Why do people make you out to be a loser if you don't have any friends?

[Anonymous]

In my life making money & being low key is all that I need

As long as I bring in DOUGH & live drama free then it's allí good

People think less of me simply because I don't have friends as in people who are just there for chitter chatter & nothing else

I'd rather have PARTNERS than FRIENDS to help me make BIG DOUGH

[Katebfun]

I believe people are afraid of their vulnerability. Trust me you are not ALONE in this no friends game. I have a wide net of acquaintances and this whole COVID- 19 is putting a stall on developing those into friendships. Look I had 2 friends in the last city I used to live in, recently moved. One girlfriend turned out to be a "Friend-enemy" I called her out on something shady she did. My other friend who was also friends with the fake friend wasn't really on my side either and didn't think she did anything wrong. I eventually stooped texting the fake friend, she disappeared. The other friend I ended up blocking her and ending that friendship. She was toxic and not happy for my success.

Friends who support and are happy for your happiness is sometimes a rare thing. I was really close to the friend I ended up terminating, but her and I had grown apart and had separate interests. It's only natural to outgrow friends, you should! because that is proof that you are growing and expanding. Don't let anyone hold you back in life.

[SaraSmithishere]

Well, if you're on a forum like this one then you're probably an introvert. Unfortunately, if you're an introvert, and I know I am, too, you will be in the minority, and extroverts will simply think that there's something wrong with you because you're not like them.

I'm sort of the same way. I left high school a year and a half early to start an online business which actually became pretty profitable. My closest friends for a long time were people I met through my little online business. I have more friends now, but they are all coworkers so we have the same interestest.

I'm sure you'll find people you like someday.

[LoU_Hades]

People see a lot of friends as social status, but this isn't true. An extroverted person is usually much more successful in making friends, but these are opportunistic friends.
Kindest person in meet in last years has only her sister as very close friend, she doesn't like people who just talk with her if they need something. I'm different, I know I have to allow abuse me sometimes in small extent (like a home party with freed drinks) for the sake of sustaining of my shallow friendships. Sometime I get back what I invest but I don't really expect that. Friends aren't a surplus business, they are rather a hobby.

[Unit1]

"In my life making money & being low key is all that I need
As long as I bring in DOUGH & live drama free then it's allí good
I'd rather have PARTNERS than FRIENDS to help me make BIG DOUGH"

DUDE!!! You must be my younger brother, who I have never met!

Generally speaking people judge, hate, criticize, become jealous of or talk you down when your success blooms and becomes real. This has been proven to be universally true.
And you know why?
Because misery loves company.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

People often perceive people with no friends as unlikable since they assume that is the reason for the lack of friends. It's very uncommon for someone to not want any friends at all, so it probably boggles their mind.

I am the opposite, I do not want a partner, but I do want friends (though I do prefer to keep my circle pretty small). People honestly think I'm pretty weird for not wanting a relationship, and I've had people act like they're better than me because I'm single and they're not, and there's a surprising amount of people who think being single is always a negative thing. I guess they can't imagine willingly being alone and may even fear being alone, so they find it very strange when someone is okay with it or prefers it that way, and people tend to not like what they don't understand.

[Nades]

can u help me with figuring out a girl

[aWes0MeNeSs]

@Nades I'll try! What are you trying to figure out?

[Nades]

Well I need to know if this girl likes me and I want to know what’s going on in our interactions with eacother from a girls perspective

[Nades]

Basically I was wondering if I can dm u on gag tell u how I met this girl and the interactions I’ve had with her so u can help me gain a better understanding on wtf is actually going on haha

[aWes0MeNeSs]

@Nades Sure, you can PM me!

[Nades]

Alright I’ll follow

[SarahNiemann]

OMG! Well, I certainly see why you want to be anonymous. How sad for you! You might love your money, but I promise you, your money will NEVER love you back! Also, wealth, is so easily lost... even if through no fault of you. Recession, depression, technology replacing you, international financial collapse, ALL could wipe you out... But friends, friendship, children, the love of a woman who ARORES you! Those intangibles, are what make life actually great! When i volunteered at the hospital, i would sit with the dying elderly patients. They all had regrets. But not regrets for things they did, regrets for the things they did not do! They regret not traveling, or not asking a certain person on a date, or regret not saying yes to a person who did... NOT ONE, EVER regretted not making enough money, or not spending enough time at work, but they all regretted not spending enough time with family. And Sir. When your life is at an end... I am so sad for all the things YOU will regret!

[Mystic_Nova]

Because people who dont have friends are looked at as being antisocial and some may think that there is something wrong with them.

For me, I make a lot of friendly acquaintances, but I dont have friend friends.

My best friend is my twin sister and my olderbsoster is also a friend. I just haven't found person outside my family I connect real close with. But, I'm a friendly person and can make friendly acquaintances everywhere I go, so a lot of people have good things to say about me.

[not329446]

There are far too many people who think aquaintances are friends.

[MissRomantic]

It's one thing to not have friends because you lack the desire for them and didn't bother making effort for that reason. It's another thing to not have friends even though you want to and tried many times. Most people would assume for the latter case that people don't like you because they think you're a jerk or you're too weird. It's just an automatic thought most people have. They assume that everyone has the need for friends and desire to belong.

[Asker]

Most people are two faced, more selfish than even me,& only cater to you if you can offer them something in return

Most haters have taken advantage of my "loner" personality to start petty drama simply... BECAUSE

A few of my neighbors used to constantly babble about me to their other fake friends about me & ponder why I don't cater to THEM

I'm never going to let others in my life... even until my death

[Cherokeehp]

Cause it’s like a stereotype that only psychopaths, weirdos, and people with social issues have no friends. Having no friends makes you look suspicious. Like it makes me wonder what’s wrong with you? Why don’t people like you? Why don’t you like people?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

You're a loser because you're losing at life. You're so sure your right and yet you miss the essence of what makes life good. You can get a lot of it your way, but you can get much more by letting people into your life without the expectation of something in return except for good company.

[Sfffgygvnn]

Because humans are naturally social and most people love making social connections. Also, many people who don't have friends desperately want them, so they might mistake your total independence for social ineptitude that drives potential friends away.

[nelly83]

The same way why you think making more money makes you cooler , it really doesn’t. A rich asshole without a sense of humor , no compassion or ethics , no personality , no social skills, low IQ , can’t score a date is really not a cool person.

What makes someone cool is their personally And way of thinking and having fun or their knowledge that can intrigue others.

[StephenCF]

Many loners have proven themselves successful in what they’re passionate about, so I don’t buy that “loser” assumption crap! A person is a loser to me when he or she is obnoxious and fails at everything that actually matters. Friend-count never mattered to me for myself or anyone else

[Anonymous]

All you have is yourself be dependent it’s good to be like that. Don’t sell yourself short and don’t speak so low of yourself. You are who you think you are. People really don’t care about you. Only a few people matter and they care. Keep your money for yourself and give back sometimes. Some day you will have a wife or husband to be with and if you don’t decide to get married that’s okay. Some people are happy by themselves. Good for you I’m happy for you. Keep being you!

[Anonymous]

Humans are social creatures by and large. If you aren’t, then you’re an outlier and that’s fine, but social creatures will define success by your social circle. If people like you and want to be around you, then you’re doing well. If not, then you’re a loser, and doubly so because the primary reason social creatures seek wealth is for social acceptance, and you don’t have that even with the wealth.

[The6ix]

This picture will give you your answer. Drain out the naysayers and negative people who cares about them they don't pay your bills. Find one person to be with but I always remember your roots and remember to help others.

[Twinrova]

They start with the assumption that having friends is something everyone desires. If I assume you want friends, and I see you have none, I would infer that you are socially inept in some way.

[Dali-chan]

It’s honestly so easy to get friends, just go tell someone who’s out of your league that you’re in love with them, and they’ll tell you that you’re just a friend.

[Metlahaed]

How are you going to make big dough? That is the real question, I don't care if you have friends or not. And you shouldn't either, as long as you are happy.

[Truthatanycost]

Quite a lot of people that have friends, have no real ones...

[Anonymous]

Hey same

I don't have friends and I'm a very low key person but people bring me down all the time and not just because I don't have friends. I've even been called a ghost before lol
But I'm a hard worker with a really good accademic background and a plan. I feel depressed at times because of it but I don't want to give up. I'm no chicken.

[TheHonestBlock]

Because they've always felt verified by others and social validation is important to their own egos.

[Browneye57]

Evidently your social skills are lacking. That doesn't put you 'on top'.
Introverts are just as happy alone as they are with socializing, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't learn social skills.

[Thatsamazing]

Well honestly man I don't think most people DO do that. I think most people understand that lots of friends does not automatically equate with you being cool. People are overall more chill than that.