What is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I only like it when my boyfriend only flirts with me and I dont like him following many women on social media cuz I get jealous. I want to be called nice things by him. I get jealous when I dont get attention from him is this normal?

[MoniqueTLC]

This sounds like you may be insecure, and feel as though your relationship is under threat when he does those things? Do you have a lack of trust for him?

You should probably do some introspective work to really understand why you feel jealous as it could be from a past traumatic experience.

[Asker]

Well my sister always compares to pretty and popular girls when I was a younger. Like she would say that classmate of yours is the prettiest and famous in your group. She never compliments me. I got in to a university the same as my best friend yet she congratulated my best friend for being smart but didn't say a word to me of my achievements. Like she doesn't care about me. She would always makes fun of my skin how dry my skin in the face. That I look fat (Im chubby because I binge eat because of my anxiety. ) Always calls me names like stupid and I just dont feel good enough. Is that maybe reason why Im so insecure because of my experience?

[MoniqueTLC]

Oh girl x
Yes, what you've just explained is 100% why you feel the way you do towards other girls. You've been put down at such a young age you now don't feel worthy enough, and always think another girl is going to be better than you.

This is subconsciously always going to affect you until you work on it yourself. I can resonate with you because I had similar trauma that I went through in my childhood that I had to deal with.

[Asker]

How did you overcome it?
It sucks to feel always feel that like I knew something is wrong with me. So when Im looking for a date like I look for someone who compliments me, make me feel special and treats me like a queen that kind of affection I never got when I was a kid in my family I am looking that for someone to show it to me.

[MoniqueTLC]

DM me if you want to x

[Asker]

I can't pm you

[20yearsolder]

Yeah it's called insecurity. You need to work on it. Tough way to live your life. You have to trust your boyfriend, he chose you for a reason. Men like looking at women, you're never going to stop that.