Am I a loser if I don’t have friends or hang out and never drinked before?

[736_switch_blade]

I feel like a guy sees that’s as a turnoff especially the ones who drink and party

[FunkyMonkee]

No, you're not. I'm like that, too. Even when I was in the band for those 25 years, I never really had any friends!! We'd go to band parties after the gigs and, most often, I'd sit alone in the room and just listen to the music being played on the stereo! Nobody would come talk to me, if I went to where a conversation was being held, it'd mostly be about shit I was interested in or just didn't know anything about! So, I'd just sit there and listen. If a conversation came around to something I knew about, it wouldn't stay on that topic for very long. I was always the quiet Beatle.

[tfan1]

Don’t feel that way. I don’t feel like a loser. When I was in school I was a loner because I chose not to cuss or smoke or do drugs or drink or have sex. Others tried to get me in trouble but they failed because the teachers knew how I was. I hated sports and I chose not to do that either. I still don’t know how but somehow I became varsity team manager. Only sports thing I ever did. So I didn’t have any friends and it didn’t bother me. There was also a big problem with me fitting in - I couldn’t tell the difference between when they were kidding, when they were serious or when they were sarcastic. Same thing happened to me when I was going to community college. It followed through with my jobs. I didn’t know how to get along with people so I started reading jokes and finding humor in everyone’s problems and making them laugh. But to this day I only have two real world friends - my wife and my 10 year old son.

[PetiteBabe64]

So you think having Healthy Organ Functioning is a Turn off what a society we live in
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[_Just_A_girl_]

💗No dare to be diff don't conform to world if you don't want to 💗

[Part2603]

Men absolutely do not think anything remotely the way women think along the terms of social status.

In fact women don't think the way women SAY they think about social status either.

If other girls are calling you a "loser" it's probably because just because they want you to conform to their party culture to make them feel better about themselves, and not because they actually feel you are lower in social status than they are.

[FilmGuy93]

Most guys will see that as a bit of a turn off, yes. I know that the first thing I’m wondering when I hear that is why? I think that you’ll basically be fine if you have a decent excuse, like you work odd hours or you’re new in town.

[FilmGuy93]

Not drinking is fine, not having friends is a problem.

[Danny_dan92]

Drinking is not what you think it is.


For one.




Two, you don’t need friends to be happy. Especially considering there are a lot of fake ass people. I would never wanna be friends with fake people all for the sake of “having friends”

[Summeroflove]

Nope. Maybe some people just don’t deserve you. It’s hard sometimes to find good people. Plenty of good people out there.


I understand why some become bitter and hate everyone. But then you become part of the problem.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

For starters you are not a loser. As for friends you have friends & you just haven’t realized it yet. As for not drinking that is a personal choice & that’s totally ok.

[Wubs3000]

Would rather have someone who doesn't hang out often and doesn't party over someone who parties a lot and doesn't have time for me. Its a balance of course but I don't think being more of a loner is a bad thing

[bigmatt98]

It’s doesn’t make you a loser to not drink. But if you feel like a loser because of a lack of friends you can easily make some :)

[HighValue]

The ones that drink alcohol and party are the losers. They will have many problems in life due to their own poor choices.

[Havthrills]

Not at all. I don't hang out with anyone and I don't drink anymore. It would be a turn off to the ones that drink and party cause they will always be out drinking and partying.

[spartan55]

The no drinking thing is not a big deal at all... having no friends? Ya red 🚩 flag.

[RebeccaBI2000]

No. I am selective of my friends. I only drink with people I trust

[WhiteBoyChill]

As long as you’re still living your life productively, I don’t see it that way.

And who cares what other people think.

Are you happy and content with your life or do you feel as though you need to make changes?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You are not a loser far from it, All guys who drink and party never get anywhere,

[exitseven]

you are not a loser. however your English is deplorable.

[ZenJen444]

Girl!!! Why do place so much value in what a man thinks? Learn to love yourself. Why is your self esteem so low? Like what happened?

[Iron_Man]

No of course not don’t be a drinker and don’t hang out with bad people

[Iron_Man]

Find good friends you can go on and do things just don’t drink a bunch of alcohol have a soda or water or fruit punch or a virgin piña colada. I might have one piña colada once a year

[Iron_Man]

Go out

[Iron_Man]

Try meeting people from church

[msc545]

Not drinking is good. Not having friends is not good. Whats up with that?

[Dreamclouds]

No you are not besides that drinking is very stupid.

[SiberFox]

Do you want a guy that drinks and parties?

[736_switch_blade]

I actually attract those guys

[SiberFox]

Ok, but do you want them?

[736_switch_blade]

Bah not really

[SiberFox]

Then why do you care what they think?

[Aphrodite801]

…. you are 24 asking this question.

[736_switch_blade]

Yes so what?

[Aphrodite801]

A grown woman asking such a dumb question? Like no one has taught you to not care about what other random people think before? Lol OK.

[Aphrodite801]

You’re either a catfish or your confidence is very low.