I feel like I look pretty good and I'm nice but I don't get approached a lot by men face to face. I get dm's from men on Instagram but I know that in reality they wouldn't have approach me. And before someone comment "you need to look approachable, smile and etc. " I know girls with cold appearance always get approached if they are hot.
Hello, I can help you with this!
1- Sit alone and be 100% sure you look lonely!!!
Guys are cowards and if you are in a group almost nobody would want to approach you. Make sure there is space too so they could sit near you without bothering you.
2- Invite them!!!
Not by speaking or anything just look at their direction, a simple gaze could make a mans heart pump like a formula car if they have romanitc thoughts about you.
You can also smile towards their direction too!
Do not make yourself look busy people wouldn't want to bother you if you are studying or anything that is seen important.
3- Be at places where you'd find like minded people
As an example: If you are at a library reading a book they also have interest they would definelty want to talk about it with you. You could be reading a comic/manga anything!
4- Be aware of your surroundings
Last thing a guy would want would be being embarassed in public so in a crowded area there is even less chance for a shy person to approach.
Lastly keep in mind all of these also applies for people who would want to hurt you as well because you would seem like an easy prey.
Another thing is if you go to places like parties there is no filter people will approach you and people who approaches you despite any condition are more likely to be douches or someone who cares very less. DO NOT think this is 100% but a guy hitting on you in a crowded party with drinks probably just wants to have "fun" and doesn't care about you romantically as an example.
More and more guys are not approaching women because:
1. The fear of rejection
2. She's more than likely with her friends which makes the situation even riskier.
3. She doesn't appear to be very friendly or approachable
4. As some guys have already said in their responses, it has become more dangerous for men to approach because the woman can, and at times will, claim that she was sexually assaulted by you when in truth it wasn't the case at all. So more guys don't wanna risk putting themselves in that situation.
So just keep all of those reasons in mind when you're wondering why guys don't approach you as much. And if I may add some advice, how about you start approaching guys more often? Doesn't automatically mean they'll say yes, but guys will respect that deep in the back of their minds because most women would not dare to do so. Just throwing that out there.
You have to see if you're in enviroments where being approached is normal as many men luckily hold back in many situations
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Honestly, the only thing you can do is smile more, say “hi” to people, and just generally interact with the world more proactively. Men just don’t do a ton of approaching anymore, and most women don’t even particularly like being approached in person.
Approaching women face to face has become a hazardous endeavor for men so it doesn't happen as often in general. You may need to start doing some approaching yourself.
Let away the shyness.. you will get your turn..
You made a good point you want to go on dates in real life
Good luck 😊
You can be more approachable by making eye contact, and smiling. And don't be afraid to approach guys who you find attractive.
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