up the slack and be a dude in many ways. These women have 'masculine energy' that repulses straight men.. well men with options.
That said, you don't LOOK masculine to me.
You mother's boyfriend, i think he just "seen" ur mom's dark side... and now tries to Tease you to see if you "fall" for it! 🤷♂️
I mean if at the end of the day He is ur Mom's Boyfriend not Husband, so literaly he is free to leave her, at the short notice moment.
Unless you'r Mom fuked up his mind too and might have turned him "against" you, from hatred... But i think you shouldn't put it at heart, is not worh it!
As for the Looks, i think ur just normal, like any other teenager... 🤷♂️
Gay looking is not even a thing. Unless you have full on blue hair with sides shaved and dress funny which is clearly not the case.
Also your mom bashing on the work your dad did raising you when she walked out is just pathetic.
She had every chance to step up as a parent but didn't and now wants to give opinions on the one who did.
by the way is this paris behind you?
What is "gay looking" anyway?
I think you look like a beautiful young woman. You don't have a butch haircut. It looks feminine. And your clothes don't look butch. Just by looking at you, it wouldn't even occur to me that you were gay.
And femme lesbians look and act like heterosexual woman, so it's hard to tell if they are into women.
So why did that ass hat say you look gay?
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Gay looking.
There’s no such thing as gay-looking. It’s just a dang stereotype.
It’s a lot going on in this question. Might be worth the time to quit worrying about other peoples thoughts and address issues your face in your life on your own. Lol your stepdad doesn’t know or need to invoke his opinion on how you look whatsoever.
Sounds like your mother is jealous of you and her boyfriend is trash talking to get on her good side.
Cut contact. You look great and I don't think you look older than you are. But cutting contact with toxic people like your mother and her boyfriend will make you even more young looking.
Cutting stress will help you look vibrant.
Tell your mother since she wasn’t in your life for so many years. Not to come back into it now!
You look like an attractive woman. Don’t let what she said bother you.
20 years on she can't let go
I think you are extremely naturally attractive but don't appear to put a lot of effort into your looks. I think you need to put more effort into your self esteem first. It's understandable that you might have issues with that considering your family background. At some point we all need to get past the pain and on with life. I think your natural beauty will radiate when you cross that bridge.
do nothing, you aren't ageing badly, she is being a bitch to try and hurt you to make herself feel less shitty.
your call, but a few years ago, I started adding distance between myself and overly negative people and its been the most productive source of inner peace for me. I should add, I mean, deliberately negative/nasty people, many friends are battling with various depressions and I wouldn't ever cut those guys and girls out. hope this helps
Well you can suggest to him that he shove it and any other opinions he might have as far up his ass as he can reach. Tell him he should remain quiet and not say anything like that. Explain that when he's quiet people think he's stupid. When he opens his mouth people then know he's stupid
So you're between the ages of 30 and 35, you know you don't have to associate with them at all. Tell her that you no longer want anything to do with her because all she does is disrespect you. Fuck off and enjoy your boyfriend
Rip his clothes off and rape him!
Seriously though. Your mom is fucking bitter and is probably giving her boyfriend crap and he is reacting to that.
You should cut both out your life.
Well, it's impossible to know how he meant that or even what it means, but you look very attractive.
I don't even know the guy he used my mother messenger and sent me a message calling me a leach because my bother gave me a gift for my birthday
My mother said she wanted me to remove her name from my birth certificate becuase I choose to live live my dad after the divorce
You're not gay looking, but you could dress better for your age (you're 30-35, not 19) and smile more. Sounds like she's just a bad mother, though.
Bruv you look like you're in your late 20s so she can fuck off, tell him that's quite convenient you'll be the one fucking his mom for a change
Your mother and her boyfriend sound like they have their own problems. Anyone that tries to add to yours like this are plainly insecure themselves. Ignore it.
Lol, you look like a decent looking woman to me! I don't know if you're b. sing or not but your hair, clothing, your whole look actually seems quite feminine.
I don't even know what means gay looking. It looks like she has a lot of prejudices.
Did she said that to you or to your boyfriend?
My mother's boyfriend said it to me
It wasn't her it was her boyfriend my mother said I looked good
Her boyfriend sent me a message on Facebook using her account harrasing me calling me a leach even tho I didn't keep in contact with her after the divorce which was 20 years ago
Funny thing is I don't know the guy or seen him in real life. I don't even know what he looks like
They were both on holiday in Spain while they did it
Gay-looking is just a stereotype. No such thing.
@HippieVeganJewslim True
tell him he should know when he looks in the mirror. ask him where or how do you look gay? tell him to elaborate or shut up.
I’m guessing that’s you in the picture? I think you look beautiful and you shouldn’t let comments like that destroy your self worth. I get it, if it’s a parent compared to a stranger it hurts more. Be strong 🫂
That is the most bizarre thing a mother can say to her child. You are attractive, even tho in not into bleach hair. Maybe, possiblely your mother is jealous? Maybe she use to leech off your dad.
Thing is though she gifted a monetary gift for my birthday how is that being a leach. I haven't heard from her for 20 years until this summer
My dad paid for me and ian
I stayed with my dad and ignored her because she drinks and would cause drama as she can't stop talking bad about my dad
Well if somebody thinks you're gay then come have sex with me cuz it don't matter what they think if you're gay and fine if you're not then come have sex with me beautiful woman
Tell her that your boyfriend likes it. And if she has a problem with that, she can eat her heart out.
what? is it because you don't have makeup on? that's the only "reason" i can think of. and even that isn't a reason at all. cut them out of your life. you're fine.
I see plenty of girls not wearing makeup
If your Mom's boyfriend is such a specialist in ''gay'' things... then there must be a reason for his 'expertise' :D
Does he walk in a funny way?
No not at all. I don't know if you could judge a person by its looks and come the conclusion of being gay. Its ridiculous. Seems like a douche bag to me who have no respect for women
There's no conclusive proof that your advanced aging is due to poor parenting and it could in fact be due to any number of both physical or psychological reasons.
Do I look old
Is 32 old?
Shut the hell up
I would say get revenge and start dating another girl but you don’t have to go that far. It is bizarre that he has so much concern with his girlfriend’s adult daughter.
I have a boyfriend
Yeah I can’t imagine having the nerve to talk like that about a girlfriend’s child. He probably has no children of his own and is insecure that she had children before him so the only way to justify his ego is to just say that her children before him are hideous.
Don't get affected by his words. You look sexy and brilliant, not even gay looking!
Next time she does that, just say "Thanks!"
Tell her that you’re going to take him away and you’ll never see the grandkids moohahahaaa
she's trying to drive you away doesn’t want to cut the umbilical
You look very cute and far from gay looking, your mother's boyfriend has mental problems live with your dad cause he loves you the most.
That's such a weird thing for your mum's boyfriend to say. You look like a normal human female lol, wtf is his deal?
Whenever people make smirky comments like that, I just say “No need to self project”
Freaking ignore that Typ. If You really are happy, then no problem. You seem quite cheerful. You have a gay smile. Gay means happy. I love Your hair, mind You.
You know what you are, why worry about what others think?
Who's mom says shit like that? What a daft cunt. Don't listen to those asswipes.
I hadn’t spoken to my mother for years when she died and I made no effort to attend her funeral. Being pulled out of her crotch decades ago is not a lifetime license for a woman to treat someone like dirt.
ask her: "Does that mean you're going to hit on me?" Redirect the subtle remark back at her.
boy you really are dumb aren't you? he's using a stupid reverse psychological tactic on you to get you to suck his dick or to fuck him that's why he said that because he thinks by saying that it'll give him the chance to fuck you
if you want to get back at the perverted bastard tell your dad what's going on and what he said to you and have him beat the shit out of him
My mother gave a monetary gift for my birthday and then a few months later he uses my mums account and calls me a leach. I mean isn't accepting a gift the complete opposite of leach
Just stay away from the toxic psychos you'll be better off for your own sanity
Why are you listening to your mother's boyfriend? I'm sensing some bullshit here and it's probably gonna get deep..
He said I was a leach when I accepted her gift she wanted to give me. She wouldn't take no for an answer when I said I didn't want it
Well if anybody is worried about how you look you should probably partake in conversation
Roast them back... I'm sure he / she looks like a potato with eyes
Ask him if he has a sister you can get jiggy wit.
treat the opinion like trash - throw it away
Thank you I will do
What should you do? How about kick him in the balls?
Tell him to "fuck off". Who gives a shit what he thinks about your looks?
I would feel threatened by you if you were around my boyfriend! I think you look great!
I don't think so, maybe jealous on you.
You look attractive but simple way.
If he ever says that again, kick him in the balls.
Look at her like you don't give a single fuck. Then look at her son like you want to fuck him!
are may be you don't put out for him I see it a lot here in the UK.
What does that even mean? Anyway, ignore him and enjoy your life.
your boyfriend mom is lesbian and attracted to you , she said that to see your reaction
I don't think so. But your body looks way younger than your face.
What is wrong with my face
Read my opinion again
Don't listen to him, Your very Attractive so he is obviously wrong.
I don't even know why he would say that. Like a lesbian? They all look feminine
He probably wants you to be, I'd watch out
Big deal your mom Said you look gay Not the end of the world.
I don’t think you have aged badly at all. You look good.
Sounds to me you are stressed, No you don’t look gay.
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