My boyfriend never gave me any gifts. Am I wrong for expecting him to buy me stuff?

[Anonymous]

For context, we've been officially dating for almost 3 months now. He's currently unemployed but makes an ok amount of money playing in a band. He lives with his mom, doesn't pay any bills, so he's able to save a little bit. Sometimes when we go out I offer to pay for the entire thing because I have more money than he does and I don't mind paying things, but it would be nice if once in a while he could buy me some things, simple stuff, give me flowers or write letters. I love gifting other people and I've already given him a book, some shirts, CDs, etc and wrote two letters. Although he is a very loving person and reassures me everyday of his love, he doesn't seem to put any effort and it's starting to annoy me. Today I got to know that he purchased a not very cheap shirt for one of his band mates, and I still got nothing. Am I an asshole here for expecting gifts and little surprises?

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

I bought a few gifts for my "friend" for Christmas (Im jewish, so, you know that I was really tryina impress her), she was unemployed at the time too, so, while I may have been "being used", i really didn't mind. I like the attention she's giving me, while she's going through a divorce and custody battle.

You should NEVER expect gifts though. That's one of the things i hate about relationships. IS, ENTITLEMENT

[Adam1978]

No you should not expect any gifts in that situation or so early in a relationship. He needs a job so he can pay rent to his mother, or afford an apartment. Not waste what little he has on trinket for you who has your own income I assume.

[Bethany22]

Depends on what his love language is. Maybe he doesn't think that kind of thing is important. If it's important to you, you should tell him.

[AddylynnNightingale]

It's not unconditional love if you expect gifts. Maybe his love language towards you is something else.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't expect anything from him, just like he shouldn't expect anything from you.

[Anonymous]

i get mine expensive gifts and i don't even get a thank you from her