Fellas, if you see the woman you like with another man how does it make you feel?

[Anonymous]

I’m sure it sounds immature, but I’ve been talking to this man for 4 months. We wanted to establish a friendship first but I’m to the point where I see something a little more. He said he does too but we don’t act on it. I want to be with him but at the same time if he’s not going to step up I have to keep my options open right? I could have a potential date this weekend but I kinda wanted to make it known to see how he would react. Bad idea? Like i said I’m sure it sounds immature I just want someone’s honest opinion.

[Death_To_Stress]

"... to see how he would react" isn't just immature, it's textbook manipulative. Good bet this isn't the first time you've played chess with people's emotions because of your own insecurities, either. He's probably experienced a few examples of it already himself and that's why he slowed it down with you.

Have you two already agreed to be exclusive? If not, then go out with guy #2 because you WANT to and don't say anything to the first one because it doesn't matter what he thinks, right?

Anything other than that is obvious, unnecessary bullshit any secure man with self-respect that's half awake will run from like a house fire. And should! Good luck.

[BJP21]

Dont try to Get a mans reaction because it may not end well. Id work on opening up to him and become exclusive...

[Changiis07]

You probably want a guy's opinion on this since you put fellas but you can always keep your options open regardless. I would not make it known nor pressure him into commitment to you. If he likes you and wants to make it exclusive he will as you out. I would not tell him you have a potential date otherwise it makes it seem like you are not interested in him. So you should low key date others until one steps up

[Asker]

He mentioned to me one day that he wants to be in my life and he would be sad if he missed the opportunity. He said if another guy stepped in he would be really upset but then he doesn’t either? Another thing prob important to mention is he has depression and he isolates himself sometimes so I don’t know what to think to be honest.

[Changiis07]

Well then maybe he isn't ready or he may need some time. When you are going through things depending on the person you can't give it your all unless you come out of the depression. So either be patient with him or go and have fun and date others in the meantime as friends. He does sound interested but only time will tell. You know that saying you can't love others until you love yourself

[Asker]

Thank you!!